The World’s Greatest Aphrodisiac

The primary way that most aphrodisiacs work is via the placebo effect. The mind has an enormous impact upon arousal and sexual desire. The aphrodisiacs that are applied to the body can vary in their effectiveness but usually are simply vehicles for the individual applying the aphrodisiac to physically manipulate the person receiving it. It is the effect of touch that creates the stimulating effect of the applied aphrodisiac. Usually, the applied aphrodisiac will include a component that increased blood flow to the area where it is applied. Again, this relies upon the user interpreting the increased blood flow as a physical symptom of arousal.

This brings us to the use of ‘love magic.’ It is as old as the hills and is generally viewed of questionable success. The reason why is because it is highly difficult to manipulate the psychological state of another person via one’s actions with out that person within their immediate presence. Most ‘love magic’ is focused upon inducing a state of receptivity within the target of the spell or incantation but they actually work as a psychological trigger for the spell caster to be aware of apparent receptivity in their target. Very rarely, one may encounter a form of ‘love magic’ that is successful due to reasons that are difficult to define.

This experience, however, is extremely rare. As such, it brings us back to the question what is the most effective aphrodisiac. The answer is startlingly simple. Barring physiological complications that can lead to difficulties with arousal (hypertension, hormonal imbalances, or something else akin), the challenge is to create the correct atmosphere and environment for a sexual encounter. When people are generally operating under high stress conditions, they find their libido is suppressed. This is usually due to a sense of exhaustion from remaining at a highly alert and vigilant state for an extended period of time. This is perhaps the most common cause for the need for an aphrodisiac.

The second most common cause is to compensate for poorly timed execution of one’s seduction attempt. When your partner is simply not interested in sex, precious little will serve to convince them to engage in sexual activity until they are interested in it. The cure for both of these situation is to apply a little forethought. With careful planning and consideration of the interests and preferences of your partner, it is possible to create a scenario that will prove fruitful for a sexual encounter the majority of the time. To do this, it is necessary to use the world’s most powerful aphrodisiac: communication.

Communication within a relationship is not something that is simply code for women desiring to intellectually torture their significant other. Communication allows for a relationship to remain healthy and for it to flourish. Open and honest discussion about one’s sexual preferences, concerns, and dislikes can lead to highly successful adventures in the bed room. Not only does this level of intimacy lead to greater pleasure because your partner knows precisely what you enjoy, bit it can serve as a form of foreplay. Many a time, sharing fantasies between my husband and I have lead to sharing our bed for marital recreation.

If you find yourself disturbed, displeased, or otherwise upset by what your partner shares with you, be non-judgemental with your reply. Each person has different things that they enjoy and sexual preferences are also highly varied. Remember to be respectful in your discussion with your lover, as they may find elements of what you share about your sexuality to be equally distressing. Also, just because you both have different things that you enjoy and possibly several things that you dislike between you, your relationship is not doomed.

Differences in sexual preferences can be like differences in food preferences. Is it really worth throwing in the towel over the fact that they like chocolate ice cream and you like vanilla? Compromise and a willingness to explore new things can work to overcome the differences in preferences. Remember to be respectful of them and of yourself. If something that you are trying makes you feel uncomfortable, unsafe, or otherwise upset, stop and determine what it is. Address the concerns raised and decide together what you both desire to do. Above all, do not force yourself or your partner to engage in activity that distresses them, as this is a form of sexual abuse.