Woman, Sexuality, and Satisfaction

Do woman need to be appreciated by more than one man to feel validated?  If we look at a typical committed woman’s life, we will see that once she is comfortable around her mate, she will often dress more casually around the house, go without makeup, and maybe even pee while their significant other is in the bathroom with them.  Basically, a certain amount of frumpiness is the norm.  Yet, if the couple goes out somewhere, the woman will usually put on her best face. She is obviously not doing this for her man only. Is she dressing up then for other woman, or rather for other men?  Does the woman want to be reaffirmed of her sexuality via positive attention of other guys?

Regardless of why or what kind of attention a woman craves, what would push a woman to cross the line and leave the people who love her for a sexual tryst? ? Would the temptation be greater if the woman settled down young?  Can we assume that in many cases an unappreciative husband could be a primary factor?  Is the temptation to cheat increase if the woman is very attractive, therefore attracting more attention and increasing the temptation to cheat? Or is the less attractive woman more apt to cheat as an affirmation of her worth as a sexual woman?

This question reminds me of another woman I know. Overweight, this friend is constantly badgered by the father of her children about her weight, and how it is contributing to his lack of attraction to her. Lately, this woman has successfully lost weight, and new worries have developed. She is afraid that as she drops pounds, looks better and feels better, men who previously ignored her might start paying her attention. This leads us again, to temptation. In her case, if her man would appreciate her at any weight, she would not think of leaving. But due to his insistence of valuing her based on her size, her resentment could cause her to turn to a more appreciative man.

While I will probably never know why a specific woman would run away from her family, there is one thing I suspect; involved woman who partake in a intimate relationship with another man are not doing it for physical reasons, but rather to fulfill some missing component in their emotional lives.