The Fear

I would like to discuss a topic that I feel stays in the closet for a lot of people.  Women especially.  The first thing that I would like to say is to all the ladies who are afraid of the full sexual experience.  I have heard the stories of women who feel better making love to their sexual partners with the lights off because they feel as though they need to express the insecurity of their body.  I would like to point out that many men are not pigs, and that they love a woman for her mind, her soul, and her talents, so I urge you to look at your partner and love their non-physical attributes, to see if those things make your significant other hot to you because if so, chances are that if your significant other is no playboy pinup he or she does not expect you to be either.  Another fear some ladies may have, is that during the sexual experience she may try to stop you because she has felt that her peak of pleasure has been reached.  I would like all of you gentlemen to know that there is nothing that you did wrong.  It is simply because some ladies last longer than others and some climax after a few minutes. 

To all ladies that are bored with your sex life don’t always leave it up to your significant other to spice things up!  Pick out a toy or a video that you both like.  Cook an exotic meal, or dress in costume and role play.  Perhaps to heat up the kitchen you may want to try new positions in new place.  Also, this is for all of the fellas!  Don’t expect that there are things she must do to you that you will not do to her!  If you think a certain body part is gross chances are she does too.  Play the game and do things to please each other.  The more sexual love making that involves mutual pleasure, the more likely she is to feel overjoyed and satisfied and do what you would like if she is happy.  Exotic dancing is another topic I would like to bring up too because some are dead set against it because it is a demoralizing form of cheating, and others feel that seeing a fantasy woman or man that one will never have the time of day with anyway will intensify the pleasure of sex and heighten the urge to make love longer.  If your significant other goes to the strip club for a birthday with his or her friends, or has one last night of being shamelessly flirty because he or she is about to be married I see no problem with it!  Most men and women view their lover ten times as alluring and have the best love making experience because the fantasy of another does not become a reality until the lover takes the place of the man or woman from the fantasy and the real sexual experience is better.