Find a Way Out: Stop Mental Abuse

In most areas of your life you are competent and confident. You do an excellent job at work, and you are more than skilled at working the home budget, the kids, and every challenging chore in-between. Your friends adore you because you are loving, compassionate, and thoughtful. Your boss loves you because you are on time, smart as a whip and innovative. He/She can depend on you for accurate information, and knows you are backing them in a pinch. You are a great cook, a great mother, and you keep yourself and your family clean and fit. You are also very beautiful! The truth is you are a very good person. A person with true heart and a true sense of reality, and for the most part, truly loved. Your virtue of extreme loyalty is commendable and dangerous!

So then, why is it lately that you are afraid to go home; afraid to pull in to your own drive-way? Why don’t you want to put the key in the door anymore? Why does a huge part of you want to run away as far as you can, and never look back? Why don’t you run? Why is your stomach in knots, not knowing which personality your husband will be exhibiting today? Will he be drunk? Will he start lying again, and expect you to swallow it? Will he taunt you and callously insult you, like he’s been doing so often lately? Will he laugh with an evil tone while he obviously gets his pleasure from your discomfort and emotional pain? Or will he be “Mr. Nice Guy”? It’s so unpredictable anymore. He may bring you flowers and wine, and then call you an alcoholic if you drink it! You won’t possibly put the flowers in the correct vase, and besides, you don’t really even want them, because you have come to know that even an act of seeming kindness with this person, is a venomous strike, yet to be unveiled. Somehow, he will turn on you soon.

Years ago, he was a charming prince. He made you feel like a princess. Everything you did or said was doted on, and complimented. Your cooking. The way you clean. How good you smell. How smart you are. How beautiful, how kind, how much fun. Often you would hear how you are the only one he’s ever loved, and how he can not imagine life without you. You were his number one reason for living. He wanted you in his sight and by his side every moment because “he loved you so,” and “missed you when you’re gone”