If you have children, then your child’s school gates is the best place to make friends. You instantly have something in common because of the fact that you both have children, and this means that you have something that you can talk to them about while you’re waiting to pick up your child. Make sure that you get involved with things at the school as this means that you are more likely to meet people and be able to stay in contact with them. Even if they don’t end up as close friends, it is giving you something to do and people to chat to which is better than nothing. If you have young children, then parent and toddler groups are the best place for you to make friends, as you will all be going through the same stages of parenthood and it would be nice to be able to get friendship and help from people who know exactly what it is that you’re going through.

If you don’t have children, or your children are adults, then now is the time to reinvent yourself and get a new hobby. If you keep your eyes on the local news and papers, you would most likely see that there are many clubs that run every week. It could be an exercise class, pottery, baking; anything you like. But if you try to do something that you have an interest in then you’re likely to find more people with things in common with you, and that has to be a good thing.

Ask your friends to bring people along with them when you go out. If you do this, then you might find that you are able to make friends with people who you never thought that you would, and that is great. You can do the same thing in return and take a friend with you who your other friend doesn’t know, and see if they get along. If you do this, then you could very well end up with a large social group and more friends than you’ve ever had.

Don’t ever underestimate your family, either. Although not friends as such, days out with your family can be very fun and you might actually find that you have more in common than you thought! 

In the present times, people (very rarely) deserve them. If you are too compassionate and concerned to others pain, chance is, you may end up hurting yourself. Times have changed and so have people’s mindset. The one deserving of kindness will not plead you and the one you offer to be kind to, doesn’t deserve it. It is next to impossible to find the one who is true not just on the outside but also within. Know what is right and what is not and the satisfaction you get relieves your doubt.

Necessarily we need to learn to differentiate people. And donot worry to stand out even if you are standing there alone. Definitely one can never make everyone happy. Try doing it for yourself. Those who understand you will support you anyway and the one’s who are against, time will guide them. 

We all have a purpose in life, find it and live it. Every step, every action, every decision leads to a better tomorrow. Make a different pathway and let others join you. Dare to be different if you dream to be. 

“It is you who can make yourself what you desire to be, tomorrow.”

True success is when you are what you wanted to be. Believe in yourself and there is nothing that can postpone your success. Realise your passion, follow you dreams, be confident and the world will be yours.

Pride against corruption, such as the pride of being a hero, if not corruption mean not a hero.

Some people hate corruption, but some have argued that corruption is a necessity in a rule.

A repulsive expression, emerged from the ruler of the thirst of wealth, they find it to be a hero, and capable of doing something immoral.

Stupid attitude born of the soul has become a culture, so the master of a position in the work only aims to corruption.

The effect of corruption is not a thought, and not a consideration. The perpetrators of corruption has gone bashfulness, has lost a sense of shame, and has lost a sense of humanity.

Perpetrators of corruption ignores the nature of God, even they are not subject to the law of God, let alone a human law, they do not care about the rules.

It takes a lot of skill and cunning to lead the life of an introvert. One has to know how to bob and weave. Introversion is a covert operation of sorts. After years of practice, I have become an expert at protecting the lifestyle that works for me. I would be one miserable, drained individual if I did not utilize the following techniques:

1. Always own a dog. Colleagues want you to attend a social function after work, but no one will be home to let the dog out. The poor thing has been left alone for over eight hours for Pete’s sake! A big thank you to Little Bit, Teddy, Ashley, Bo and now Molly.

2. Tell everyone that you believe it is cruel to board your dog. There is no way you would go to Florida for a week! Put a poor pup in a kennel? I adopt shelter dogs. They have spent enough time in a cage. Never!

3. Always have a kid in college. Not enough kids? Nieces, nephews and god children do the trick. Visiting a kid at college over the weekend trumps any social event!

4. Have aging parents! They always need you. Parents before party is my motto!

5. Never answer the phone. The machine will get it. Return the call when you have practiced your excuse. Ask son or husband if excuse sounds valid. If it’s a go, run it over in your mind a few times, then return that call.

6. Make sure that six foot tall cedar fence that surrounds the entire backyard receives regular maintenance.

7. Wear sunglasses even on cloudy days. People may not recognize you, and they will believe the reason you did not wave was due to the dark sunglasses obstructing your view.

