Why Men Visit OnHerCam and Similar Sites
by I had a friend who asked me this and decided to figure it out for myself.
Yesterday I logged onto On Her Cam and found a woman who I thought was incredibly sexy. I entered her chat and we talked a bit. We talked for probably a half hour and I put $10 into the site and had her do the VIP chat.
The VIP chat is the one where she gets nude and, if time permits, does what ever you ask. The Private chat, which is about half the cost, is just to watch her as she talks to you and nobody can talk to her while you talk to her.
This woman, who is the sexiest woman I’ve ever seen, did a strip tease and asked what I wanted, I only had about 2 minutes so not much got done but she flirts and she jokes and she teases and talks about sex to try and get you to buy more time.
So why do men do this?
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Power
I imagine I am not too different from the other men who have done this and what you get out of it is control. The woman does what ever you want and seems to enjoy it.
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Lack Of Rejection
Most of the men seem incredibly lonely and incapable of maintaining real relationships. I’ve had this problem in the past myself and I have to say, the idea of a beautiful woman, talking to you and flirting with you, is enough to make a lonely guy want to indulge.
That’s it. You have complete control and will not be rejected. I have not been able to get this woman out of my head since I’ve done this, she is beautiful – the most beautiful woman I’d ever seen- and smart (based on the books she talked about) and I want to talk to her. It’s the most bizarre thing in the world but as I laid in bed I did the math to figure out how I could afford to talk to her on a regular basis and that was when I’d gone in too deep.
I have decided I’m not going back to her chat because I can see how she would take all of my money and that isn’t good, but the infection of Power+Safety=Sexual Pleasure is something that I think controls the entire sex industry.
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Post Commentsweetievee
On August 13, 2009 at 8:21 am
You did your research and I do believe you’re correct. Anyone that makes us feel heard, worthwhile, and enjoyed, and then fills us with all those good sex endorphins will keep our attention for a long time.
Abbie
On August 13, 2009 at 9:51 am
Heya Robert,
I happen to be one of the owners of the site you visited and this come across my google alerts. I think this is a great look into sites such as ours. I think you hit the nail on the head. I’m sure there are a variety of other reasons men visit our site. Loneliness being one of the biggest. More and more, I see guys who are even married logging in simply to have a chat and not even concern themselves with buying a show. So many express voids in their marriages or relationships and just simply seek out a different form of female interaction.
Anyway, great write up. Mind if I borrow it for the site? Credits included of course.
Karnie
On August 13, 2009 at 3:59 pm
I have to say you are right but i would like to note the fact that i have done something similar to the for a term paper and i noticed that alot of the time men also go to such sites to escape the reality they are in now. When they are on these sites they can be whoever they want and it gives them a break from their normal day to day.
TammyC
On August 13, 2009 at 5:50 pm
For men it’s about the power, control, and sexual aspects, but I assure you for the women it is all about the money. 98% of them care nothing for you…so good for you for not allowing yourself to be completely hooked.
Uma Shankari
On August 13, 2009 at 6:30 pm
You say ‘power’. But if you do get hooked, who has the handle? And without the money to back it up, where is acceptance? It’s a short-term fix, at the best, if at all you can call it a fix.
I appreciate your outright frankness.