Secrets of Sexcess

While there a multiple ways to tackle this task, I strongly recommend the direct approach: ask him. Ask him what his sexual fantasies are. Ask him about his previous sexual experiences; you’ll want to know what he likes as well as what he doesn’t like.

If you are uncomfortable asking him outright, you could try a role-playing game where you play either an executive or a market researcher interviewing him about his sexual experiences, fantasies, preferences and inhibitions (hopefully he won’t have too many of these.) You could dress up in a skirt suit, stilettos and crotchless panties. Of course you’ll want to cross and uncross your legs multiple times during your, um, interview.

After you’ve gathered as much firsthand data as you can, you’ll need do a little detective work. Check his pockets, his wallet and his papers for indications of his sexual preferences. What you’re looking for here is business cards, fliers, invitations, phone numbers, matchbooks…anything that might contain some information about what he finds pleasurable and/or sexy. Carefully analyze the clues you come across. Does he frequent a bar? Has he patronized gentlemen’s clubs? Has he visited an adult toy store?

Your due diligence will pay big dividends when your man shows you over again how much he appreciates your taking the time to find out what pleases him.

Creating A Mood

Great sex is all about creating a mood.

The hardest part of creating a mood is deciding what kind of mood you want to create. The possibilities are endless.

You could transform your boudoir into an exotic hideaway by burning incense and draping sheer, sensual fabric around your bed. You could light candles around your bed and bathtub à la “She’s Gotta Have It.” You could setup a sexy scavenger hunt that leads to a most delectable treasure: you!

Use the combination of your knowledge of his fantasies, preferences and desires and your own creativity to create a powerfully sensual and seductive mood.

Exciting His Senses

Great sex is a multi-sensory experience. Each and every one of your man’s five senses should be stimulated, titillated and tantalized.

Prepare a treat for each of his five senses: wear an eye-popping outfit; play his favorite sexy songs; apply some enticing perfume; hand-feed him strawberries dipped in chocolate; massage him from head to toe with warm aromatic oil.

Foreplay

Once you’ve got him all warm and tingly from your sensual massage, it’s time to begin foreplay.

Tempt him with playful nips, soulful kisses and gentle caresses. The point of foreplay is to whet his appetite for the big event: making love.

Explore his entire body, and delight in finding his unique erogenous zones. Treat his entire body as if it is a single unified sex organ…because it is.

Don’t forget to whisper naughty nothings into his ear!

The Big Event

Though I’m sure you will find plenty of other things to do with yourselves, making love is the no-holds-barred main event in the sexual arena.

This is where your multi-tasking skills will truly come in handy. The most masterful lady lovers are able to skillfully combine sexy talk, with kissing, caressing and wildly sexy pelvic motions to take their man to ecstasy multiple times per night.

When you make love to a man, you want him to feel sensations he has never felt with any woman; you want him to feel your signature sensations. This is where all of those Kegels exercises and work with Ben Wa balls will really come in handy.

Don’t be shy about showing off the strength of your pelvic and vaginal muscles. Men can’t get enough of a woman who can squeeze them in all the right places.

Afterplay

After intercourse (and whatever else you do when you’re feeling frisky), the culminating act might be over but the erotic experience is still underway. During this time of after play, you’ll want to talk, kiss, hold each other and just enjoy basking in the glow of your deliciously satisfying lovemaking.

Show Appreciation

Just as you wouldn’t dream of failing to send a thank you note when someone gives you a gift you appreciate, you shouldn’t dream of failing to show your gratitude toward a man who has given you pleasure beyond measure. Tell him how wonderful he was over and over again. Men love being told they do something well-especially that-and they love the women who take the initiative to tell them.

If you follow my advice and use the secrets as a guide, you can look forward to a lifetime of sexcess.