The True Definition of A Bachelor Party: A Mans Perspective

                When a man tells his friends that he’s proposed and his girlfriend has accepted, there are two words sure to come out of his good friend’s mouth instantly: “Bachelor Party”. For the friends and male family, this ritual of saying goodbye to the single life is almost as important and exciting as the wedding is for the bride. Without one, the other just doesn’t mean as much — unless you happen to be the fiancé of that man, in which case you might have a very different opinion. Men love bachelor parties and women don’t, but should women really be opposed to bachelor parties?  This article seeks to explore from a males perspective why bachelor parties are not only harmless, but necessary for the transition between the past and present single status of a man to becoming a husband in a committed married relationship

                A bachelor party is as much for the friends and of the groom as it is for the groom himself. The event isn’t just about the erotic action, strippers, or drunken and rowdy behavior that usually occurs at these festivities, though these are the things that women tend to fixate on. It’s a special time when the best male friends and family of the groom get to celebrate the role they’ve played in the grooms life up to that point, and an acknowledgement that now the  role they once had in his life is now being transferred to that of his soon to be wife. The bachelor party symbolizes the end of a bachelor life where friends and family were the cornerstone of the groom’s life but in this last wild hooray they acknowledge that they must step aside and make room for the bride to be their replacement, and become the cornerstone of the groom’s inner most circle.

                All right, so the men aren’t sitting around reading poetry to each other. There might be a few naked girls dancing around somewhere, and that’s pretty much the only thing that the bride and her girlfriends think about. There’s that awful “what if” that crosses through their mind — what if he touches the girls, or even more? If that isn’t bad enough, they know that their husband to be is drinking heavily and that can lead to even more mischief especially if peer pressure were to used to escalate the fun aspect for the grooms last night as a free man.

                I tend to differ with this theory of fear most women have conjured up in their minds to prevent soon to be husbands, boyfriends, and husbands from attending wild and erotic bachelor parties.  My argument is the groom is already committed to the bride, the woman he has declared as the one true love of his life. Must we forget that recently this same man lowered himself on to his knee beneath her and asked for her hand in marriage the ultimate gesture of love and commitment any man could ever act upon? This is the man that just told the bride to be that he wants to spend his life with her and only her, and that he will swear fidelity until death parts them.  One wild party night with friends and family cannot defeat such a gesture of love and commitment.  The time spent getting to know each other and falling in love should be more than enough to overcome a little jealousy or anxiety of a bachelor party which may feature barely clad exotic dancers, excessive boozing, carousing, and good times with friends the bride is ultimately replacing at the foremost person in the life of the groom.

                Is it so tragic if with his rowdy friends, who know that they aren’t going to have the same relationship ever again with him, if the groom were to drink too much and get a little frisky with girls he’ll never see again?  Erotic dancers that have been associated with bachelor party tradition lore for so long?  In my opinion trying to prohibit him from celebrating that tradition and love for his friends, which have been with him through thick and thin, the bride to be is not winning any points. She is also weakening their bond by trying to be controlling through her refusals to allow him to attend such an event and doubting that her groom really loves her as much as his earlier marriage proposal showed he clearly does.

                The fact is, women should be hoping for the groom to have the best time of his life that night, and be willing to look away and understand the night isn’t important outside of it being a fun time with friends and family. And men especially husbands to be, should not settle for anything less than a night to be  remembered forever, because marriage is truly a life changing event that should be marked with an extraordinary pleasurable evening symbolizing the transition from being single to a lifelong marital commitment. Bachelor nights are the stuff legends are made of, and can be a lasting bond between male friends.

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Ever since the 1930s our country had been gripped by a notion that marijuana can make and will make you insane, violent or both. Propaganda was produced and distributed by the American government and many laws were passed condemning violators to ridiculous prison terms and ruthless stigmata. Author Eric Schlosser deems this craze “Reefer Madness” which he also named his book. In the book Schlosser examines and explains the history of the black market and all those who affect and are affected by it. He starts with the marijuana laws in the country, followed by the secrets behind strawberry production in America, and finishes with the growth of the adult entertainment industry.

