What is Sexy?
by What We Find Sexy In Others Is Very Personal. Can We Truly Define It?
If i were to ask Forrest Gump what is Sexy? He would probably say “sexy is as sexy does”. What does someone who is sexy do? Are they always aware that they are doing it and is there a measure of sexiness?
When you google who are the worlds sexiest men and women you almost know who are going to pop up. Clooney, Beyonce, Brad Pitt, Angelina, Colin Farrell, Orlando Bloom, Josh Holloway and so the list goes on. Yes they truly are The Beautiful People but their sexiness as portrayed to the world is manufactured and presumptive. I would argue that perfect looks don’t automatically equal sexiness. Often sexiness is worn unknowingly by the truly sexy. It might be a look they give you. It might be a confident walk. It might be the way they smile. It might be a sexy mind. In my life i have often found the unassuming prove to be truly sexy.
We have all walked rooms with our eyes and during an evening had interactions either face to face or just a look. You know the scenario. If someone is attracted to you they will supposedly hold your gaze just a few seconds longer than is socially the norm. You will watch and observe not because you are necessarily looking to hook up but because its fun to watch the dance even if you don’t want to take a twirl. You will see the players who moves are practiced and almost jaded in their application. You will see the lacking in confidence, eyes darting, leg tapping pent up with should i shouldn’t i indecision. Then you will see the comfortable in their own skin men and women. Yes they are looking for a connection if single but hell if they don’t get a fix, what will be will be. They are not out to score points with their com padres but if they happen to engage in good conversation and fun they have had a good evening.
So what is sexy? I believe that those who think they are sexy are way beyond the mark trading only in good looks and not a lot else. It is the comfortable in their own skin brigade who truly exude an understated sexiness which catches you unawares and goes beyond the superficial.
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Post CommentNeo Keane
On February 23, 2009 at 10:46 am
Very true. Though I don’t think anyone is ever fully comfortable in their own skin.
Dianneapril
On April 3, 2009 at 4:57 pm
Good article.
Julia
On June 5, 2009 at 8:33 pm
In my opinion, “sexy” definitely has more to do with the attitude you portray, and also the person who fancies you, rather than your true appearance. To me, sexy is a witty conversation, looking into deep, mysterious eyes, walking around in an oversized t-shirt with no make-up and your hair messed up. Sexy is finishing sentences, opening the car door for a lady, a successful career and a great pride in it. Sexy is confident, but not arrogant, sexy is patient, and sexy always leaves you wanting more. There have been some guys I have met that are drop-dead gorgeous, but are without personality, and some, while they may not be as attractive as the other, they possess this talent to seduce that the other does not. So yes, you do have to be attractive to be sexy, but the attractive man with sexiest attitude always wins, not the one with the sexiest appearance.
Secrets101
On February 3, 2010 at 12:35 pm
sexy is in the eye of the beholder. BUT Sexy is confidence. I agree with no one really being comfortable.