Do you…

 At this time, you might feel very angry that you possibly imagining yourself or even do things you’re going to regret later, such as hating your opponents very much, especially those who won against you, which make you decide to do everything you can to defeat them in any way come across your mind. The disappointment you feel might also make you decide to give up, leave everything you’ve been fighting for all of those times and make a new start with some other activities.

Wait!

What about accepting the fact that you’ve been defeated with open heart and congratulate your opponents with pride? Wining or loosing is a must during a competition. Most people would love to win, but some others still have to loose. May be now is the time for you to loose, but the winning is yours in some other times. So, how about giving it another best try to win on the next competition?

What for?

Indeed, it is not an easy thing to do, but those who are being sportive and brave when dealing with defeat are those who are treated in a well respected manner, compared to those who accept their defeat with negative attitudes. So, stay positive no matter what happened, for your positivity will bring you the best results to come.

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A breakup usually does not mean a total end of a relationship. Sometimes, these breakups are premature, and that the other party would still not be emotionally ready to let go. That is why people find ways on how to get him back. There are a lot of ways of going back to one’s ex. Because people vary, it is important that one should adjust some ways so as it would fit the comfort of that person. Overall, these ways and tips are what most exes would generally prefer when someone wants to get back with them.

            When one wishes to find out on how to get him back, it is important that one knows ex thoroughly so as to know which particular approach to use. The first thing one has to know in approaching an ex is to know which words to say. It is also important that one knows the reason of the breakup. Why is “knowing the reason” important in how to get him back? This is because of the fact that when one knows the mistake, one will be able to correct that mistake through mutual understanding and hope that a mistake like that would never occur again. Also, it makes one realize whether or not the person is really worth fighting for. It is also important that one should also listen to what the ex has to say. The ex may talk about a lot of reasons one might have overlooked and ignored. Those reasons may be small to that person, but for the ex, it may be a bigger issue. Lastly, one should be the person that the ex-lover fell in love with during the initial stages of the relationship or during the courting stage. That is to remind the ex what one truly is.

            With all that is said and done, it is important to know whether knowing how to get him back will be all worth it. One should question whether or not breaking up with that person was right in the first place. Also, if the ex does not wish to come back, one should learn how to move on. The ex is not the only person existing in this world. Who knows? There might be other people who would treat one better than the ex, and would finally find their happy ever after. Those people might just even be right around the corner.

This is the second article to my series about the freshman year of high school. In this article I am going to talk to you about the “extracurricular” part of high school (again this applies to pretty much everyone in high school).

 I was only involved in one club /organization through my school and that was theatre. I was in all three of the plays my freshman year and stayed at school until 5:00pm pretty much every day for practice. And I loved every minute of it! I acquired some of my (if not all of my) best friends through theatre. I HIGHLY recommend getting into a club of some sort, whether its a club like anime; or sports like swim or track; or organizations like student council, GET INVOLVED. It makes you a ‘more rounded student/person’ so colleges like you a little bit more, and the even bigger plus- you get a whole bunch of really close, awesome friends who you will love!

The trick is to find something, whether it is a sport or a club, that YOU will enjoy. The rest follows. If you enjoy it and the other people there enjoy it, then more than likely ya’ll will enjoy a lot of same things, giving you some really close and great friendships that start and are connected on a little bit of a deeper level.

Tip: If you hear about or have an idea for a club that your school does not currently have, talk to your administrators about it and if they approve, find a sponsor for it and voila! You have a club, it’ll be easier if you get one or two other people to help you get it started, from there see if you can get it put on the announcements for the word gets spread fast and those who want to join, can! (P.s that will ALSO look great on college applications- “I started my freshman year and then ran the _______ club all four years of high school” ß Awesome!)

The most important thing is to HAVE FUN. Don’t NOT do something because of other people, even if those other people are your friends. Be YOU, if you want to join the swim team DO IT. If you want to join the ‘Glee club’ then DO IT. It doesn’t matter what your friends say because odds are you will find other (possibly even better) friends in the clubs you wish to join. (If they are REALLY your friends they will support you no matter what.)

Also, try out a little bit of everything, if you are slightly interested in joining something, go to a meeting or talk to someone who is in the club to see what it’s like. You may be surprised!

