What Seven Year Itch?
by My ramblings on a seven year relationship and wise words from the experts, Sex isn’t everything (but it is a bonus), American Sex Therapists advise you to keep open the lines of communication.
This weekend I am determined to spend all loved up. My man and I are actually taking two whole days together. We live apart at the moment. He, in a three bed roomed house alone (or so he tells me). Myself, I live in bliss with mum and dad. To be honest at the moment this is the best arrangement, as when we do catch up, there is so much to talk about. AND who says women do all the talking!
We have been together for seven years, and I don’t know about him, but I ain’t got that itch yet. Enough of me. I wanted to publicise a little bit of welcome information, backed up by research, (I may add). I have been doing a little bit of reading (besides all the good works on this site), and, it would appear that talking is good for the relationship. Not just any old verbal like “pass, the salt dear”.
I mean the deep down and personal language of love!
One of the articles to catch my eye was relating to keeping the lines of communication open. It suggested that if your partner did anything, or said anything that hurt or offended your sensibilities, that you were not to assume that it was done with deliberation. Instead you were to clearly express your feelings, give your partner adequate time to respond, and, most importantly be able to forgive, if there is anything to forgive, because don’t forget it could have been a bad joke in poor taste, or a passing comment said without any degree of thought! If however, after trying this approach there still remains any cause for concern, your best bet may be to seek the help of a marriage counselor or a certified sex therapist.
All being well, the next stage was to divulge your desires, by telling your partner exactly what you wanted – in bed and out. Just remember in a relationship, sex is not everything (I look at it as a coupling of minds, as well as a coupling of the body), Hey that’s just me, I’m no expert. Love is something that can improve with age if you both work at it, it is not just a one way street. The burning fires of youth will not last forever, so take the time to cement a foundation that will!
Have a lovely weekend.
Nadine
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Post Commentken bultman
On August 28, 2009 at 7:42 am
Nice post. Keep up the good work. Writing and on the home front. Guys talk too, eh?
nadinesimone
On August 28, 2009 at 9:41 am
You bet guys talk too. The problem is sometimes we ladies don’t always listen. Anyway I had to go in and fix spelling errors not on my original. The opening sentence for heavens sake should have been that I was determined (not the twaddle that came into print). Also it repeated the language of love twice with different punctuation marks following. I do believe I have Gremlins!
hfj
On August 28, 2009 at 10:56 am
Are we talking experimentation here. If so, then it is very important aspect for the lady to express her desires and fantancies to let her man know exactly what she wants as you stated in your article. This will only enhance their time together, and fulfill each others desires. Well done friend.
Tracey Parece
On September 3, 2009 at 8:01 pm
Nadine, Thank you for your kindness in reading my article and responding. I was amazed at the hard work and great number of different traditions involved with a Roman Catholic wedding. In the weddings I have attended, the participants made it look so seamless. After reading your kind post, I was inspired to take a closer look at your work. I definitely like what I see. I agree with you 100% that love is a coupling of the mind as well as the body. I think it’s sad that some people believe boredom must set in after a certain amount of time “seven year itch.” I don’t believe in it myself. Can you believe I read a recent article that talked about how to keep the passion alive after three months?! In three months, the passion should just be starting. Anyway, thanks again for the great article, I plan to read more of your work! -Tracey