The Ultimate How to Have Sex When You are a Virgin 3

One thing that really bothered me about being a chronic virgin, was the fact that none of my friends would shut up about the fact that they were ‘doing it’ and I wasn’t. Talk about having it rubbed in your face… or not as the case may be! So I decided to do a bit of research on the subject that I was so obviously missing out on, so that the next time my friends decided to yammer on and on about ‘it’ I would know exactly what they were talking about… well, almost!

It’s not that I didn’t get plenty of opportunity to ‘pop’ my cherry- I was always getting offers from my very gracious male friends- yeah, right! and whenever I went out with my girlfriends, I was never short of admirers, I think it was just because I had waited so long that now it seemed like the ultimate hurdle- and it scared the hell out of me!

That is the biggest problem about wanting to loose your virginity, you build it up in your mind and it becomes this huge thing that kind of takes over your life, and in the end all you can think about is loosing it- and you have never even experienced IT!

So what can you do? Short of just jumping into bed with any man that shoots a twinkling smile at you, there are ways to get some practise in without having to cross that bridge- so if you are not ready, or you are waiting for the perfect guy, or girl, then here are some tips so you can get over your fears, so when it comes down to it, you don’t run for the hills screaming when he whips his pants down!

• Don’t believe everything that your friends tell you- that is one of the biggest mistakes that I made, I listened to my girlfriends so intently that I decided that their words were that of God- and they really aren’t! Sex is different for everyone, it is unique and special and, yes things can go wrong, but it is all part of the experience! And you will have something to laugh about over drinks the next time you go out!
• It’s not like in the movies- sorry, but it definitely isn’t! Movies make it into some big, romantic and glamorous thing, but anybody who has done it will tell you that it is far from glamorous- it can be messy, sweaty, noisy and exhausting…. but it is worth it in the end!
• It is NOT a big deal- contary to popular belief, being a virgin really isn’t a big deal to people anymore. You might be scared because you think that the guy or girl that you sleep with for the first time will laugh at you for being a virgin, but this is simply not true- being a virgin rocks!
• The first time is not the BEST time- this is not true for all people, but mostly the first time will be awkward and a fumble- but once you have done it then you will be so relieved, and you will want to do it again just to get in the practise of course!
• Doing it in the back seat of the car is NOT romantic- gear stick, cramp in the leg, cops looking in the window- enough said!

Hopefully this had helped you to realise that you really don’t need to be worried about doing it for the first time, or about being a virgin- be proud, be safe and have fun!