Being a part of something makes high school SO much more fun! Makes sure to check out the clubs at your school, you can even talk to your counselors about what clubs your school has available to you and find out who you need to contact for information about them. Don’t be that kid who goes to school and then goes home. Colleges don’t like that and honestly, YOU won’t like it.  High school isn’t ALL about the academics- it’s about having FUN too, and being a more ‘well-rounded person’. So ENJOY high school while you have the chance, but don’t OVERLOAD yourself by signing up for 10 different clubs, find out how many times the clubs meet a month and on what days they meet, along with for how long. Make sure they don’t conflict OR take up all of your time. You need down time and time to keep up with your school work so I recommend joining the 3-5 you want to join THE MOST. And if you only want to join 1 or 2- that’s fine! As long as you are in something and enjoying it- that’s all that matters!

Martial Law

Martial law is definitely coming to America. The only question is when. Most people don’t understand the true meaning of this law and what American citizens will soon experience. The definition of martial law is the temporary rule by military authorities over designated regions on an emergency basis. Unfortunately, it is a lot more complicated than that. Martial law is another term for “police state”. If the United States was to become a police state, that means the Constitution and the Bill of Rights will no longer be effective. Citizens will no longer be innocent until proven guilty because they will have no rights to a trial by jury. People can be arrested and imprisoned without charges. Gun owners will also come under attack during martial law. All it takes for martial law to be enforced is the president’s signature on a proclamation (such as the one signed by Obama for the H1N1 flu) and the attorney generals signature on a warrant that has a list of names attached. If there is a national emergency declared, such as a terrorist attack of mass destruction, the constitution will be discarded in favor of a military form of government. Those left in power under martial law involves people in high levels of society, the wealthy elite, international bankers, and secret societies.

The people in the highest ranks of the global elite are the ones planning to enforce the martial law and the New World Order. This includes secret and occult societies such as the members of the Illuminati, the Freemasons, the Bohemian Grove, Skull and Bones, The Bilderberger Group, the Council of Foreign Relations(CFR), and the Brotherhood. Some members are believed to be David Rockefeller, the Bush Family, Rothschild, and Barack Obama. These members plan to take total control over the world. When this national “emergency” happens, FEMA (Federal Emergency Management Agency) will be here to send you to their detention camps where you will be put on the “red”, “blue”, or “yellow” list.Citizens on the “red” list are enemies of the New World Order such as leaders of patriot groups, outspoken ministers, and community leaders. They will be taken from their homes around 4 a.m. about two weeks before martial law is implemented. These citizens will be temporarily imprisoned and killed. Those on the “blue list” will be taken to the FEMA camps a few weeks after martial law is enforced. They are people that followers of the “red” list. The citizens on the “yellow” list are people that have no knowledge of the New World Order. They will be told what to dohow to behave, and be re-educated. There will be too many on this list, so many of them will also be killed or starved. Those that are not killed will be chipped, released, and tracked. This includes the implantation of the RFID chip or Radio Frequency Identification tags.This electronic device, which is smaller than a grain of sand, will be implanted in the hand or forehead

I am sixteen. I am confused. But I do know what love is. And I am not afraid to shout to the world a long list of loved ones.

The best question you could ask me, “who do you hate?”

I hate no one. I dislike a few people. I’m actually one of few people who stays close friends with ex’s.
Is that weird?

I hope not….I might need some advise…any one able to give any?

Did Whitney Houston prove everyone wrong?

Sometimes one may be reluctant to realize that people have their best interests in mind when predicting whether or not a decision one has made is not particularly the correct one.  In the zeal to prove someone wrong, the affected person may forge ahead, digging themselves deeper in a black hole upon which they will never emerge, or will need an extra push to get back on track — if ever at all.

Questions remain if the public’s opinion that the union of Whitney Houston and her estranged husband would last “six minutes” was the impetus that kept her in a relationship that was possibly doomed from the start.  Even during her Oprah Winfrey interview, Whitney Houston admitted that at first she was intent on proving to everyone that her marriage would last.  And it did last — for about fourteen years — but at what cost and sacrifice?

Are you in a situation where someone is advising you to stop seeing someone, or to cease performing certain actions and you are being resistant or rejecting their advice.  After all, who knows what is best for you, other than yourself?  You may be surprised to find out that people go through phases of self-discovery and sometimes come to realize that other people’s input and advice are really helpful to them. 

