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Older Women Choosing Same-Sex Relationships

It is a growing trend among middle aged women; more and more these women are choosing same sex relationships and in many cases, discarding their traditional heterosexual marriages in the process.

Everyone, it seems, is talking about the growing trend among middle aged women, of seeking same sex partners. Oprah dealt with the topic of women leaving their husbands for women on her show recently ,but many of you may have already noticed this trend , or know someone in this situation.

When you think about same sex relations you think of one choosing a relationship with a same sex partner because they have always been gay. However, it seems like more and more women, who have been in heterosexual relations for many years, often with older children, are increasingly making the choice to move to a same sex partner.

One could make a whole lot of assumptions about this trend.  Since the movement is fairly new and have not yet been studied by the experts, all we have right now are assumptions. These assumptions run the gamut from suppressed life long desires, to sheer boredom. But only the women knows for sure and she may tell you that she is in love for the first time.

One assumption is that the women who are now making these choices may be suffering from a type of middle aged crises often associated with men, where they simply want to try something, or someone new, regardless of sexual orientation. They are bored with their traditional marriage or no longer feel that they are in love with their partner.

Older women choosing same sex relations may have endured a loveless marriage, an abusive marriage or have just grown apart in the last number of years. Children have all grown up, moved out and on, or are old enough to understand the changes about to take place and  all that is left is a partner whom they may not be able to tolerate any longer.  Along comes a new person, new adventure and they are free, excited and liberated enough to try anything.

Another scenario is the woman who may have been gay all her life. Being openly gay, however, was never an option. Whether for religious reasons, family pressures to marry and raise a family or feelings of guilt  for having thoughts about an alternative lifestyle, a heterosexual relationship was the only logical choice, that is, until now.

Then there is the “why not” class of women. These women may have had either good or bad heterosexual relationships and do not consider themselves gay. In fact they have never imagined that they would, or could, ever be in such a relationship and may even have spoken out against it.

However, they are beginning to look at the possibility, having met someone who they like very much and who happens to be the same sex. This person has qualities that attract them in ways they never imagined and they begin to think that maybe, just maybe this could work.

As society becomes more accepting of same sex relationships, one should not be surprised at the trend which shows middle aged women, opting for same sex relationships.  The consequences of any break up are the same for those involved, regardless of the sex of the third party. Today women have attained a certain degree of equality with their male counterparts and are increasingly asking the question, why not?

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