By: cycle breaker

cycle breaker — Wed, 13 May 2009 03:27:17 +0000

I just wanted to say that women do not have a monopoly on being emotionally/verbally/physically abused. I was a verbal/emotional abuser. I didn’t realize I was even doing it as this is what I was exposed to as a child. I have hit my significant other 1 time after she punched me in the face twice. I have been humiliated and put down by her. I have had sex used as a tool. I didn’t know what I felt was rejection as all my negative feelings came out in the form of anger. Some food for thought. Mothers raise the children for the most part. Mayhaps the abusive men learned to abuse from their mothers? I have read that abusive men abuse for control. It seems women want to be made to feel beuatiful and useful. If I am trying to make someone feel something is not also controlling? If I don’t say the right thing and feeling get hurt I am punished emotionally with the silent treatment. If I try to walk away from being abused by a woman it can be called abandonment. The courts can call me a dead beat dad and take away priviliges. Is this not abuse? I know the negativity I felt when my marriage ended. All the compromises I made to try to keep her content and in the end it didn’t matter. I still am looking for answers to questions about my feelings. Getting better at identifying them. Sometimes it is neat at other times I wish I didn’t feel.

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By: cycle breaker