Sometimes it is worth the time to think deeply of  advice given and use it in the context with your own ideas and perceptions.

Instead of concentrating on proving someone wrong, especially when the advice is being given out of good faith, it is prudent to at least consider the validity of what is being suggested.

Rhianna and Chris Brown

Let’s take the example of the relationship between Rihanna and Chris Brown.  It is probably well known that she was physically abused at the hands of Chris Brown. Chris Brown was shown a lot of love and adoration when he appeared on several television award shows recently.  It looks as if the public is giving him a “second chance.”

Should Rihanna do the same?  Should she try to prove everyone wrong that once an abuser — always an abuser by going back to Chris Brown?

The resounding response is no.  She is literally taking her life in her hands — or should I say “in Chris Brown’s hands” by even entertaining the idea of going back to Chris Brown.

Remember to take other people’s advice under advisement, especially from those close to you.

One can learn from Whitney Houston — “The life you save, may be your own.”

This happens all the time to each and every one of us. I have been thinking about my past and have realized that I could have done better. The biggest thing that bugs me is related to relationships. There is this girl at my school that I used to like last year. I mean I was in love. I would do anything to make her happy and I just know it was hurting me. It ended once summer came and we stopped talking to each other. I began to fade away from this infatuation and towards my own self again. I realized how terrible the year had been for me. I was not doing things in the good of me, but rather in the good of her. Sure, I did fine and got through it, but I felt like I could have done something different each and every day. She used me to help her with homework and with everything. I did not want to go back to it, but eventually summer was coming to an end and I began to think again. The year was not that bad at all, I enjoyed talking to her all the time. I still could not go back to liking her again though. It was too hard on me because I was unable to gain my true goal.

Now, it is a new year and I don’t feel the same about her as I did the year before. The hard part is, she now likes me and realized how hard she was on me. I am unsure what I think about her anymore. I feel happy when she is around, but when she isn’t I don’t have feelings towards her. I believe I should give her a chance, but I do not want to be hurt any more than I have been.

What I am getting at is, though times may be tough you need to follow your heart, not your mind. I believe in my mind that I should stay away and not get hurt, but my heart tells me to give her the chance, but do not go too deep into it until I’m comfortable. Be yourself and don’t change for them. I will fight for her to make her feel needed, but I will not give up my dreams of doing what I want to do.

Compatibility is complicated.  There are so many different personality types that it can be difficult to tell how someone will react to a situation or what you can expect from them.  Luckily, we have a number of esoteric resources to give us an idea of what to expect from people.  The Chinese Zodiac is one such resource.  Divided by years, rather than months like the regular Astrological Zodiac, the Chinese Zodiac assigns each person an animal based on the year of their birth. 

So how can this help you in dating? 

Knowing the advantages and disadvantages of a particular Chinese Zodiac sign can help you in a number of ways.  For one thing, it shows you what to expect from the other person.  It gives you an idea of where they may have difficulties in relationships, so that you are prepared, should it come up in the relationship.  Your own Chinese Zodiac sign is important as well.  Knowing where your sign is inclined to be weak and where it is inclined to be strong, can help you to take a look at how you deal with relationships.  If you commonly find yourself making the same mistakes associated with your sign’s weak points, you can look into ways to improve on those areas. 

The Signs of the Chinese Zodiac

The Rat

Intelligent and witty, the Rat is slow to trust but once a friendship or relationship is built, the Rat is incredibly loyal and loving.  Rats make lifelong friends and faithful lovers. 

The Good:  In relationships, Rats hold their loved ones close.  They are loyal, loving, and supportive.
The Bad:  Rats are stubborn and hardheaded.  Don’t expect your Rat to give in easily.

Dating a Rat:  Choose your battles.  Your Rats stubbornness can be a problem, but if you let the little things slide, he will be more likely to compromise on the larger issues.  Also, try to respect his privacy.  Rats trust those they love and expect the same, especially where their personal life is concerned.  Snooping or spying is one of the fastest ways to lose a rat. 

The Ox

Realistic and good natured, the Ox makes a great friend and a fantastic significant other.  The Ox prefers home life to the club scene and enjoy simple pleasures and commitment. 

