Friendship That Lets You be and Lets Others Be, Too
The various kinds of friendships that people enter into and what vitiates them or makes them worthwhile. An attempt is made to look at friendship not from the physical and human point of view, but from the higher consciousness point of view. The burden is on the individual, in spite of having the insights given in this article, to stay in a bond of friendship against seeming odds or to check out. It all depends on the person, his goals and state of consciousness.
Man is a gregarious animal, company-loving, and so the need for making friends and keeping them cannot be overemphasized. This friendship can be seen at the personal, community, national and international levels. The urge for having friends is so great that even if one is not eager for friendship, someone will seek him out and befriend him. So the saying has evolved that ” a good friend is better than a bad brother”.
However it appears that what gives many the utmost company and fullfillment, is also the source of woe, gnashing, regret, sadness and even death. The latter needn’t be if making friends and keeping them is approached with the right consciousness. With the right attitude, one can have many circles of friends, with each circle having a state of consciousness that dictates their tastes, likes and dislikes and ultimately their outlook on life. A flexible individual can thus have endless circles of friends and still be himself while equally granting them space and a sense of beingness. From experience many people are incapable of letting their friends be. And why is this so?
Some people are too possessive. They become jealous, resentful and aggressive when the friends they cherish have their own friends. They feel that their beloved friends have either betrayed them or put their friendship on a lower rung. These possessive friends want to dictate who and what comes into your life. To say the least, their attitude misses the essence of true comradeship. Could one be better off without this kind of friendship?
Unconditional friendship is what needs to be practised by many, if not all persons, if friendship is to approach the divine wavelength. Those who know about this kind of friendship think they’ll fare better without friends than to entertain friendship that dehumanizes them. Unconditional friendship appreciates only the radiant warmth of knowing each other, sets no conditions or limitations and expects nothing in return for whatever acts of kindness or care on behalf of friendship. Unconditional friendship considers each other as a precious gift of life, sees in the other the image of God and cherishes every moment spent together. At parting it’s not uncommon for those in such a bond of intimacy to feel as if a part of them has been taken away, or like the ground has been pulled from under their feet. This kind of friendship can be likened to a balm, a salve in this trying world of vicissitudes.
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