            In the first part of the book, which shares it name with the title, Schlosser gives description of marijuana, the laws surrounding it, and how the laws differ from one state to the next. He has interviews with those who enforce the laws and those who break them. Schlosser also explains hoe drug laws evolved in the country under the leader ship of our presidents Schlosser establishes his view that “the decriminalization of Marijuana should be the first step toward a rational drug policy. He suggests that “Drug education programs should respect the intelligence of young people by promoting healthy lives without scare tactics lies and hypocrisy.” directly attacking the attacking the policies of are government saying, “A society that can punish a marijuana offender more severely than a murder is caught in the grips of a deep psychosis”. He enlightens his readers to the land seizing agenda of marijuana prosecutors, “In Connecticut, Leslie C. Ohta, a federal prosecutor known as the Forfeiture Queen, seized the house of Paul and Ruth Derbacher when their twenty-two-year old grandson was arrested for selling marijuana”. He also explains how illogical our “war on drugs” is using statistics from other countries that have decriminalized marijuana including Canada and Great Britain. Eric Schlosser puts his readers in the shoes of drug law victims in the first part of “Reefer Madness”. His main points are that the marijuana laws in this country are extreme. What I get for this is that marijuana laws should be decriminalized. If we did this all the people in jail for non-serious drug laws would be released from prison. This would keep the jails from over-crowding as well as create space for some of the more violent criminals. Marijuana is a commodity that if legalized could be used to make an enormous amount of revenue. I would also be an excellent medicine compared to most if not all pharmaceutical drugs, which have many undesirable side effects. I realize that the government has set a double standard that it is forcing us to live by and the only way we will be able to change this is with intense political action to ensure that our loved one’s lives aren’t ruined by the unfair drug policies of this country.

            The second part of Schlosser’s book is entitled “In the Strawberry Fields”. In this portion of the book Schlosser describes the strawberry industry and their involvement in the black market, specifically companies who hire illegal immigrants to do their work. He describes the living conditions of strawberry farmers, “Perhaps one-third of farm workers in San Diego County- about 7000 people- are now homeless. An additional 9000 of their family members are homeless too”, as well as their working conditions, “The strawberry has long been known to migrants as la fruta del diablo- the fruit of the devil. Picking strawberries is some of the lowest-paid, most difficult and therefore least desirable farmwork in California” both in great detail. He informs the readers on how land owners exploit illegal immigrant, who have no choice but to accept the low wages, in order to gain cheap labor, in the name of their own greed. Schlosser describes the laws that congress has enacted in order to regulate illegal immigration, which involve deportation for immigrants but has no mention of consequences for the businesses that employ them in order to protect their own capitalist interests. He finds this desecration of human livelihood disgusting and urge “… those who now consider themselves devotees of the market should take a good look at look at what is happening in California” because, “Left to its own devices, the free market always seeks a work force that is hungry, desperate, and cheap…” .

            The emphases of this part of the book is the American free market and how it is often exploits and mistreats people for profit, particularly in the strawberry industry. His obvious outrage at the treatment of illegal immigrants is imperative in order to understand the intense evil of companies’ actions in choosing to hire and underpay migrants. Under all this is a shout at us and government to establish laws that punish businesses for hiring immigrant workers. This will not only ensure that the immigration problem is under control, it will also help prevent the exploitation of people.

            The third part of Schlosser’s book, “An empire of the Obscene”, provides detailed description of obscenity laws in this country starting from then 1960’s to 2002. His description involves the pressure on the government from religious idealists to take down anyone who produced or distributed anything that they felt was “offensive”, and how obscenity laws were “in the eye of the beholder”. A large part of this section is the story of Ruben Sturman, a salesman who revolutionized the porn industry. It accurately describes his rise to the top, how he maintained is fortune and countlessly defeated a government that would stop at nothing to indict him, and his inevitable down fall at the hands of a lone IRS officer named Richard N. Rosfelder Jr. Also in this section Schlosser observes that as obscenity laws got more intense in this nation, the porn consumption among Americans also grew. In his opinion because the desires of Americans are continuously changing so should the views of the American government. The moment that we don’t have to hide our desires for a controlling nosey government we will be free, or as Schlosser puts it, “Our desires are now expressed in all sorts of other ways. And our government will be truly democratic when it acknowledges that complexity.

