Seniority, The Best Time of Life: Part 2
by Learning to enjoy the golden years.
How can this be the best time? Simple; the only problems you have to solve are your own. You have no authority to solve those of your adult children, and certainly not those of your grandchildren.
Many Grans make themselves sick worrying about how badly their kids are raising their kids. Why?
Repeat after me Grans….”It is Not MY Problem.” Keep saying it until you finally realise it. Once you appreciate that your kids are going to raise their kids the way they want, and any interference from you is not merely going to result in an argument, but in a cementing of whatever it is they are doing, you realise silence is golden.
This “Is Not MY Problem” mantra can be used in myriad situations. It not only cuts down on your stress, but makes everyone else feel better, as you are not the interfering old biddy.
If you realise you no longer have to dress to please society, that you don’t need to be in those uncomfortable shoes, but can wear what you want, it makes it all so much easier.
It’s not that you’re batty, it’s that it doesn’t matter any more. With all respect, whether you’re in jeans or a housedress, no matter how clever you think you look, everyone sees an old lady. Whether you’re in a suit or tee shirt, you are referred to as an old man. So why knock yourself out?
You can dye your hair any colour you want, slather on make up. Everyone who sees you knows that you aren’t forty. Maybe you look so good they will think you are fifty instead of sixty, but trust me, they won’t think you are in your thirties.
Sure, on the Internet you might be mistaken for a youngster, especially if you have modern views, or clever insights, but in real life; you’re up there. Don’t embarrass yourself in Real Life by dropping too many years off your age, it only makes you pathetic.
Far better to admit every day of your age and show no fear. After all, who are you trying to impress? A female young enough to be your daughter? A guy who would like you better as a mother figure than a femme fatale?
Take advantage of your age and experience. You’ve been there, you’ve done that. If people listen to you, fine. If they ignore you; repeat the mantra and happily walk away.
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Post CommentRuby Hawk
On September 23, 2009 at 10:18 pm
Oh my, what is our problem with seniors? You have a very poor outlook on ageing. If you are lucky my friend, you will be there one day yourself. Just because you aren’t a youngster doesn’t mean you shouldn’t look your best. There is no reason for anyone to become slovernly at any age. And I can tell you from my experience the last thing we want to do is raise our grandchildren. We have put in enough time raising kids.We enjoy having time for our hobbies and things we didn’t have time for when we were raising kids. Enough said.
A. Fool
On September 24, 2009 at 12:10 am
Nothing looks more ridiculous than an old wrinkled face and jet black hair, and some latest style dress, with the old arms sticking out. I know men of 60 who look every minute of it, dying their hair and walking around like they are young hot boys and just being
clowns.
Once you’ve passed your 50s you don’t have to wear those high heels. Too many grands spend hours complaining about how their gran children are being raised.
I’m not writing about something I read off the internet. Just because I have a young outlook and see things with exuberance and live with a kind of innocent joy, doesn’t mean
I’m as young as you obviously think I am.
Balfour Coley
On September 25, 2009 at 3:15 pm
If old people knew they were old and stopped trying to be young, then they’d be more respected. But when you see these old men trying to flirt with young women, or these old wrinkled hulks pretending they are Miss America, you lose respect. it’s like a Professor at University pretending to be a student.