The Separation of Parent and Teenager

My personal opinion is that there is a built in mechanism for teenagers to start to be annoyed by their parents at around the age of 12 when they become “cool”. The parents reaction is then negative because they are now hated instead of worshiped, most parents can’t deal with this situation and it drives them insane. Half of parents try to overcompensate by throwing extravagant parties and loosing all the rules, while the other half become so strict the poor kids head nearly explodes and leaves them to their own devices really. A teenager with too many rules is a ticking time bomb of rebellion and will go off in a most unpleasant way, such as just moving out and disappearing or doing other things to just peeve the parents!

If a parent wants to help their teenager get through it they need to understand what is going on which nearly all parents DON’T this ensures that both parties will mutually fail each other and generally cause annoyance, distress, stress and ill will! If the parents are lucky and play the proper moves at the right time later on the kid matures and realizes what happened, meanwhile the parent realizes right away but is too arrogant and convinced they were in the right incurring the 9 PM curfew and no dating until your 19 rule! Well guess what? When the kid moves out at 18 the parent losses and the kid has a hard time at life!

Alternatively the teenager needs to understand the insecurity and lack of control the parent feels as the teenager increasingly has a mind of their own. Sure, the kid has never done anything wrong and when they parents enforce stupid rules or commence calling that teenager certain attributes that they have never and will never be the teenagers natural impulse is to fight back. Luckily for parents teenagers first reaction is rarely violence having the thought of not hitting their parents deeply ingrained, however they will do other things, such as binge drink, drugs, do poorly in school as vengeance for the words and actions of their parents. What neither side understands is they are mutually hurting themselves and each other and the only cause thereof is raging hormones and parents with lack of the ability to consider things rationally!

Is there a solution you ask? Not really, the only REAL solution to the problem of teenagers and parents destroying each other when it is time to separate is communication. Let us consider that 99% of the population of the earth does not have the mental capacity to understand and listen objectively to the words of others they have no intention of listening or actually caring despite their best Illusion of care they will ignore your every word and stick firm in their opinions!