The Good:  In relationships, Ox men and women can be the best parts of old fashioned.  They have a strong sense of honor and can always be counted on to be there when you need them. 

The Bad:  Like the Rat, the Ox is stubborn once he makes up his mind and not likely to be swayed.  However, on simple matters, the Ox is more likely to let you do most of the decision making.

Dating an Ox:  If some of your Ox’s manners seem a little old fashioned, try to see the charm in it.  Your Ox man will pull out chairs and open doors for you.  He will always remember your birthday.  Remember these things, when he seems a little too down to earth.  Ox women have some of the same issues.  If your girl is an Ox, give her time to get used to new things before you rush her into situations.  Her preference for home life means she is more likely to be loyal and much less likely to stray.

The Tiger

Charismatic and bold, the Tiger enjoys new things and new experiences.  Tigers love to be at the front of the pack and this transfers over to relationships.  Life with a tiger will always be full of fun and adventure. 

The Good:  If you want someone who will take charge of a situation, a Tiger is a great choice.  Tigers are leaders and planners.  They enjoy spontaneous dates and mini vacations.  With a Tiger, you will never be bored.

The Bad:  Sometimes all that excitement can be too much, especially if you would rather stay in.  Tigers don’t like to be tied down or held at home.  They also aren’t very good at taking the backseat and letting others get their way.

Dating a Tiger: If you enjoy letting others take the lead, you’re in luck.  Your Tiger will always have something he or she wants to do.  Enjoy the ride, and take a little time for yourself when you need to.  Not everyone can maintain the constant energy level of a Tiger. 

The Rabbit

Social and sweet, the Rabbit loves gatherings but hates confrontation.  Rabbits are careful, with both decisions and money, and rarely do anything without a lot of thought.  This makes the Rabbit a great partner for anyone who needs a little realistic advice from time to time.

The Good:  In relationships, Rabbits are always careful of their partner’s feelings.  You never have to worry about your Rabbit offending you or the people around you and you will constantly be surprised at the amount of kindness and love you receive.

The Bad:  Though the Rabbit always considers the feelings of others, most people aren’t so considerate and the Rabbit can easily wind up with hurt feelings.  Your Rabbit may not always be able to take a joke.

Dating a Rabbit:  When dating a Rabbit, take care to pay a little more attention to the feelings of your Rabbit.  Because Rabbits hate confrontation, they won’t always let you know when something is wrong.  Give them a little extra attention if they seem upset and they’ll be likely to open up to you. 

The Dragon

Energetic and independent, the Dragon has no problem taking charge of a situation.  Dragons are charismatic, fun, and love to be at the center of attention.

The Good:  In a relationship, the Dragon is quick to make take charge and entertain.  Dragons make plans and have the energy to follow through with them 

The Bad:  The Dragon’s love of attention can be a problem when other members of the opposite sex are concerned.  What your Dragon sees as being fun and entertaining, others see as flirtation.  Granted, Dragons do love to flirt, though it is most often harmless flirting.  Dragons are loyal creatures.

Dating a Dragon:  Try to be accommodating of your Dragon’s enthusiastic nature toward other people.  While he or she may seem overly flirtatious at times, your Dragon will most likely back off if you ask nicely.

The Snake

Sophisticated and charming, the Snake is a smooth talker and can always find a way into or out of a situation.  Snakes are problem solvers and are likely to see elements of each relationship as a sort of puzzle. 

The Good:  If you have an issue with something in your relationship, there is a good chance your Snake will figure it out and try to remedy the situation.  Snakes are good at taking hints and can usually adapt to any situation.

The Bad:  Snakes can sometimes come off as being pushy or conniving.  They don’t mean to manipulate anyone, but it can sometimes happen.

Dating a Snake:  Dating a snake can sometimes seem like a puzzle in itself.  If you feel like you are being pushed into something you don’t want to do, speak up.  Snakes may be able to take a hint when it comes to gifts or ideas, but they tend to take silent compliance for actual willingness.  Let your Snake know when you are uncomfortable or not getting what you want and he or she will do whatever it takes to make it happen.

The Horse

Horses are energetic and outgoing, and always in search of a good time They are friendly and maintain a positive outlook on life.

The Good: If you like to laugh and want a relationship with someone who is funny and witty, then look no further than those that fall under the Horse zodiac. They love to draw attention by making people laugh and feel good. Horses are very open-minded and have a good attitude to go with it.

