Why is it important for a person to know the essence of having good manners and right conduct and how it it influences ones relationship with others…
I was once stacked in the waiting area of a restaurant with a family of three. Their rambunctious five year old was running all over the place, that his father told him to please stop doing so. The boy continued running around, stone deaf to his father’s request. The father repeated his plea, but was again ignored. At the third request, the boy ran towards his father and slapped him (father) repeatedly. Embarrassed, the mother hushed the child and said,” Son, do not do that, people who see you might think you are not a good boy..”
Unbelievable. Rather than admonish the child for such unruly behavior, his parents were far more concerned about what other people think of their (not so) good boy. Children who dictate on their parents, parents who cannot be bothered with old school values, paints a picture of a future generation gone rude.
Whatever happened to the good old GMRC? Whatever happened to civility? GMRC, once part of every child’s school curricula. Civility comes from the Latin word civis or civitas, meaning citizen or government. Overtime, it became synonymous with “good breeding, politeness, consideration or courtesy”. Its opposite is rudeness, vulgarity and profanity-all of which are far more common in today’s generation.
Most people today feel a lack of civility and good manners is a problem, and they are right. What worries me, though, is that they seem to think that the problem lies in others, not in themselves.
Ever been subjected to a secretary who curtly demands your name, puts you on hold for a long time, then gets back on the line to demand your name again? What about impatient man behind you in traffic, honking incessantly. How one longs to strike back. But if rudeness begets rudeness, when will it all end?
Let us not allow rude people to spoil our lives, but neither should we seek satisfaction in spoiling other people’s lives by being rude. You can always choose to act with decency and civility regardless of how uncouth, vulgar or rude other people are. Conquer rudeness with civility.
Saying please and thank you is a good way to start.