What is Good Sex?

James Nelson also echoes the fact that good and morally permissible sex should include respect by both involved parties. Nelson uses Christian moral concepts to explain his view further in the publication Embodiment (Nelson, 11). What he says is that God is ever present in everything, including an individual’s sexual experiences. Looking at the human experience, Nelson talks about alienation. Alienation not only refers to the self, but also to the alienation of others and God. When a person alienates himself or herself, they have given up any good self-concepts about their body or themselves. An individual can also practice alienation from others and God. This is where they draw themselves away from God and others. Nelson believes that sexual alienation is the problem and salvation is the cure (Cates, 2/11/08). The key to this salvation is fully accepting God’s grace. When this happens, it opens the gateway for good sex. Accepting salvation also means that an individual is respecting themselves, others, and most importantly God.

In closing, respect is a major component of good and morally permissible sex. There are many ways that all parties involved can show respect to one another. Each individual can make a verbal agreement to one another as to what is expected if a sexual situation were to arise. Both Belliotti and Nelson resonate with the argument that good sex needs respect. Belliotti uses a secular viewpoint to explain his sexual morality quotient, while Nelson uses Christian moral concepts to explain his view of respect, sex and alienation. Both of these viewpoints are in line with my argument. Each person approaches the argument from a different perspective, but no matter what view is taken, one thing is clear. Respect is an essential element for good and ethical sex.