            With this part of the book Schlosser proposes an excellent point to Christians and Evangelists, “…sometimes the price of freedom is what freedom brings”. With this statement he means to bring these people into a sense of reality. Freedom belongs to everyone not just you. If you are the only allowed to do what you want without ridicule it isn’t freedom. He not only wants to get this point out to radical opponents but also to us, to our government. For years the government condemned decent people and ruined their lives all for the sake of pleasing the people and ensnaring their vote. Schlosser wishes to persuade the people into participating in the government, to tell them what we want and to keep them from breaking the constitution in order to find information on its people that “isn’t their business”. His use of Ruben Sturman’s story illustrates the extreme lengths that the government goes through to get people who undermine its authority, and how such relentless pursuit is ultimately fruitless when wasted on someone who isn’t even accused of a violent crime. This brings to attention our government s misuse of resources as well as political power and begs the question, “Why are we letting them get away with this”.

             The main point of Schlosser’s book is to point out the obvious flaws of a free market system, and how the government through trying to regulate what it thinks will hurt is, has created a huge black market in America today.  He contends that if the government would stop trying to hide everything from its people and try to indulge our diverse interests, the black market in American would shrink, making for a safer more understanding country with a higher value of living. He ends by saying “Black markets will always be with us. But they will recede in importance when our public morality is consistent with our private one”. And I agree with him. Our politicians can never relate to our people and what they need or want if they never know who they really are.  

The internet has been chipping away at the traditional circulation of readers of magazines such as Playboy, Hustler, and Penthouse for quite some time.  Access to scantily clad women isn’t even considered a hot commodity any longer for a man with an internet connection.  Looking back at older issues of Playboy, though, one thing did not get whisked off into the digital age: the biting and rhetorical social commentary Playboy editors and contributors continuously poured into their audience.

It could be argued that Hugh Hefner, a veteran writer and editor before creating Playboy, created a publication to promote literary and social critique of what could only be seen as a largely sexually repressive era of the 1950s and early 1960s.  The American icons all pictured an “average” industrial age home with a responsible sober father and a doting and over-medicated wife.  Television shows such as Leave It To Beaver, Bewitched, and I Love Lucy all seemed to promote the concept that the average American household was not questioning the dialectic of American civic responsibility to become a mindless cog in the machine.  Hugh Hefner threw that paradigm onto its figurative head.  Publishing the very first issue of Playboy magazine, it was evidently clear that the magazine’s focus was not simply on the beautiful and lustful depiction of women.  It was done with a classy evidence of a man with refined tastes, a man whom defined his own ideas.  It catered to a population of men whom were being told to work tirelessly and never ask questions.

During the social revolution of the late 1960s, during the Vietnam War and in the midst of the campaign for Civil Rights, Hugh Hefner made the risky decision to place Robert Anton Wilson as his chief editor.  Robert Anton Wilson was amongst a select group of people during this era that were academically and socially competent, yet rabidly neophilic in their idea of what society could become instead of commenting on what it was.  People like Robert Anton Wilson, Timothy Leary, and Lawrence McKenna, while all subscribing to different incarnations of their own philosophies and ideas, were completely devoted to the deconstruction of this modern age we lived in.  To Robert Anton Wilson, sexual revolution was a vital component to social revolution.  The revolutions of the past, through force of arms, assassination, and terrorism all haunted this generation and it was not something any of the writers or editors promoted.  Hugh Hefner was critical of all of the issues of Playboy and letting a man like Robert Anton Wilson take the helm showed him as a leader willing to take chances.

