Sex

Gender Differences

The primary difference between males and females  is that males have much more visual imagery and a focus on the anatomic details of the female.  Whereas females tend to focus on emotions and affection.  The most predominant fantasies for both male and female are memories of past sexual experiences and sex with a different partner.  Next down the fantasy list is oral and forced sex..  In one study in England, men were less likely than women to engage in sex fantasies with famous people.    Sexual satisfaction for women has been shown to be directly related to their sexual intimacy, however, the ability to achieve orgasm is of primary importance to females as well as males.

The primary difference between men and women is that women do not have a refractory period after sex.  The refractory period for men varies with age but can last up to a few hours.  In a sense the male is impotent during the refractory phase. Reference

The after sex glow for women may be feelings of completion, but for men it is a very real physical feeling of depletion.  This should not be all that surprising since the male orgasm is directly related to ejaculation of semen.  The actual amount of semen accumulation is a result of the amount of time that has passed since the last ejaculation.  In other words, it builds up in males sexual plumbing system.   Recovery from the refractory period is somewhat age related (younger men recover faster), but this is not a universal condition.

There is no simple way to describe the male or female physical sensations associated with an orgasm.  It would be like trying to describe the thrill associated with a roller coaster ride or the rush sensation one sometimes experiences smoking marijuana.  

Sexual Dysfunction

Female sexual dysfunction is nothing more than a myth.  For women, sex by way of intercourse may have many emotional benefits, but it rarely results in an orgasm because the physical part requiring stimulation (the clitoris) is not directly stimulated by sexual intercourse.  Attempting to define sexual dysfunction as not having a desire for sex is silly at best.  If a woman does not desire sex with an abusive partner is that a dysfunction?

Stimulate the clitoris, and the female will have an orgasm.  This requires a lot of pre-sex talk between partners and can actually become part of the entire foreplay associated with potent sex.  If a woman is not enjoying sex it is most likely due to an incompetent male partner who lack knowledge of the female anatomy.  The pleasure button of the female is easy to find and the journey to it is half the fun of sex.

Unlike the female, males can actually have a sexual dysfunction due to such problems as impotency which is an inability to maintain an erection (Reference).   There are a wide variety of factors that might cause impotency, but if an erection is experience during sleep, the cause of the impotency is more likely mental than physical.

Conclusion

Sex does have a dangerous side in that it is an avenue to contracting disease.  Using condoms will reduce the risk of getting venereal disease but it is not 100 percent effective.  Know your partner and know his or her anatomy.  The road to a healthy and vibrant sex life begins with information.