Sexy Seniors

The amount of disinformation, and myth regarding sex and human sexuality is exceeded only by the deluge of repressive indoctrination that is largely responsible for our personal attitudes regarding sexual expression. Coupled with a waning zest for life, is it any wonder that seniors find themselves at odds with a changing world? One of the things we are taught by society is ‘how to act old’: and that is the killer for any kind of personal adventure. For most seniors (myself included, I am 65) the pressure to conform to geriatric life style standards provided by friends, family and the media can seem impossible to resist. But resist we must, else we slip into a black abyss of feelings of loneliness, apathy and dismal expectations.

Where to Start

If you desire more adventure in your life and would like to test the waters for developing an intimate relationship, then you must first shed those attitudes that keep you from meeting people and behaviors that put people off. Seniors actually have more opportunity than younger people to meet new people (senior centers are a great place to start searching) simply because they have more time for social interaction. If you find yourself alone and wishing you were not, then first take a look at what behaviors put off the opposite sex. Are you loud, overbearing, or socially retarded? Males leading with their libido are likely to find cold shoulders, rather than warm embraces. And women who talk only about their grandchildren and their latest illness, are likely to find themselves only in the company of other women.

Once you have rid your self of turnoff behaviors and attitudes, the next step is developing some socially appropriate behaviors that actually attract people. Regardless of age, politeness, courtesy, cheerfulness and a sense of humor will always attract others. If you are really serious about meeting new people, then you also need to be prepared to be entertaining. Having a storehouse of socially appropriate jokes or interestingstories is one way of keeping conversation in motion. Be very careful about the appropriateness of the joke or story: men seem to have more difficulty with this than women. Also, keep your convictions about religion or politics tucked away, out of sight, and buried. Last but not least on the preparation list for meeting new people is personal hygiene. A well kept appearance, fresh breath (dentures should be monitored every few hours) and cleanliness are always attractive and highly noticeable.