The single greatest mystery about the human species is the missing component of common knowledge regarding females and orgasm.  How is it possible that the physical mechanism for the female orgasm, the clitoris , remains such a mystery to the general public?  If you were to ask any female over the age of 12, “what physical part of the male generates an orgasm”, there would be few who could not answer: “the penis”.  And yet this same question, when asked of men, about the female anatomy generates a sort of mild confusion and blank stare.  And the most astounding aspect of this is that males in general do not know that sexual intercourse for ‘most women’ simply does not generate an orgasm.  You would think that those who do know about this mystery would begin to question the ridiculous movie scenes of sexual intercourse that result in earth shaking climaxes for both the male and female.  If the clitoris is not stimulated there is no orgasm:  it is that simple.  Females who demonstrate a climax during sexual intercourse without stimulation of the clitoris should get a Hollywood Award for acting.  The clitoris is to the female what the penis is to a male.  Now the question is: why do women engage in sexual intercourse if there is not likely to be an orgasm?  There are four primary reasons: 1. job related as in prostitution  2. required for pregnancy 3. desire to be desirable 4. enjoyment of the physical contact.  Would males engage in sexual intercourse if there were no ‘orgasm’?  Anyone who answers ‘yes’ to this question is suffering from extreme naivety. Our species could not exist if nature did not provide a monumental reason for males to chase after sexual intercourse. 

It wasn’t until 1559 that the clitoris was actually discovered as an anatomical structure by Realdo Colombo . However, one might suspect that it was only males who lacked anatomical knowledge of the Amor Veneris . Other than Western culture, even the most primitive groups were well aware of this structure, and in true male fashion, the structure was consider a threat to male power and therefore something to be removed.  Religion around the world was largely responsible for maintaining the secrecy of this very tiny bit of female anatomy.  The reason was simple enough: insure that females had no sense of independent power.  Unfortunately, even in the modern world, women are very willing to relinquish their power simply to attract the cave man of their dreams whom they will divorce if they ever wake up.

It would be easy to rant on about the stupidity of all of this.  But what would be the point?  Except for the ditsy teenager, it is doubtful that any female reading this article would actually need to be advised about any of this.  The purpose of this article is to get males to understand that their bedroom behavior may need some readjustment, especially if their love life seems to be feeling a tad mechanical.  This must start with honest conversation between the male and female as to what would constitute sexual gratification for both of them.  The one thing the male must keep in mind is that the clitoris must be stimulated in order for the woman to achieve a climax;  and there are a variety of ways to accomplish this.  The best and most effective method is oral sex such as the Venus butterfly method.

Civilizations since the beginning of time have insisted on ritualizing sexual activity and in our modern world have decided what is appropriate sex.  Therefore, many males and females have been raised with a lot of inhibitions regarding their own sexual expression.  This is especially true regarding oral sex.  You may have to conquer a few mountains of superstition and myth before proceeding with sexual creativity:  there is no such thing as inappropriate sex between consenting adults.