Love The Right Way

The Bible speaks of it often like a word we should understand. A word that we should grasp hold of and cherish. We tend to assume that “love” comes easy and is always exciting. We associate love with being feelings of joy and anxiousness. But, if love is that simple feeling, then what happens when it feels less one day, week, or month? For this reason we should take into account that the love the Bible speaks about is not a feeling at all. Love is an action that is often followed by feelings of any emotion such as joy, sorrow, completeness, etc. Using the Bible as an example, God showed his love by sacrificing his son for us all. That action was accompanied by sorrow from Jesus’ friends and mother (Mary). It was also a day that we as Christians look back on as a day full of love, commitment, sacrifice, and joy.

Many people get married and have children. We would hope that as one gets married they would know what it is to love. So, what is love? Love is an action of putting someone else before yourself. Period. That is it. Are you surprised? This is a hard task that no one does everyday perfectly. We often don’t realize that we are as selfish as we are. For example, we don’t realize that when we had something to celebrate no matter small or large, our friends celebrated with us but yet when someone we know (notice I didn’t necessarily classify them as a friend) has something to celebrate, we don’t whole-heartedly get excited with them. We fail to put them before our feelings, job, or task at hand. A wife should do all things through love for her husband. Meaning, do everything in the best interest of her husband. But, wait! Won’t I as a wife never get a day to myself or get to do the things I enjoy? Well, that depends on if your husband loves you back. If he is looking out for your best interest then you should get to do things you love as a gift from him to say he recognizes that you love that event and knows it is an enjoyment to you. For example, my husband and I grew up together.

So, changing together through time has been a lessoned learned through the years. This year we will celebrate 10 years since we first started our journey on learning what it is to love. Matt knows that I enjoy a clean house, (This is starting with the small things. The massage, pedicure, manicure, hiking, etc comes later..  ) therefore, he will make it a point to do dishes or wash the sheets before I get home. A small sign of putting my joys in front of what he wanted to do, like play video games. I get home and get to enjoy a relaxing evening thanks to him. So to put his interest before mine, I give him some time to play video games. Then , before bed time, we make a point to do something together. This is normally sitting outside and talking, playing a game, or you know. Not every night do we do a routine of kissing up to each other. We are not a perfect couple but we try to do those small things that end up being very big acts of love.