Sex Addiction? No Way!
by Sexual addiction is not allowed socially, morally & divinely…
I was reading an abstract on ‘Sexual Addiction.’ Later I studied on this subject more thoroughly. There were few striking features I derived from it, which I think we all should be aware of it. This will either help us if we are one of the addicts or we can help somebody close to us who is an addict. I would love to share with you all these points one by one as follows:
THREE things that determine whether a person has sexual addiction or not:
1. Compulsivity: any loss of the ability to choose freely whether to abstain or to continue certain activity.
2. Continuity: Continuation of a behavior even if there are adverse consequences, like, health loss, job problems, marital problems etc.
3. Obsession: Obsession for an activity (which is not socially acceptable).
After that I learnt the adverse effects of sexual addiction, which are frightening and deadly. Those are as follows:
A. Destroys Marriage & Family Relationship
1. There is decrease of sexual interest of the addict with his/her own spouse.
2. The addiction increases depression level high of the addicted person.
3. The addict loses its respect & importance of the spouse and children.
4. It brings shame and guilt of cheating and adultery to the addict & his/her family.
5. There is mental or physical separation with his/her spouse.
6. In some cases it even goes to the level of ‘Divorce.’
B. Deterioration in the job performance
1. The addict neglects his/her official or business responsibility.
2. His/her performance decreases.
3. He/she loses his/her importance & respect of the boss, colleagues, and subordinates.
4. Ultimately he/she may lose the job.
C. Dangerous exposures to sexual & mental diseases
1. The addict may contract AIDS & other sexual diseases.
2. The addict may transfer these diseases to his/her spouses.
3. The addict may suffer from severe depression, frustration and ultimately nervous breakdown because of the addiction he/she indulges in.
Friends! Sexuality is a gift of God that has been given to the married couples to enjoy it within the boundary of marriage. When we go against this rule we commit sin against God, against the person with whom we are involved, against our spouse and against our own body which is united to only one person. Then we suffer. The consequence is brutal & lethal.
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Post CommentJenny Heart
On January 21, 2009 at 6:57 pm
This is one powerful article. It full of information to help you become a healthier individual. Great work!
Dr Shalini Kapoor Kad
On January 22, 2009 at 8:28 am
The article is quiet informative and well drafted indeed.
To add on one can too read the following
http://www.healthmad.com/Addiction/Addicted-to-a-Pleasure-Called-Sex.408445
Nomore
On January 24, 2009 at 1:29 pm
All so right but you need to talk of how the addictions starts and how to control it. I lived with it my entire life and now in my fifties I have a control over it!! It started when I got into sex at a young age at 12 and I was having sex up to three times a day. Some days with up to three different girls aday. I never found happiness and even thought of suicide many times. I also ened up on drugs and alcohol for a time in my life. The cost was astronomical– my wife and daughter, my business and my home! People have to control this if you ever want to find happiness.
M-
On April 25, 2009 at 5:41 pm
I would like to alert other christians about the deceptive way that sexual immorality begins. I had too much time on my hands while my spouse was busy working. I started chatting online-being curious about the world. I wanted to chat with people from around the world. Pretty soon, the flattering comments started, perking up my interest even more. It took less than 1 month before i was taking my clothes off online with all the attention and flattering comments i received (you are soooooooooo sexy…) The desire to see my effect on men was overpowering and gratifying. I acted in a sexual way 7 times total with 4 different men, but flaunted my appearance with many more. I stopped 10/7. but am sick that I gave away what belonged only to my husband. I thank God I stopped. Listen to the group Casting Crowns and their song “It’s a Slow Thing”