The number one thing you need to do in your relationship is to give up your dreams or fantasy of your partner of who you want them to be. Instead you need to accept them for who they are. If you can’t accept someone for who they are, then maybe you need to rethink the idea of being in a relationship till you can accept that. There may be little things that drive you crazy that your partner does, but it’s a part of their uniqueness that makes them different from you. If you can accept someone for who they are, your relationship will grow tremendously. Your partner is with you because they love you and fully accept you as you are. You need to realize that and then maybe it might be easier for you to do the same.

In order to have that relationship you desire, you need to stop holding your partner accountable for giving your life meaning. Both of you in the relationship, needs to be your own self. You need to have your own life, friends, attitudes, and beliefs. You are not made to complete another, but instead you are to complement each other. That is the way to a true, meaningful relationship.

To have a satisfying relationship you cannot lose your identity in the relationship. If you have to give up your identity you will be creating unhappiness and will be disappointed with your life. If you gave up your distinctive qualities your partner may not be as happy with you, because they fell in love with who you were, your qualities and losing them would do harm to your relationship and you then risk your partner losing interest in you.

In order to have that relationship that everyone longs for you need to practice mutual respect. You need to value your partners’ feelings, thoughts, dreams and requirements. If you don’t, your relationship or marriage may be doomed.

Another technique in order to have a successful relationship is confidence. This confidence is based on each other’s actions and if they are trustworthy. In order to have a confident and trusting relationship you and your partner need to keep your promises to one another. Without trust, you cannot build a long lasting relationship.

Do not expect your partner to heal your emotional wounds. Your past is your responsibility and not your partners. Do not burden your partner with this expectation. Take care of your emotional baggage before getting in a relationship so then you do not risk putting your partner in this position. What happens within the relationship is another story and you and your partner need to be there for each other emotionally.

Finally, you and your spouse need to satisfy each other. If you happen to do all the work to make sure they are being satisfied and you are not receiving any satisfaction, well your relationship is one sided, and it may be time to leave. Sometimes you can talk about it and work things out, but remember that in order to have a life-lasting relationship, you both need to be satisfied.

If you answered parents and society you are so correct, society lets kids get away with so much that they feel that it is the right or privilege to be excused. It all comes back to actions and consequences, as a youth I knew there were consequences for lying, cutting class, failing to do homework or forgetting to my chores. Today society tells us we cannot send a child to bed without feeding him, or if he doesn’t pay attention or is not doing his homework he or she has ADHD; or he was so busy he forgot to take out the trash; I could go on forever, since I feel as if I heard it all.

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While I don’t agree with physically hurting my child, I do feel that the little padding on our backside, was put there to help keep our kids in line, what I am saying is a swat or two is not going to mental destroy them. While time out works for some toddlers and young children, it doesn’t work all the time, nor will it work when it is not consist. What I mean by that, is if Jon, plays with the buttons on the microwave today, and you stop him, and put him into time out and tomorrow he does the same thing and you ignore it; there is no consistency therefore Jon is confused at what he can and cannot do.

As a child in elementary school, there has to be actions vs. consequences otherwise, what may seem like a small problem now, will only get bigger as your child grows older. Psychologist tell us that if we deprive our child of things they will grow up resentful; well I believe if Jon did not do his homework there should be no television nor can he go out and play. It all about accountability, teach our children that they are responsible for doing their homework, because the consequences will be taking away one of the activities he enjoys.

Today there are adults all over who just are not taking responsibility for their actions, and it can be seen in the super-markets, malls and especially in the schools.

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Teaching our children to be accountable for their actions just may be one of the hard knocks of life that will only make for a responsible adult.

A well known fact, here in New York City, many kids got passed from grade to grade, why because of the “leave no child behind”; that had been in affect. While this does avoid the child from getting upset along with his family, what are they learning? The child learns he can just doodle through school, and the family thinks everything is just fine.

Things have come a long way, and now they are focusing on such situations where if a child needs addition help they have an extended period at the end of the day. Therefore the child is being held responsible, while being given the chance to better him or herself, and the parents are aware that there is an issue to be dealt with.

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Accountability is hold a person to his or her word, actions or expectations and if they are not taught this at a young age, when they get older they will find that the world can be harsh, while really not caring about where they land.

As an adult you have to be accountable for your actions, and so you must think deeply; where will this action/road lead me; and is it where I want to be? Sometimes we really don’t have control over which road we are forced to take, and that is because in the past we have not chosen wisely; thus creating the mess you are in now.

As a person walks the distances over the beautiful hills and through the trees, to take a moment to rest, you too, must walk the mile, admire the route in the hope that the road your on, will lead to a small glimpse of what we want.

Sometimes we all need a second chance and if we are lucky we get it. With a second chance you have two choices, continue what you’re doing, and achieve nothing or take a walk over the hills through the woods and think about the errors of your ways.  It is then that you are able to run along the shoreline skipping over waves; with a lesson learned, and a road map set before you, you have found the road to take. Processed carefully, so as not to lose your way; focus on your dream and the best roads will present themselves.

First of all integrity is simply doing what is right rather than what is expected of you. A good example of this is when a baby is born and as that baby grows it starts to learn to smile, to laugh, and to speak. You don’t expect much because it is a baby. As time goes on that baby grows into a child, then a teenager, then he or she matures to an adult. The maturity will bring about an awareness and a sense of right and wrong. The expectancy to do what’s right and to be accountable to others.

Next integrity is your responsibility for learning to listen to words said and being able to interpret them for yourself. The words that you hear everyday are golden. They are like a river flowing effortlessly through the streams of your mind. Those words can make you strong or they can break you. You are responsible for listening well and applying  them ambitiously to your life.

Lastly did you have any ideal that integrity is the centerpiece of every relationship? Integrity helps each of us to build trust, confidence, and love in the people that we come in contact with. Obviously life would be really boring if we didn’t have people around us who we enjoy spending time with. Families are knitted closely together. The trust that they feel for each helps to build confidence. When that confidence is felt that love will influence the lives of others.

In conclusion the chacteristic of a good person will pocess: simple just doing what is right rather than what is expected of you. Being responsible for listening to what is said and interpret it for yourself. Integrity is the centerpiece for every relationship.. These are the characteristics of a good person and that means, integrity has been put into actions.