The Bad: They have a tendency to be very spontaneous and will jump into things quickly, including love. This is not good for someone who wants to take things slow. This is also not good for them as they can get themselves into difficult situations. They will give themselves completely in a relationship which may cause problems to their inner being.

Dating a Horse: Just as the animal, horses love wide open spaces, they love being athletic and a person who wants to be with them should be ready and willing to be out doors and very active. They are full of energy and keeping them cooped up inside makes them flustered.

Goat/Sheep

The Goat is dependable and nurturing. When they are not caring for others they spend their time lost in thought. Even though they will not be in the center of the room at a party, they have no problem being sociable.

The Good: Due to their nurturing natures they are very caring and loving toward any romantic partners. When they have chosen to share their life with another person, that person can be ensured that there will always be love and of course, hot soup when they get sick.

The Bad: Being in a relationship with a goat is not something that will happen over night. Goats are usually reserved, private people and it can take quite a bit of effort to get to know them and get them open up enough to allow you to do so. Also, confrontation is not good for them. When it comes to relationship problems or a breakup, it can overwhelm them to the point it can make them physically sick.

Dating a Goat: Take things slow and let them grow. If it is meant to be the Goat will be the first to let you know, as they are the one who will make the decision. Do not push it. Give them time to themselves and just let them think, they are most comfortable at home with time for themselves.

The Monkey

Monkeys are curious and mischievous, they love a little chaos. They are the ultimate pranksters and with them their friends and romantic partners will never be bored.

The Good: Monkeys adapt well to change and will have no problem with adjusting to new situations or places. When they find their perfect partner, that person can be sure they will have a good time with them.

The Bad: As funny and entertaining as a Monkey can be, sometimes they can take their pranks and jokes too far and hurt people’s feelings or draw the wrong ideas. Also, Monkey’s have a tendency to be promiscuous and can become bored in relationships over time.

Dating a Monkey: Once they find the right person they will settle down. Keep things new and fun so that they will not get bored with the relationship, they love fun. Monkeys are constantly active and if a person wants to be with one they should be prepared for a little mischief.

The Rooster

Roosters radiate confidence and are not afraid to admit it, they will strut their stuff. They are also extremely sociable and active; their feelings are not easily hurt.

The Good: Though they have a tough outer shell their hearts overflow with love and they will care deeply for you though they may not always show it. Roosters may not pull any punches when it comes to being straightforward, however, they will be your biggest support group as well.

The Bad: Monkeys can come off a little pompous and seem to be kind of bossy. If they take on too much at one time they will stress and become moody.

Dating a Rooster: Remember that the Rooster is extremely active and sociable they love to be out and about, think night clubs or concerts. A person who wants to be with a Rooster should have tough skin and not be over-whelmed by confidence.

The Dog

Honest and loyal, the Dog is slow to build trust but incredibly loyal once that trust is established.  If you want a relationship with someone who will be loyal and a good listener than look no further than the Dog. Dogs value friendship and are trustworthy with strong morals.

The Good: The Dog is kind and will always be there when needed the most. Their ultimate pleasure is to make sure that those around them are happy. They also are good with money.

The Bad: Even though everyone goes to Dogs with their problems and can count on them to keep their secrets and trusts them completely, the Dog does not trust others so easily. This can cause problems for them to have successful relationships. Partners are often scared away by their cold emotions, insecurities, and anxieties.

Dating a Dog: If you can manage to get a Dog to trust you then they will always be loyal to their partner. Dogs like to have a well-kept and organized home. Try to help them with their problems and show that you truly care, and then the Dog will give you his paw in trust.

The Pig/Boar

Fun loving and generous, the Pig loves a challenge and isn’t afraid to take on a little extra responsibility to make sure things go as planned.  Their enthusiastic nature makes them a pleasure to be around and their detail oriented attitude makes certain no one is left out of the fun.

The Good:  In relationships, the Pig is always up for trying something new.  Pigs are affectionate, sexual, and always willing to take the lead for a new adventure.    

The Bad:  The Pig’s lust for new things can cause problems when things get a little stale.  Pigs tend to move from one thing to another and have difficulty maintaining projects and relationships when they lose interest.

