So Maybe I Should Have Been a Girl

     Before I start I would just like to introduce myself as the “newbie” to the Triond family and I want to say thanks for having me. Now, let me paint the scenario that I’m about to discuss. When my son was just a year and a half he displayed a great interest in wanting to wear mommy’s shoes and occassionally got into my purse to “try on” my lipstick. Yes, it was funny and cute at the time, but then again what isn’t funny and cute when a baby does it? Now before you get all beside yourselves let me say in my defense that no- I didn’t encourage it by adding my shoe collection to his toy box or painting his toe nails and taking wacky pictures (a good friend of mine, his mother did that to him). Unfortunately, my son and I have been seperated since he was three, and believe me that is a whole entirely different discussion! Hmm… Maybe I’ll touch on that later, but for now back to the topic at hand. We have just recently become reunited as the dynamic mother and son duo that we are. He is now eight and much to my chargrin, extremely “girlified” to put it as lightly as I can.

     You see, since being apart from me (no worries, he only went to live with his dad) my son has had to endure somewhat of a “duel dilemma”. He had to try and lock his inner self in and push out something that has never naturally been there in the first place! My son has had be try and “toughen” up all because his Dad didn’t want him “acting like a punk”.

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Well, let me tell you what all that has gotten my son. Try a one way ticket to major sensitivity, and a first class seat on the train of holding things in. I realise now that had my son stayed with me all those years that he wouldn’t be repressed in his true personality and nature. All I’m saying is that when you don’t allow children just to be who they are that it will create problems for them emotionally and perhaps mentally. No, my son isn’t “the bad seed” he’s just unbelievably timid and doesn’t know how to speak up for himself. I told my son when he came to live with me that he was free to be who he is and thus today I found out that if he had his way about it- he would be a girl. Yep, that’s what he said when I asked him. I couldn’t believe it myself folks, but the boy loves everything about being a woman(from what he can understand at this point anyway) that every other woman loves. I refuse to bring up the word “gay” unless he does, and for now I don’t believe it’s necessary. All I’m saying is this: if your son is comfortable playing with dolls and “walking the runway” during his version of a fashion show to introduce the next Ed Hardy or Donna Karen line, then so be it.

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If your daughter thinks of Miley Cyrus as more than just an idol (you know like it could be her girlfriend) don’t be alarmed.

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We did not choose this for our children. All we can do is love them and teach them to love themselves, respect others the way they(our kids) want to be respected, and to give life everything they’ve got. Life is too short to blame ourselves or television or radio or even God. Just don’t push your kids away from you when they need you most. I mean afterall, the worst case is a closet case and goodness knows we don’t need any more of those!