Daughters and The Fathers They Love to Hate

All this time, I never realized how this was affecting Anne. I took things at face value – if she didn’t say anything, everything was fine. Again, not knowing how to be a father and not having a mate to bounce these things around, I continued in my ignorance. 

I thought I was doing most things right. I was there for every big event, First Communion, coached baseball, Italian Debutante etc. – I didn’t know a different calculator was being used by her and my Ex! I always felt the harsh stares and cold shoulder of my Ex’s family at these events. This is one of the many downsides of divorce. The husband/father is always made to attend events sponsored or mostly attended by the Ex’s family.

Anyway, enough about me! After 27 years and warnings from her mother, my daughter exploded on me over a senseless event and I was blown away. No signs, no words. The only words to this point had been I love you, thanks for this, thanks for that car Daddy, she just blew-up and big time.

I am not saying I didn’t deserve anything.  It was the way it came about and so vicious and hateful.  Now I have a six year old granddaughter she has not let me see nor withwhom I can have a relationship.  She was found to have cervical cancer right after she gave birth and needed a hysterectomy.  No more grandchildren.  This was a dream of mine for years to share my old age spoiling a grandchild – and especially a granddaughter.

FaceBook has been a curse as far as I am concerned.  I tried befriending her there and all it got me was watching this child grow up on line with pictures of her playing and having fun with every relative and friend but me.

So boys, before you walk out that door, take a long, LONG time to consider the end game on this.  Things aren’t always as they seem.  That sweet little girl could grow up to be a one that will knock your relationship off its feet for the rest of your life.