The Practice Of Dowry In India
The effect of dowry in India and in other countries.
There are no solutions to this problem, the only solution presented was the legalization of the dowry act in 1961 and since then it has gotten worse. This Dowry law in 1961 made things a lot worse so it has not helped India a lot, although the dowry offenders are sometimes brought to justice this is usually only 50% of the time. Other times the women are threatened if they are not killed that if they tell then they tell the police they will be killed, other times they are too scared or the court judges are paid off in the grooms benefit. The legalization law was the only solution and that cant stop dowry deaths or dowry period because of sexism that their culture was brought up on. “Girls ate after the boys, they got the second best pick of the fruit, and they got the worst beds when the summer house burst with relatives”.
The sexism ran this deep and it ran deep into their history to the point were it was considered out of the ordinary for a women to have an opinion or to be self sufficient along with having no husband, because a male was considered a must, if you had no husband then you had no rights and your voice was not heard. Even in most families if the mother could not conceive a boy then they kept trying and this is the foundation India was built on and keeps evolving from. “But at least our family had girls. My grandmother, in fact, gave birth nine times, and got it “right”-producing a son-only once”(national Geographic.com Magazine 2). Having a sun was considered the child you were suppose to have, having a daughter was simply considered a failed try. They value the men over the women and before the deaths can be stopped the sexism needs time to be snipped at the root. There have been other attempts by female activist in northern India who grew up with rights and with pride and value for themselves but this attempt
Did not work because of the male dominance based society so the only solution is to snip sexism at its root over time and doing that this will give new generations a different view on opposite sexes and over time create a new and more equal India will come to power.
The Dowry practice is linked to a historically sexist country and is an overall result of this sexism. The dowry practice started from sexism, which is the base of the country and a lot of other countries but it seems to have hit India harder because of the extreme that the men took it to. There have been deaths, rapes, beatings and harassments by the groom or his family and most times this happens the bride is forced or threatened not to tell, if she survives.
After a law passed that made dowry illegal there has been no other solutions presented but women support groups and feminist rallies but for the women who are not lucky enough to experience freedom there voices are not heard. If the law takes it into there own hands there is still a 50/50 chance that it won’t go to far and the man will not get convicted for what is done. Nipping sexism at its root over time will show new generations that sexism isn’t right and they will grow up seeing this on T.V so eventually if this is considered sexism or dowry if not both will know longer exist. But as far as action taking place this wont stop the deaths this will just scare the perpetrators, but for actions to take place the people who take the action must realize all are created equal.
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Post Commentolivia
On October 24, 2007 at 10:39 am
while this article did a good job in raising awareness, it was very poorly written. both the terrible writing style and blatant misspellings were all over this essay.
bnm
On October 27, 2008 at 3:31 am
thanks this helped me but go over your spellings
Rakesh Kapur
On January 1, 2009 at 6:14 am
Lots of such provocative and false articles are written by feminists to gather sympathy and such false statistics are being used by NCW to get grants/relief sanctioned from blinded UN and Indian government. No accountability of such funds (Rs.7200 crore) for 2008-2009 is given to anybody. The ministed for WCD has been passing on funds to a certain TV channel for exclusive rights for covering of women issues which of course will contain false cases to create propoganda.
A certain organization got the data from NCRB (national crime record bureau) and exposed the false death numbers of women used by NCW.
If there’s a woman burning every 12 hrs in Delhi (not sure how historical data the author is talking about), then by now (since article is written) at least 1200 women have been burnt to death due to dowry in Delhi alone. I challenge the author hands down to produce these kinds of statistics and I will bow to the whole nation on National Television.
Such false propoganda by literate women (with of course vengeance and vicious intentions) is only to create havoc in the social strata of the society.
Such authors are the perpetrators of the crime and should be hanged in public for abetting in ruining the lives of so many families. Such false statistics have been used to create the 498A law which the Supreme Court of India has agreed to be a draconian law.
Unfortunately, such laws are passed, framed and supported by those women who have not been able to adjust in their husband’s families and have been using these laws only to extract monetary gains from the husband’s society. They’re are helping create a society where women are losing their self respect and they’ve made Indian women as beggars by asking for half of husband’s property even though the woman has spent less than a week with the husband. It’s better for Indian males not to marry Indian women since the price of … is too much. They can anyway sleep with a prostitute and pay for the service and not for the harrasement they get after getting married.
With Regards to all the Unscrupulous women of India alongwith the author.
Rakesh Kapur
On January 1, 2009 at 6:19 am
To the author,
Let us exchange pleasantries and please reply with your authentic data at: nuput98@rediffmail.com.
