Wait for Sex and Achieve Mental, Physical and Sexual Power

You want change to happen in your life. You are tired of having empty relationships with people. These dating experiences start off well, but then once sex occurs rather than get better they cycle downward. What happens between the statements we make such as “I like you” and “I love you” while having sex that make some people act like fools! What is it about making sex a priority in love relationships that eventually cause some to waste away? No need to lose valuable years like others you may know giving your “power” away to ungrateful, non-committed individuals.

First, what does it mean to give your “power” away? In all of us we are made of mind, body, and spirit. To agree to have sex with someone you are giving something away and in return supposed to be getting something. Unfortunately, for many of us we have given energy sources, feelings, thoughts, ideas and other things away when we lay down with someone. For example, the story of Samson and Delilah in Judges 16:4-19 tells us of a woman who was used to entice Samson by people who intended to rob the strong man of his power. When Samson was weak, he gave up his secret to Delilah and eventually God departed from him.

Having sex makes us vulnerable and when we are engaging in it with the right someone we are mentally and physically charged like powering up a battery for a car, toy or some electronic device once it’s going the object will do what it was created to do. In the book of Ruth as found in the Christian Bible, when God blessed Ruth with Boaz, Ruth didn’t have a marriage that gave her nothing in return. She was connected with someone that actually blessed her, not hurt her. When we are powered up spiritually, we will do what we are supposed to do, people who don’t understand spiritual concepts, miracles, and other gifts never seem to be charged up rather they are always mentally and physically “tired.” Sex does sap your physical energy especially if you are doing it often, but it doesn’t have to take away from everything else too! Now while we are thinking consciously about sex, we are also thinking about it subconsciously and this is when we tend to make mistakes. If the subconscious mind says, “We are having sex…”and the conscious mind says “We are not…” then that is when we get into trouble for sending “mixed messages” as some past partners may have accused you.

Let’s meet Sam, known for being a player in the neighborhood. He use to be an attractive, fit young man, but the years have taken their toll on old Sam and now he looks like he is a year or two from the grave. When you listen to Sam talk about his past, he brags about the many sexual escapades he had and how he “use to do… use to have…use to look like…” Observe washed-up Sammy mention “use to” a lot in his conversations. The reason why his past and present are pitiful is due to the fact that Sammy didn’t know how powerful he could be if he allowed his spirit to override his flesh. Meaning that if he had a bit of self-control and wasn’t so anxious to see the next hot body naked, he probably would have had a woman that would have slowed old Sam’s premature aging. Sam is what some would call an “old fool,” simply because he never bothered to sit down and create a plan for his life and actually live it out. Instead, as “the feeling” moved him he went with it. If the feeling was warm he would act on impulse, cold he would open up his black book to find someone to make him warm again.

The problem was that everything in his life was affected by his sexual encounters. When he slept with a woman she would later ask for a commitment, he would make her feel like she was the one and then when another came along he would tell her the same. Eventually, one of the two women would get smart to his game and unfortunately Sam has a few scars on his body as a result and precious gifts from his relatives were lost due to fighting. If Sam would tell the young men he is supposed to be mentoring the truth, he would say, “I messed up my life. I let my little man dictate major life decisions. Now I am old with no wife and no children who know me. I wish I knew them and they knew me, but I messed up and I don’t want you to do the same.” But as mentioned before, Sammy is a player and those who aren’t about to get their player card revoked by the young players in the game will not admit their faults in life – they have too much pride.

Now, women can’t be left out of this article. There are Jezebels out there who think that all they have to do is decorate their selves up like Christmas trees and life will be happy ever after. The truth is Jezebel is often mentally and physically abused because of one thing, she like Sam gave up the sex without a commitment. She justifies her mistake with, “Well I didn’t want to get married anyway.” The truth is that somewhere down deep in every man and woman’s spirit is the word commitment, because if it wasn’t, why do we experience that envious feeling that comes over us when our partner says, “I am going out on a date…” Although your “partner” is just “a friend,” “boyfriend,” or “girlfriend” why do you wonder what they are up to, why call them hoping to find out details of where they have been, why say you like or love them, why even care about them if you could careless about a commitment?

So what if you don’t want to be like Sammy or act like Jezebel and you just want to be with a nice woman or man and “try” to live happily ever after, then don’t have sex until you know that you have a marital date in mind to tell your partner, “I love you and I am willing to spend the rest of my life with you.”

For those who aren’t ready to set a date but know you want to have sex but may have done it or planning to do it, wait for sex (which I know can be extremely difficult!) That’s right wait until your married, wait until your mom and dad can help you pay for a wedding, wait until you complete your degree, wait until you are ready for children, wait until he relocates to where you are, wait until she finds God, wait until he is off of probation, wait until your children have moved out the house, but wait! Whatever your wait is, do it. The longer you wait, the better not the other way around — that would be incorrect thinking because experience shows us that those who waited and did things at the right time reaped rewards. Waiting doesn’t promise perfection, but it does promise us a chance to discover more about ourselves. If you are a Christian, you may even say I am waiting on God – good for you because the more you learn about God, the more you learn about yourself! If more people waited at the stoplight until it turned green, there would be less car crashes (I’m a witness and a victim!) Whatever your red light is in your life at this moment, sit there and wait until you have enough signs that show green!