Putting the Va Voom Back in Your Bedroom

Like many of you reading this, you work 9-5 and you’re tired.  You have bills to pay, kids to raise and a household to run.  I know I do.  That would make anyone of us tired, however that doesn’t mean that we should let the love dwindle out of our relationships.  I myself have been guilty of letting it pass me by.  I am completley in love with my husband, however there have been months that have gone by without us making love.  Why?  I don’t know, I can’t really answer that question.  I guess it’s just like anything, you get into a routine and our routine was not having sex.  Neither of us minded (or so he said) so it just went on like that.  WHAT WAS I THINKING?  There is nothing more important in a marriage than the feeling of want.  You want to feel wanted, that you’re worth it, that you matter.  That goes for both partners.  Men want to know that you love them, they want to feel appreciated and longed for.  We as women, want to know that our man still finds us sexy, even with zit cream, our hair in a pony tail and sweatpants on.  That feeling of want is so special to us.  To know that you are wanted, that he finds you so irresistable that he can’t wait to come home to you.  The feeling of knowing he doesn’t want to be with anyone else but you?  What a turn on!

Now, there is that crazy thing called life.  It gets nuts sometimes and we run ourselves until we drop.  We run our kids to soccer practices, ballet, football.  Not to mention our jobs, cooking, traffic etc.  There are going to be times when you want to hang the love in the back of your closet, but trust me bring it back to the front, it never goes out of style! 

It doesn’t take much to rejuvinate your love life.  Here are a few tips to getting the va va voom back into your bedroom (it’s worked for me).

A little kiss here and there.  A touch, a look, a note in his lunch.  All good openers.

Get a babysitter for the kids and take him out to dinner.  Share a nice bottle of wine, talk about your days and while you’re waiting for your meal to arrive, play footsie. 

Offer to give a massage.  It doesn’t have to be a long drawn out one, just a little rub down and trust me, that gets the juices flowing.

If you have trouble getting in the mood (yes it happens to the best of us), do something before hand to help the situation.  Have a glass of wine before he gets home, put on some nice easy listening music and think of how much you love that person. 

Leave a note in his car telling him how much you’re looking forward to him coming home.  That always does the trick.  Knowing you’re waiting for him at home makes him crazy and he’ll be home faster than the day before, trust me!

Never underestimate the power of a text.  Most women can’t bring themselves to talk dirty, however most men love it when you do.  Use this new technology to your advantage.  You can say things to him that you can’t bring yourself to say in person and believe me, that night the love will be fantastic!  You don’t have to feel embarrased about saying it out loud, say it in a text.

Words of appreciation do the trick as well.  Men need to know that they’re needed, that they’re big, strong and sexy.  There’s nothing sexier than a man doing work around the house (or on a jobsite).  Men in jeans, work boots, a tool belt on.  Come on ladies, you know it’s true.  So, next time he’s working around the house, say something like “you look sexy fixing that sink.”  He’ll feel appreciated and most likely turned on.

I hope these tips have been helpful.  These little subtle changes in your attitude and actions will do wonders.  You don’t have to make a hug production out of love, if done right it just comes naturally.

Enjoy.