What Being a Master Means to Me
by An inside look at a master’s view towards his slave.
Finally, it means devotion and love not just any Ole love, but the kind of love that is born in knowing I am depended upon to provide a safe haven for which solace can be found. It means my love is so strong that through the good and the bad I will still be there to to sooth the fears and encourage the successes. It means I’m honest in my criticism not to degrade but to nurture. It means my love will never worry again. For much of society the only glimpse that is seen is that in which the mass media gives to society to view, which is often negative and totally inaccurate. Through my commitment to my slave I am vowing to provide all that she requires. Here’s the the part that society often overlooks or just plain old don’t get it. I do these things in order to allow happiness to come into the life of someone who desperately wishes to only be themselves. It allows them to become the person they want to be and not the person that society demands them to be. In other words I offer freedom from the bonds of societal expectations and in its place I give the strength to be true to herself.
In this world in which we live in we are expected to conform to molds of what society deems as right. But through the bond and relationship that develops through this commitment I am able to give her something that the world at large cannot. What I give are the gifts of choice, freedom, and self awareness that is needed in order for her to be who she truly is. When I became a master I accepted a magnitude of responsibilities. These responsibilities give me purpose, they give me peace, They grant me my own escape from the chains society uses to make us conform. But what being a master ultimately gives me is the one thing that none can give me and that is the right to claim my own life back.
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Post Commentt3h fake
On October 8, 2009 at 11:51 pm
If society\’s expectations are bad, why are your expectations good? Why is it liberating for her to start desiring to correct the flaws you find in her instead of desiring to conform to social norms?
Crystalis DeCavalier
On October 28, 2009 at 11:32 pm
@ t3h fake
To answer that question you would need to look at things not only from my Master’s perspective but from mine (his slave) as well. The question itself is actually answered in a much deeper and more complete way in the article I wrote titled “The Freedom of Consensual Slavery” located here on Socyberty. And no I didn’t mention it because I’m trying to plug it, I just don’t feel like saying the whole thing all over again in this comment.
But as for the main points that would answer your question, perhaps it would help to ask you to think about something. Is it easier for you to put your life in the hands of a group of people that know nothing about you and care not whether you live or die let alone whether or not you are happy? Or is it easier to trust someone that loves you, cares for you, who knows your wants and needs even better then you know yourself at times and who is someone that always has your best interests at heart?
Societal expectations are bad because they do not take into account my individual wishes and desires. Society tells me that to act in the way that feels most natural to me is to be weak and pitiful. Frankly, society couldn’t be more wrong about that fact. I am a strong woman that knows what I want. I speak my mind and know enough to voice my opinions and assert myself in my pursuit of happiness. I also happen to be in love with a wonderful man that has helped me to become even stronger then I once was.
My Masters expectations are good because he expects nothing but my own happiness and comfort. He does not attempt to correct flaws that he finds in me at all. In fact, I don’t believe he has ever so much as pointed out a single flaw of mine. He not only accepts me for who I am, but he loves me because of who I am. And this is something I value greatly in him. The behavioral flaws that he assists me in correcting are those that I have noticed in myself and made mention of wishing to be able to behave in a better fashion in certain circumstances. I trust him to give me the encouragement, stability, advise and positive reinforcement that I need to be properly motivated in modifying such behavior.
And why is it liberating? Well that part is easy. It is liberating because I am freed from the rigid cage of society’s structure and am allowed to spread my wings and learn to soar as I am meant to. And in doing so I am able to give honor, love, respect, obedience and adoration to the man that helps make this possible for me. In short, when I bow to my Master, I am throwing off the yolk of social norms and embracing my true self and that is very freeing an experience indeed.