Unsatisfactory Sex in a Marriage
by A person’s experience on having unsatisfactory sex with their spouse.
What does a person do when they are unsatisfied with their spouse sexually? Growing up I’ve always thought that when you got married, sex was there for the taking. In my head, that was one of the reasons why people got married, so they didn’t have to continue searching for sex elsewhere. Of course, sex diminishes a little after you’ve been married a while, but that’s not what I’m talking about. What I’m talking about is good sex. What do you do when your spouse is no good in bed?
For years, I have tried to engage my spouse in being more active in our sex life. I’ve introduced sex toys, sexy teddies, romance, candles, exotic movies, different locations and even tried liquor as my last alternative, but it seems that when it is time to get our groove on they just lay there like a dead fish (excuse the pun). The foreplay leaves a lot to be desired. There is definitely oral going on and unless I instruct the person on what to do, it is all over in about 10 min.
It’s becoming so, that my right arm’s bicep is becoming very huge for the mere fact of self-gratification. I love my spouse very much and find my spouse very attractive in many ways than one. Sometimes, I just get turned on riding our motorcycle together, because our bodies are so close and the vibration of the bike makes it very sexy. The other thing that turns me on about my spouse is that during the week they wear corporate suits to work and trust me when I tell you, when my spouse walks through the door with a suit on, WOW! The other side to the spectrum is when my spouse turns all biker on me. It is such a turn on.
Not to offend my spouse, I often times, imagine the possibility of my spouse wearing the biker outfit and going wild in bed with me. This will get me through the 10 minutes of boredom and still climax. Divorce and cheating are not options for me because of the love and commitment I have with my spouse.
Recently, I’ve taken the next step and sat my spouse down and inform them that I just wasn’t happy with our sex life and need a little more flavor, romance and change. I’ve explained that it is important that we are both happy with our sex life and we should either go to marriage counseling or try to be more open with each other in what our dislikes and likes are. My spouse, clammed up, would not say a word and sat there like a tree – living thing but no sound. Gosh I thought I was back in bed.
No I’m not giving up on our marriage, and I will find a way to break through to my spouse’s wildest desires and then and only then I can give my arm a rest.
Now I know where the saying came from “Patience is a Virtue”. I just didn’t know how much I’d need it.
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