Understanding How Sex Can be Healingthe Healing Side of Sex (Holistic Healing)

The vast majority of Americans have a generic way of looking at sex. Whether it is from a personal, religious, or political perspective based on how it is practiced. However, absent from any origin of thought sex has a far more meaning to life than we were exposed to by way of any academic source; friend, parent, society. To understand sex we have to know what it is for and what it can offer us besides the current pleasure we are accustomed to.

First, sex is the spiritual and nonverbal language between a man and a woman. This is first dictated by hormone activity by our complementary organs (penis and vagina). The true opposite sex is exactly homosexual practices because the type of hormone activity can only come about when a man and a woman are aroused by each other. The sexual language between a man and a woman can be traced back to the verbal language between the two.

The holistic side (spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical) of communication is important because in most cases, it is the origin of harmony in a man/woman relationship. Women tend feel more, or process in the parietal lobe of the brain which makes them more auditory and tactile. Men tend to think more, or process in his frontal lobe of the brain which makes him more visually stimulated. This means women are more likely to be sexually attracted to stimulating conversations, long walks, and being held. Things like this seem to be very arousing to women. Women are always secreting a hormone called oxytocin which makes them want to bond. In contrast men only secrete oxytocin during sexual activity. Men tend to be aroused by things they see such as breasts, legs, videos with high sexual content, and any other forum such as go-go bars and clubs. A woman’s general conversations and reactions are primarily based off how she feels and for a man is what he thinks.

Secondly we have to know what sex is. There are many fragmented sequences of sex such as hugging, kissing, some forms of “foreplay”. Masturbation, anal sex, and oral sex cannot be defined as sex because no intercourse is involved. It can only be defined as a portion of sexual behavior but it is not sex. “Anal sex” should in no way be involved because it can be very damaging to the woman’s anus such as infections in the rectal area. These sexual sequences are other forms of bonding which would lead up to where intercourse will happen. Other than reproduction and pleasure sex serves a purpose for us to understand ourselves and who we involve ourselves with. Climaxing not only defines the peak of sexual pleasure but of sexual bonding. Also a big misunderstanding about climax is that we tend to think it is defined by outwardly secreting or ejaculating. Sexual climax is based off energy from the body not fluid. The fluid is just the result not the definition. Meaning you can have an orgasm without outwardly secreting anything at all with knowing how to channel the flow of energy which takes an extreme amount of control and patience.