Sex: Sensual or Otherwise?

It seems that “ohms’” and “umps” are not just enough expression when it comes to sex. Sometimes, both man and woman wonder if their partners showed fake orgasm or were it for real during love making.

I am not the person expert on sexuality but a friend of mine, married and sexually active (with spouse, of course) asked me once what is important in love making. Lost for words to say, I put it on writing instead.

I, myself, wasn’t born yesterday and am also aware of the many artistry lovers were trying to sample for many years. Well, there’s nothing wrong about it. I find myself wondering about it, too.

Needless to say, I am clicking the keyboards cracking my head to come up with some decent phrases to complete this intimate topic. With the hope that the Moderator will not find it offensive or obscene, much more nasty.

It is not to earn money but to get insights of the growing curiosity in me that have been aroused by such question. I believe some of us here have the same issue, one way or another, about sexuality.

In my own opinion, I can only think of two ways of doing sex: one is sensual and the other is hardcore.

Sensual starts with a gentle stimulation, either mentally or physically. Every intimate relationship must start, of course, from attraction with the opposite sex. Attraction originates from what the eyes see which is the physical attributes. It is often characterized by big round boobs showing tempting cleavage, pretty face, smooth skin, nice butt and shapely legs, and anything pleasant to the eye. It is further stimulated by knowing the person a little deeper where mental stimulation comes in. If you are intellectually compatible with each or what you call the meeting of the minds there is a chance that you’ll hit it off right there and then.

Emotional individuals who take sex as making love would probably prefer the sensual type. What is sensual in the first place?  As I’ve mentioned earlier, it is in a way of gentle touching and caressing. It is done not in a forceful or even painful manner and is more evident during foreplay.

Sweet gentle kisses, soft caresses accompanied by lovingly spoken words are part of the play. An amorous lover would surely do this towards his/her partner. Even if the lovemaking is intensely passionate there is always that conscious effort to feel the partner rather than hear the partner. It is concentrated on the act of making love, thus, assuring a blissful delight to both giver and receiver.