Quiet Communication
by There’s What You Say, and Then What You Don’t Say, or Aren’t Aware that You Said.
Chances are if you ask your partner if they’ve been looking at other people the two of you ran across during the day while you two were together the answer will definitively be no but the body language will yell a resounding yes. Science tells us that men are visual and chances are will find themselves looking, if not staring, at the physique of a woman. Often times not even thinking about sex simply admiring her for the beauty of the art form. It’s a loosing proposition.
What’s worse is when the society sets standards for beauty that we tend to internalize. We have our own preferences about what we like, and then we have what society likes. While it’s never really chic to admire an appreciation for what society likes it is difficult not to look at someone society has deemed as being pretty because those ideas have been internalized and embedded into the subconscious. In fact most of us, if given a chance for something to actually happen with the actual “prototype” would jump at the chance to though it isn’t something that we would typically do.
You can chalk it up to never having been in the opportunity to do so. You can also chalk it up to the novelty of having done so simply to having said that you did. Men can also be somewhat eccentric or odd in that if there is something different, the curiosity of wanting to know what that is gets us in a lot of trouble as well. In fact I would even go as far as to say that most affairs are with women that men would never publicly pursue, but were intrigued about because the woman had approached them first and she seemed “different” from all the rest, physical looks aside, or intellectually.
The average guy simply isn’t going to go after someone outside of a relationship for one of many reasons. One of which being that the real novelty of getting what you want is with that girl you were initially with. You don’t honestly want that other girl all of the time and never really had a real basis or foundation of attraction to try to make that work initially. A lot of people get hurt in the process, and somehow every girl who is number one to her boyfriend can easily be number two or three to some other guy.
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