Dating a Pig:  When dating a Pig, never expect to sit still for long.  Pigs like adventure, fun, and new experiences.  They are always looking for a new project, hobby, or interest.  If things get too stale, you could lose them.  If it seems like things are looking uncertain, initiate a new project or adventure.  It will satisfy your Pig’s lust for change, while keeping the relationship whole. 

Beautiful girls. Im not one of them. I have never been beautiful. Oh, Im cute for sure. Nobody can dispute that. With my baby face and innocence I can commit crimes and get away with them. I can be pretty when I make the effort. Hot when I wear a little black dress to a party. But I dont have the kind of looks that wreck havoc with male hearts, that magic that casts a daily spell on the onlooker.

Beautiful girls. Oh how I hate them. And yet Im not immune to them myself! I can understand very easily how guys can know full well they are being taken advantage of, and yet go along willfully. Ive known two girls who I knew only hanged out with me because no one else would. I knew they would have zero affection, zero emotion for me once they are out of college. And yet, I couldnt help it. Just being in their company, talking to them, sitting with them, was enough reward for me. If that was the effect on  me, a straight girl, I can only imagine the effect on a guy! These guys can ruin their lives over such girls, always running after them, never even giving a glance to the nice, plain girl who can actually be with them.

Ted Moseby in HIMYM is the perfect example, searching for his perfect woman whom he cant wait to marry and spend the rest of his life with. Despite his best and often comically desperate efforts, he has not suceeded in this endeavour till now (And this has obviously nothing to do with the fact that the chief suspense of the show lies in discovering the girl Ted finally marries)

Personally speaking, I think Ted tries too hard. He will find what he wants the moment he stops looking so hard. He is looking for love, not a live bomb! Everytime Ted wants to give up on love, he finds a new girl. But the girl is invariably not that into him. And if the girl is into him then he’s not into her. Sometimes I feel all Ted wants is a trophy wife for himself.

I know guys like this. Its not pretty. One guy for example has girls throwing themselves on him but he wants nothing to do with them. He only wants the most beautiful girl for him. Which is fine because he himself is quite striking in his good looks. But he doesnt have that, what can I say, strength of purpose..hes too aloof, too detached. He is unlucky in love. The girls he likes are already in commited relationships or are about to be in one. They are not looking for looks in men. For them thats a secondary concern. They are looking for stability, money, strength. Its not that he doesnt have these things, he is just not sure of himself. Hes too sensitive, too humble, too self aware to be truly confident. The girls he likes are the creme de la creme, but they want a strong man.

He is strong..but not completely. Hes nice, too nice, hes so nice that sometimes he (and his friends) would like him to be less nice. Someone that nice can never be strong. He needs strength from outside. He needs encouragement, a push to do whats good for him. He needs a strong woman to support him. But the girls he likes will never be interested in doing that or are even capable of doing it. Beauty gives you strength, but it also makes you insecure. A beautiful girl can never be strong or supportive. She will always want to be first.

Only a plain girl can be the support of a good, sensitive man. There, I said it. I stand by it too. Beautiful girls want to be with the alpha male only. Any hint of weakness, kindness, sensitivity or emotion turns them off. By age 25, they are all snapped off the dating market or get married. Then what happens to the single guys pining after them? Will they spend their entire lives alone? Wouldnt it be so much better for everyone if these guys could settle down with a sensible, plain girl?

If you are one of these guys, I beg you, I implore you, please, for the love of God, dont waste the best years of your life wishing for something you can never get. She is not meant for you! NOT MEANT FOR YOU! If she was, she would have been with you, wouldnt she? So I give you this advice- Marry a plain girl instead. She can make up for her looks by paying attention to you. At the end of the day, marriage is about communication and compatibility and taking decisions collectively, not sex or attraction or looks. Relax your standards. Give a chance to the girl whos had a crush on you since forever, but whom you turned down for being plain. Its much better than being involuntarily single all your life, crying your heart out for someone who couldnt care less.

You do really dig her, though, and you want to impress her, and give her something really cool, something that might even make her squeal with delight, because hey, it is Valentine’s Day and romance can be pretty damned cool, and she’s cute when she squeals with delight. So what can you do that’s the right amount of “You’re pretty wonderful” and “It’s not a ring, stop visualizing bridesmaid dresses” , you’re wondering?

