Tips for Improving Your Sex Life
by Ways to improve your sex life when the flame has burned out.
Let’s face it…as much as we all enjoy having sex, sometimes the spark to get the fire going is gone. Life is full of distractions and filled with stress that can frequently take away the desire to have sex. One major problem is that both people aren’t affected at the same time so in any given relationship you can have one partner wanting it and the other not interested in doing it at all. So what do you do? How do you spice things up? Well first you need to keep in mind that the tips in this article are intended for those in a healthy, committed relationship whether you’re married or not.
A diminished sex life usually happens in a relationship that has lasted years and unlike during the early part of the relationship where the two of you couldn’t get enough sex, now it’s no longer a priority…if you get it, fine…if not, oh well. You’ve seen each others naked bodies hundreds of times…you made love hundreds of times…same old, same old…right? There’s no mystery left. You’ve tried every position known to mankind so the excitement just isn’t there…your sex life is missing its luster…take the “er” off the word and that’s what’s really missing…the LUST. Sex can’t be exciting unless there’s some lust involved.
The first step in improving your sex life is OPEN COMMUNICATION. Tell each other what’s on your mind – good or bad. Don’t argue about it…TALK about it in a civilized manner. Both of you should offer some new ideas and whatever you do…don’t criticize or judge…it’s a brainstorming session to get your sex life back on track.
One of the first ideas many couples put on the table is a threesome to spice things up because it’s adding something new to the equation. The problem is that the mere suggestion of a threesome could spark a very heated argument because either way, someone’s feelings are going to be hurt. If the suggestion is made, try not to get angry or think that the one who suggested it doesn’t love you anymore or is searching to have an affair…don’t jump to conclusions…it was just an idea. If a threesome is something that the two of you feel would hurt your relationship then drop it and move on.
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Post CommentDarla Cooke
On May 25, 2009 at 2:51 pm
Very good advice and tips.
Rebecca Anne Grant
On August 3, 2009 at 2:11 am
After 17 years of marriage & 4 years of dating before that, I know exactly what you mean when you say that time takes away the spark, it’s what starts the wildfire. It is hard to keep each other happy for that long, and sometimes it seems impossible. The main thing I liked about your article is that you told the truth, communication is the key, always!
Mikayla
On August 7, 2009 at 5:42 am
Wanna hook-up sometime Hollywood James?..I’m 37 something and single..my friends tell me that I look like sex on legs…hehehehehahaha..loved this!! I’m not sure that threesomes are a good idea but I can tell you that it’s different. This is the sort of article I like to read re: how to spice-up the sex life. Even the most sexually adventurous would find this an excellent read..I’m oohing and aahing all over!
LoveDoctor
On August 22, 2009 at 12:18 am
Butt plug and in the snow during a thunderstorm…. sounds adventurous! lol. Good article and information. Communication is vital is any relationship. It’s a shame that a lot of guys are resistant when it comes to it.
barbara kasey smith
On January 16, 2010 at 6:17 pm
A nice article with some great pointers!