Out? How to Break Into Beauty!

Warning: failure is not an easy time. Even if you make the decision. Your friend can become a fierce enemy! All failures will lead to hopefully not hell. But you have to manage.

To break efficiently and without too many problems, we must act with deliberation and in stages. As the eve of a test or exam, you must prepare yourself psychologically, choose the optimum conditions, practice your oral and anticipate the reactions of … the opponent.

Good preparation

Analyze the situation

First distinguish the deep crisis that leads to a final rupture of the temporary crisis that can take the same aspects. 

Lucia de Rezende, psychotherapist
There is a test that does not lie: if you do not see your partner as the mother of your children, it is time to break.Although apparently you get along relatively well.

Resolve to say stop

Often, men are afraid to take action and leave the initiative to the woman in 75% of cases. Error: the more you let things drag on, it all becomes more difficult for both. Prepare yourself psychologically for play mode Gainsbourg?I’m here to tell you I am going?.

Preparing the ground

In the period of maturation of such a decision, it is better to remain silent or evasive: no plan, no promises. Begin to get away from it in going out with friends, football games, cocktail parties with work colleagues, etc.. But do not ignore it either. Least parts of legs in the air while maintaining the good times together. This period must be short and prepare you for optimal conditions to take action.
Optimal conditions

The good way

The phone and mail you avoid the cries and tears too easy and not very efficient, there are good chances that the case is not resolved and it leaves you a sense of unfinished business. 

Your companion will accept this break sloppy but you despise or, worse, she did not even believe. ? Reads a break only in the eye? said Melissa, 24, with a small smile.

Courage … 

The right time

Especially not during a fight! She would not believe you? I’m sick of you, it’s over between us! ? even if you prepare your speech for two months. Another mistake to avoid: the dump when it has a blow, she gets depressed, she has planted in his exam, or that his little cat is dead. Choose a quiet moment (before the storm …)

The right place

Avoid the flat, where you have done your first kiss, and every place is too full of memories and emotions. ? It must be given an appointment at a neutral location to give a sense of solemn ritual? Advises Lucia de Rezende.

The restaurant and coffee places are suitable because they require a controlled reaction. And if she turns her heels, must give him another appointment to explain calmly that you break.
How?

Be honest and direct

? It is better to be direct so that it suffers a blow, if it’s worse? confirms Lucia Rezende. Needless to beat around the bush and invent a phony excuse like that?? I do not deserve you?. Tell him frankly that you are no longer in love with her, looking into his eyes. ? A woman on the faces of a man if he tells the truth?.

By cons, unless it is aware, do not always tell him that you have a new friend.

Exonerate her friend

? In 90% of cases, the one who breaks the fact due to a problem that concerns only him. Basically, your girlfriend has nothing to do and you tell him. Feelings, it does not control and you may have changed over time. That women understand very well, no need to reproach …

Stand firm

Remember the purpose of your appointment: end this relationship. Your friend will make every effort to make you feel guilty. If she tries to touch your hand or other gesture of love, push it gently, stressing the fact that you no longer love. Do not be nasty, but whatever happens, stay strong. Everything’s going to happen: your first night of love, and children that you never have. Courage is the classic.
Pitfalls

The reckoning

Hurt, humiliated, sometimes torn, she will blame you. Expect a few insults or acting out. In any case, do not answer.
If you enter the game, it will continue. 

Appraisal: lost time, a good dose of stress and finally the relationship continues in another register.

Pity

The threat of suicide, classic, is not realized in most cases. Tempt to reason: it has plenty of qualities, many men would go out with her … But beware? man has more compassion, more women will enjoy trying to pick up the pieces?. A man on two cracks, returns to his ex, took the life of yesteryear, faces the same challenges and must resolve to live miserable, or break under even more difficult.

Ambiguity

? We remain friends? ? Okay, but not immediately. You can not directly go from being a boyfriend than confidant because it will keep the hope you recover. Ask friends to take care of her. If you live together, separate your business quickly and if it is you who are staying in the apartment, then help them find one another to show that you no longer want her.
And if she does not understand …

Use the broken record technique

After an emotional shock, it can not be heard because we refuse to accept the truth.
In this case, we must repeat? I do not love you anymore? in a firm voice. This will be especially important against a dominating woman who has convinced you need it and will not accept your decision.

Seek entourage

Once you’ve broken, tell your friends to make this official. Tell everyone could offer him nice things, including the guy who drag outrageously for ages. After all, it’s time to step down. If your partner is left alone, do not feel guilty, it’s not yours to solve his problem of loneliness.

Seek a shrink

If your ex-girlfriend falls into depression, you still harasses or threatens suicide, is that she needs to consult a specialist. Talk to him in insisting that this is not a disgrace.Besides, you have the address. If it sends you to speak, or just screaming insanities felt well, go through one of his buddies.