What’s Wrong with Being a Narcissist?

You see someone standing in front of a mirror. At first, you think the person is conducting a spot check, making sure everything is in place. We all do this from time to time. Straightening our collars. Patting down stubborn hair. Wiping away accumulated oil from our faces. Making our shirts are tucked in neat with no wrinkles. However, upon further observation it becomes clear that this person isn’t really conducting a self-inspection and checking for any discrepancies to his/her appearance. What this person is really doing is admiring the person looking back at him/her.

In our society, such a person is labeled a narcissist, defined as a person who heavily obsessed with one’s appearance and has a highly conceited view of his/her self-worth. And in the eyes of most, this is evil.

But, what’s wrong with that? What is wrong is with looking in the mirror from time to time to admire the person you see looking back at you? Why would it be okay to admire the appearances of Paris Hilton or Jessica Alba or Rihanna but a sin to admire one’s own appearance?

That is because we live in a society where it is a sin to be a narcissist and admire oneself. Being in love with oneself equals being full of oneself. You’re conceited. You consider everyone else to be beneath you. You don’t care about anyone but yourself. You’re wrapped up in being you.

Uh, hello? This is exactly what’s wrong with American youth today – they’re being told that it’s wrong to be themselves. They’re being taught that it’s selfish to “be caught up in being you”. So, what do they do? They try to be like someone else. And who do they tend to try to imitate? Their role models, of course. And who are their role models? Oprah Winfrey? Tom Brokaw? Anne Coulture? Bill O’Reilly? HAH!! Very funny! No, their role models tend be the likes of Britney Spears, Paris Hilton, Snoop Dog, The Game and others who are as well known for their brushes with the law as they are for their talent.

Now, tell me, is it really okay to be wrapped up in people like them instead of oneself?

Being conceited is not a crime. Being in love with oneself is not a crime. Being wrapped up in oneself does not mean being selfish and believing that everyone else is beneath you. It’s about believing in oneself and self-worth and admiring one’s own sense of being. Admiring oneself is the way to towards greater self-esteem and success. Being comfortable with yourself eliminates the need to feel that you have to compete.

I’m a narcissist. I never pass by a mirror without feeling the need to look in it and smile at the person I see.  I love who I am. Everyone should love who they are. How else will you successfully love someone else? Personally, I would be scared of having a relationship with a woman who doesn’t love herself to the fullest.

So, continue to admire your reflection. Love the person you see looking back at you. Be proud of yourself. Be wrapped up in yourself and be happy. Continue to be a conceited narcissist. You’re supposed to be one.