For most, Playboy remained and always was a high class skin magazine.  It was a relief and a release from the normal.  It allowed many generations of men to masturbate to not just sexuality, but a refined high class of hedonism usually only reserved for the blindly rich and powerful.  Hugh Hefner not only promoted this, but encouraged it and gave his audience the added question, “why is this merely reserved to the high class?“

During the 1980s and the 1990s, Playboy maintained a steady quality to its articles and insights.  It remained at the forefront of good, classic sexual depiction of the female form.  It was unafraid to address issues of sex that many readers had harbored questions about.  Once the advent of the internet began, Playboy kept steaming ahead, hoping to maintain its circulation through its heritage and poinency as a publication.

As history would show, however, maintaining one’s industrial practice in light of a changing dynamic of supply and demand is not usually an effective strategy for a luxury commodity such as a sexual social commentary magazine.  Playboy devolved a little.  It tried to get edgier.  Hugh Hefner stepped away from the reigns even farther and let it drift.  It is merely conjecture, but it appears towards the first decade of the 21st century that he was not only well aware his famous publication had little chance of survival in this new age, but he seemed to relish it.  Playboy had touched the lives and emotions of its readership for over fifty years consistently. 

The old sexual publication industries have not made the strong transition to the new age of the internet.  There is too much competition and the market is oversaturated with free and easy-access content.  Magazines such as Hugh Hefner’s Playboy could not and will not be able to compete.  Many adult males, at this point in time, are merely looking for the release and not the pondering high that follows.  Playboy offered not just the sexual stimulation, but the titalating conversation afterwards about politics and sexuality that so many men crave as a post-coital ritual.

Fair tidings, Hugh.  Your work will live on long past you and surely deserves a greater recognition than I am sure you will receive.

 The wife has been missing for a week now and the police said i should prepare for the worst. So i went to the charity shop to get all her clothes back.

I saw a poor old lady fall over on the ice today. At least i presume she’s poor, she only had £1.20 in her purse.

Irish girl goes 2docs an asks 4the pill, but ur 6 months pregnant! Says the doc, i no she says,but paddys found another hole an i dont want a fuckin hump on me back as well!

Spent some time at the wife’s grave last night.. God bless her,, she thinks I’m digging a pond.

Apparently, if a woman drinks 2 glasses of wine a day it increases the chance of a stroke! If u let her finish the bottle she’ll probably suck it as well!

A gypo girl is about to get married. Her mum says, “Emerald, you do realise that when you’re married your husband will want to stick his most prized possession in to where you piss?” The daughter replies, “Shut up Ma, how the fuck’s he gonna fit his Transit van in the sink?”

I’m guaranteed to shag the missus up the arse this weekend. She’s dyslexic and think’s it’s Vaseline’s Day.

 For fuck’s sake, what a mess to sort out. I can’t believe I’ve mixed their Valentines cards up.The girlfriend now thinks I love her and the wife thinks I want to fuck her.

I guess this is why I tip Strippers well when ever I go to strip clubs because I understand their Hustle.  I understand that there is more to an exotic dancer than the pole, g-strings, and platform shoes.  Once those sexy dimmed lights are turned off, and the dancer is fully clothed, you have a regular woman standing before you with bills, kids, boyfriends, and a regular life to maintain.  Some people on the outside have this image of Adult Entertaining as being a 24 hour job, as if it’s impossible for the Entertainer to turn it off.

80% of Adult Entertainers are just regular people.  Now I say only 80% because there are some entertainers out there that are a real mess, but they honestly don’t make up the majority.

When you’re on the inside, it’s easy for you to see the humanity in a street-walker or even a pimp for that matter because you know their hustle, and everything they have to put up with to make a buck.  I recently heard a Podcast of a well known street pimp talking about the trials and tribulations of managing a bunch of street-walkers, and I TOTALLY understand him.  I know what it’s like trying to manage a bunch of hard-headed, know it all females with no home training, and to the outside world she’s a victim, when in actuality she victimizes herself.  Now, I’m not speaking of human Trafficking and sex slaves…. that’s horrible; I’m speaking of the willing participants in this game, the ones who are seemingly normal, yet will do the complete opposite of what she should be doing. 

With the right guidance and a good head on her shoulder, an Adult Entertainer can make a lot of money and live a fabulous life.  I should know, because I’m one of them, and my life is pretty damn fabulous!