Quarreling and The Engagement Couple
by Engagement seldom run smoothly and afford the perfect bliss you might expect. And the reason is simple. As your relationship grows more intimate and you spend more time together, all formality falls aside, and disagreements, quarrels, and even fights may begin. About two thirds of all engage couples report some strains prior to the wedding.
The most frequent disagreements seem to center on:
1) manners and conventionality
2) values and philosophy of life, and
3) methods of dealing with each others families.
A couple can handle such problems in a variety ways. If they deal with a problem squarely and resolve it constructively, then they know that they can deal with issues after marriage and find a workable solution. Problem handles in such a manner will strengthen their relationship. In cases where arguments and conflicts increase in number and intensity, a couple should take a second look at the advisability of marriage.
About 50% of all engage couples report some doubt in their minds about whether they are making the right choice. About half of those wish they had never become engage and at once time or another seriously consider breaking the engagement. One fourth to one third of all engage couples break off at least temporarily.
If this period of hesitation ever strikes you, seek out a person in whom you have confidence and discuss the advisability of continuing with your plans for marriage. Prents, relatives, friends, doctors, and minesters are concerned persons to whom you may turn.
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