See No Truth, Hear No Truth, Speak No Truth

The truth…ahh I see, there is consequences in the truth. Do we want what comes with the territory of knowing everything, warts and all, or more so are we prepared to do what it takes to change to live a life like this. So is it a matter of uncovering the lies or finding the truth.

According to a new study it is suggested that it is the stomach rather than the heart that offers greater lie detection accuracy. It seems that when it comes to working out who is lying, changes in gastric physiology are a better indicator than standard polygraph methods in distinguishing between lying and telling the truth. The study by researchers at the University of Texas, shows a clear link between the act of lying and a significant increase in gastric arrhythmia.

“The truth is often a terrible weapon of aggression. It is possible to lie, and even murder with the truth.” Alfred Adler

So how can our need for the truth be fulfilled. Well strangely enough we need first to know that the need is there. We are so desensitized by all that is around us that we do not even realize that what we hear, speak, see is not the truth. So, perhaps it”s the revelation of untruth that will bring forth the truth.

According to the That’s Life!magazine, 96 per cent of women admitted to lying, 45 per cent said they lie most days and 50 per cent would lie about the man not being the actual father. (Yikes!) Yet blogger Justin confesses that it’s not only the femmes doing the double-dealing. “As an older guy, 38, I can tell you that guys may get more mature, but this does not equate to honesty. Plenty of married fathers do just fine with younger women, as long as they are prepared to tell whatever lies are required to get them into bed.”

Backing him up is the hard truth: statistics from a 2005 survey by “Write Stuff Enterprises“, found the number one reason why men lie, is “to have sex”. Sure, women lie about their weight, their contraception, their orgasms and would pass off a second-hand gift as a brand new present without fluttering an eyelash. Yet according to Heidi Muller, a relationship correspondent on AskMen, woman often lie because they are “wanting to protect your feelings”. So is this a valid excuse?

“Men occasionally stumble over the truth, but most of them pick themselves up and hurry off as if nothing ever happened.” Sir Winston Churchill

So perhaps it’s easier just to let it be, do what you have to do to keep the peace. Or do all these half truths and best intentions just create an enormous mountain that one day you inevitably have to climb, do they just dig a big hole that one is at any moment in danger of falling in to.

Perhaps it’s just better to go into it, whatever it is, be a relationship, a work place a family matter crying truth from the roof tops at least it may just be a stronger foundation than that of the one of lies.

“You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you mad.” Aldous Leonard Huxley, English novelist.