You’re Not Having Sex Because You’re Not Sexy (Keep Reading)

Due to the insane amount of views I received on my last article, different perspectives on sex, I’ve decided to scrap my original plan in detailing different steps of a relationship. Rather, I’ll just talk about what I find most interesting, and if you guys want me to cover anything, feel free to let me know.

One problem that I hear often is people complaining about not having sex. Let me put one thought out there for you: you’re not having sex because you’re not sexy.

I don’t mean sexy in the Angelina Jolie or Bradley Cooper sort of way (though if you do look like one of them and you’re not having sex, your problems are much more serious than you think), but I mean you’re not exuding enough sex appeal. And by sex appeal, I mean something about you that makes other people want to have sex with you. If you’re a straight woman, wanting to attract a straight man, having a vagina is usually enough to do the trick. If you’re a man wanting to attract a straight female, it’s a little more complicated, but I hear money and a nice car can help.

But in all seriousness, a fast car, a fat wallet, and a black man’s penis isn’t a prerequisite for having sex with women. I had a friend once who was broke and ugly as shit go up to a woman and say (and I quote verbatim) “Nice shoes, wanna fuck?” I sat there amazed as he struck up a conversation with her for the next few minutes, and then headed off to her apartment. Now, while he may have the last of three things I mentioned above, and I’m in no position to comment otherwise, I believe that his confidence was key in being able to seduce this woman. Even though ostensibly he had absolutely nothing going on for him, he had the ‘I can do anything’ mentality, which makes a man seem so much more attractive.

It makes a man seem like he can take care of a woman no matter what, that he can dominate her, protect her, make her feel like a woman. It doesn’t matter if you look like Ryan Goseling or Flava Flave, these man get laid because they put it out there they’re they are inherently awesome. And thinking you’re awesome just makes you seem awesome.