Sex Talk Part 4: The Difference Between Making Love and Having Sex

On the surface, both phrases may refer to the same event and conclude with the same result – an orgasm, but alas, there is a difference between these two forms of sexual activity.  This article will address the differences in no particular order.

Making Love 

 Notice that the word “love” is included in this terminology, therefore putting a spin on the act that promotes a more romantic and passionate experience.  This is the time when you create an erotic ambiance, including candlelight, soft music, and perhaps some lingerie, basically setting the mood, looking to prolong the whole experience.  When “making love” there is genuine love between both parties which is expressed through passionate kissing, petting, and long, drawn-out foreplay.  It’s when two people appreciate what they have before them, taking the time to enjoy every heart-pounding, blood-flowing inch of each other and not rushing into intercourse.  It’s the time when savoring every moment is the key.  Eventually when all senses have been heightened and arousal is at its peak, then and only then is it time to lie together on the cool sheets of the soft bed, joining as one, slowly and methodically moving together at an equal pace until both have achieved orgasm, and, when all is said and done, the two people snuggle together warming themselves with each other’s body heat, slowly drifting into sleep, content and satisfied.

Having Sex

Well doesn’t that just sound peachy?  “Hey honey…let’s have some sex.”  Typically, this request can be heard frequently when two people have been married a long…long…long…time.  The act itself will usually occur when there is nothing better to do, you’re bored, or when you want to kill a few minutes…like waiting for dinner to heat up in the microwave.  It doesn’t matter where you do it…just make sure to time it right.  There’s no time for foreplay, because the game starts in twenty minutes.  Sometimes there’s more physical activity when you’re done as you and your partner fight over the remote control.  Nope, the precursor to having sex is both partners getting naked followed by statements like, “You’re not even hard,” or “Did you take a shower?”  Deciding on what position is a crap shoot and generally seems to be the one that’s easiest to get in and out of.  Once both parties are ready, it’s a frantic race to see who can get done first.  The rhythm is all off, it’s too hard, it’s too fast, and there are usually interruptions involving the need to find the right spot and re-insert.  When it’s finally reached its conclusion and hopefully both have achieved orgasm, it’s another race to get dressed, get something to eat, and get the best side of the couch.

Which category does your current situation fall within?