Sex – Love, Pleasure or Both?

Sex – Love, Pleasure or both?

The most talked about, written on, debated over, attention grasping topic in the world. Half the reason you’re reading this now is because your eye latched onto the title of this article as you were scanning down the page. What is it about this word that has caught the attention of man since time immemorial and hasn’t let go since?

Is this just an ‘act’ between two people or is there more to it than we thought we knew? The world calls it ‘making love’. Is ‘sex’ just another synonym for ‘love’ or is there a difference? If you have asked yourself this question atleast once in your life – Welcome. You belong to a budding community of about 6 billion people who have asked or are asking the same question.

Looking for ‘love’ in the wrong places

I once read a story of a young woman who had a troubled childhood. She grew up in an abusive household with an unaffectionate mother and a deranged father. She was never given any attention and always treated as a ‘liability’. While she was not particularly fond of her mother, she adored her father despite his drunken tantrums and pined for his attention – something he never gave her. But despite those circumstances, her parents took care of her, raised her, sent her to school and supported her until she left home to live on her own. She got into college and hooked up with the first guy who showed some interest in her. They dated for a few months and she got pregnant. Mr. Perfect disappeared from the scene. Knowing she could not support the baby she aborted it – an act that traumatized her and made her swear she wouldn’t get pregnant again. And from the time she graduated from college to her fifth or sixth job, she found herself constantly attracted to men who promised to ‘show her a good time’, waking up in strange beds, feeling like the loneliest person on the planet. Finally, well into her late 30s, she married a man who truly loved her and took care of her. But by now, she was so scarred, used and abused by men her whole life, that she could not reciprocate her husband’s love. Years later, after she had become a Christian, someone asked her, what she was looking for all those years. She replied “I was looking for Love”.