Let us get the records straight and I am more than willing to meet you to give you the right stats and how the anti-dowry laws are being misused in India only to extract money.
Angry in-law
On February 21, 2009 at 11:16 pm
Please do not view the all women as victims. Many of those educated middle class women are often not that dumb. If they play the part of the helpless facing impending spinsterhood, they often get their brothers’ share of inheritance from the family in order to be paired with the most eligible men. And so the brothers who do not practice the dowry system will choose their brides themselves out of love as love is ‘blind’ and dowry not requested. Also, they have to start the family later due to financial restraints. Some unfortunate brothers even have to sell their spare kidneys or worked as bonded laborers in oil rich economies to pay off their sisters’ dowries.
srinivas
On March 9, 2009 at 9:13 am
dowry is always right because the men is great
latha
On March 9, 2009 at 9:15 am
dowry is worest because bouth s hostehit uii lobve i loce i le i love all boys
Ekta Singh
On May 22, 2009 at 4:28 am
Well, I totally agree with this article. Dowry is still practised in some parts of India. Even if the girl is educated parents give money for thier dowry. It is a shame that the girls are not able to stop that. Girls should be strong and teach the society a lesson.
Believe in yourself and stop giving dowry to these selfish men. I really hope if i could do something for the village girls and had that much power to save them from this men dominated world.
Prasheetha
On December 27, 2009 at 11:29 pm
http://www.cry.org and look into other legitimate organizations. How do you know it is legitimate? if you don’t trust their work online (indiadivine.org or cry.org) then go visit and see for yourself. Or adopt the orphans! Do you want foreigners adopting them instead? as someone who claims they are Indian, then your first obligation should be to help your country! it is, despite it’s advances in so many areas, still a war torn country.
looking over
On April 7, 2010 at 11:38 pm
I disagree with dowery because it is forbidded by Allah. I have to however say i do also agree with Rakesh Kapur that women are also not as they seem. I now this because i am from pakistan and as you know we used to be one country, but i have seen how women manipulate men. My family doesn’t believe in dowery but both families do give gifts to the couple lke washing machines,clothes things required to live and sometimes even money if one of the families desperately needs it but thats out of the goodness of our hearts.
rakesh suggests that women are not as they seem because they are the victims but when the shoe is on the other foot they do exactly what this article suggests about men.
I have been told by my mother yes a woman that her father had arranged his sons wedding with a poor family and not asked a penny and payed for the wedding with his own money on the account of he wanted the weding to be HUGE so that the whole villag was to see that his son is being wed.
After the wedding the couple comes every week to visit and pressues her father in law for money but he said look i am retired i can’t afford to give you money like this i have another son too he deserves it aswell. Soon later she took off with everything that she could lift that is fortunetly the big things like the tv washing machine etc were left she took the jewellery whatever money she got and ran away. when her parents were questioned they were not be found.
Obviously your thinking this story is false or doesn’t usually happen and your right it doesn’t happen often but similar less sinister cases are common both for men and women.
i have to also have to really disagree with these statistics they look like they have been tampered with. If it were like this people who have 3 to 6 daughters/sisters which is common wich accounts for probably for 1/3 of the population(just guessing on that figure may not be accurate)
SO IF WAT YOU ARE SAYING IS TRUE TELL ME DOES THIS MEAN ONE THIRD OF INDIA DIE EVERY YEAR
I DONT THINK SO
ElenaMartina
On September 12, 2010 at 6:55 pm
I AM WRITING ABOUT BOOK ABOUT THIS VERY THING, ALTHOUGH IT IS FICTION, I KNOW IT HAPPENS TO COUNTRIES OTHER THAN INDIA. IT COMES OUT IN 2011.
MY BLOG: htpp://whoselenamartina.blogspot.com/
ElenaMartina
On November 7, 2010 at 1:25 am
Hi, I am writing a book about an arranged marriage and the dowry involved. It’s a novel and it will come out in 2011.
jaya
On March 9, 2011 at 9:56 am
mein shrimati jaya sachin devikar. mein khud ek dovery case ke karan pidit hu mere ghar walo ne ( meri sas laxmi, devar banti, mama mami— nand — rani, in sab logo ne paise ke liye muzse bahut sataya hai,,, roj roj paise ke liye taklif di hai, polic wolo ne bhi koi help nai ki hai is liye cort se case lad rahi hu muzse insaf do plzzzzzzzzz
Agar nahi mila to mein yah manu gee sahi mein aaj bhi ladki ek Abhishap hai our jindgi bahar Abhishap rahe geee
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