Now, you could, if you have a chance, sneak around in her home dressed all in black like a ninja, doing things such as, say, checking out perfume bottles, sizes of lingerie and shoes, jotting down the names from the sides of saved shopping bags out of the closet and so forth… but, these things take time, not to mention they are very risky activities that one cannot partake in during the fragile beginnings of a relationship, lest one be branded a dangerous stalker. And once you are branded a Dangerous Stalker, well, it makes it harder to get reservations for that Valentine’s Night dinner. Something about “Two for Dangerous Stalker” is off-putting to most fine dining establishments, though no one quite knows why.

So to save you this trauma, I am here to help. Let’s begin, shall we?

♥Buy her costume jewelry. Something cute and sweet. But be sure to include some chocolates. For balance. Cause that way it will take her mind off the fact that she didn’t just get a diamond.

♥You don’t know her sizes, but you want to get her lingerie. Is she tall, petite? Slender, curvy? Stacked, not so stacked? Tell the salesperson. If her breasts can fit in the palm of your hand, she’s probably an A cup. If she overflows just a bit, probably a B. If she’s a good handful, she’s a C. And if you have to spread your fingers to hang on and you still don’t have full coverage, that’s a D. (If anyone can explain this in a more efficient way, feel free to write in and correct me. I figured that you’d enjoy visualizing this more than fruit, however.) I have to say, though, as with most other things on the list, the path of least resistance is the ever popular gift card. Get her one from Amazon and she can choose from tons of different lingerie retailers. But make sure you mark down that the gift card is for lingerie, lest it be spent on 

♥With stockings, generally petite through 5′9″ is one size. 5′10″ and up is Tall.  5′7″ or so and 190lbs or more is Queen (or roundabouts there I think, I’m taking a guess, I know it’s a lot larger and goes up higher, that number is a low point).

♥Perfume: A few perfumes that you cannot go wrong with – Most women will adore the smell of Issey Miyake’s L’eau D’Issey Eau D’Parfum. It has a nice blend of florals along with an undertone of light woods. It is beautiful and smells very elegant and luxurious. She will feel like a princess. Issey Miyake makes a Florale one also that is wonderful. Either of these will make your gal feel incredibly special. If she is in her early twenties or so, Juicy Couture’s original fragrance is a great choice as well. Another favorite of the young set is Davidoff’s Cool Water for women. And if you really want to be romantic, you can get her Creed’s Love in Black, which was originally developed exclusively for Jackie Onassis. (But you have to be sure to tell her the tale – and why not get her a Chanel suit and pillbox hat while you’re at it?

♥Shoes: Never try to guess a lady’s shoe size. Shoes run so differently, and an ill-fitting shoe can cause serious foot problems down the road. Better: Give your gal a beautiful box of handmade chocolates (check Etsy for some amazing sellers – some may be able to overnight their wares!) or in a pinch some Godiva or Ghiradelli from the mall, and tuck a gift card to DSW in the box. She can pick out her own shoes, and try them on first to make sure they are a perfect fit. And you know the old saying, “Give a woman shoes, and you have a friend for life.” Wait, that’s not an old saying? Well, it certainly should be.

♥Other gifts of luxury: Consider things like spa days, day cruises, mani-pedi gift certificates, his & hers massage dates, hair salon gift cards (careful with that one – don’t give her just a hair cut or “get your roots done” card, or your gift may backfire on your and you’ll have a mighty offended girl on your hands – and the amount of offense increases exponentially with the amount of candy that the holiday is associated with, so yep, that’s a lot of offense. Walk softly and carry a well-stocked gift card. Again, tucked inside a gift box of (her favorite kind) of chocolates would be really good. (Does she like milk chocolate? Have you heard her wax rhapsodic about white chocolate? When she gets it for herself, what does she get? Assuming you’ve seen her do this. Just a simple thing like knowing what kind of chocolate is her favorite can score major “This guy is incredible and deserves (fill in the naughty blank)” points. Though of course that’s not why you’re giving gifts. But you wouldn’t cry, would you?

Hopefully this has given you some ideas you wouldn’t have had otherwise, and you’ve got enough love ammo to cook up an idyllic day of gift-giving that will enhance your budding relationship with that special female with whom Cupid has graced you.

Happy Valentine’s Day! ♥