8. Always have the automatic garage door opener at the ready. Neighbor working in their front yard? No problem. Make it look like you are concentrating on maneuvering the car into the garage without incident. Maintain focus and immediately close that garage door once you’re in. Safe!

9. Always work during lunch. Eat at your desk. People just assume you are either not that sharp, or you are one dedicated employee.

10. If you are a teacher (me), always make sure your name is followed by “not pictured” in the school yearbook. Do this often enough,and the administration finally just gives up on you.

11. Become a vegetarian (me). Boy, does that get you out of a lot of “let’s meet for lunch” at Tom’s Steak House.

12. Act like you are looking for something in your car if a colleague parks next to you in the lot. If you are really good at this, you will not have to walk in the building with them.

13. Shop at stores that are not in your town. The possibility of encountering someone you know diminishes dramatically.

14. Wait until it is dark to walk to the mailbox at the end of the driveway, and take the garbage cans out at night too. If you dress in black, no one will ever see you.

Introverts are Nice People

I am considered a nice person. I do have a small group of trusted friends. I am loyal to the friends I have. If they need me, I am there. I like people, but not in great numbers. I am happiest when in the company of one or two individuals. I prefer solitary activities like writing, reading, or working on projects. I will talk non-stop about things that are of great importance to me. I am cordial when the situation merits interaction.

I am most comfortable among strangers. I greet everyone, and will strike up conversations while waiting in line. Strangers do not know me. I do not have to be the competent teacher, the charming wife, the dedicated mother, or the doting daughter. I can be myself, or I can be someone else.

Treat Introverts Kindly

We do like you. We will be really nice to you. We will come running if you need us. We will sit quietly and listen to everything you have to say. We will ask questions and make comments on whatever you have to say. We will give you compliments. We will get back to you, and we won’t bother you with “let’s get together.” We will give you our full attention because it will be just the two of us. With us you will have no pressure. Who could ask for anything more?

Nature vs. Nurture

I have done a bit of research on introversion and its causes. The words dopamine levels, cortisol levels, blood flow to the brain, and even saliva production have been discussed by experts. Biology seems to be a big factor regarding the cause of introversion. Environmental factors play a small role in the creation of an introvert. I was elated when I read that a great percentage of introverts are gifted. I hope I am one of the gifted ones, but that is a long shot.

I don’t paint things.  I only paint the difference between things.

Painting is silent poetry.  

Every artist dips his brush in his own soul, and paints his own nature into his pictures.

Life beats down and crushes the soul and art reminds you that you have one.

Painting is poetry that is seen rather than felt, and poetry is painting that is felt rather than seen.

Art is the desire of a man to express himself, to record the reactions of his personality to the world he lives in.

We all know that Art is not truth.  Art is a lie that makes us realize truth, at least the truth that is given us to understand.  The artist must know the manner whereby to convince others of the truthfulness of his lies.

I’m sorry for all the mistakes I made, for all the pain I’ve caused you. For everything I put you through, I’m sorry about that too. I’m sorry for everything I do, and for that fact that I love you, but I had to put my feelings on that line. All I wanted was a shot at once upon a time, too bad everyone lies, nothing ends in a fairytale storyline.

All I needed was one chance to get it right, but as per normal I screwed it up again, and I’ve been lost since then. I was to young to know I was walking away from everything I ever wanted, because at 16 you’re stupid, you don’t know a damn thing. The sad part is it didn’t take me long to realize I walked away from my reason to be.

I’m sorry for all the mistakes I made, for all the pain I’ve caused you. For everything I put you through, I’m sorry about that too. I’m sorry for everything I do, and for that fact that I love you, but I had to put my feelings on that line. All I wanted was a shot at once upon a time, too bad everyone lies, nothing ends in a fairytale storyline.

Everything about you invites me in, calls my name, can’t you see it’s always been that way. I tried to hide it, tried to run from it, but my heart kept pulling me back to you. I was scared to tell the truth, and now the reasons why are so clear, because they are real. I was hoping for a story worth telling, but this story has a less epic ending. My heart is gone, an empty space you never knew you used to take. You sing about sweet tragedies, that’s all our story seems to be.

I’m sorry for all the mistakes I made, for all the pain I’ve caused you. For everything I put you through, I’m sorry about that too. I’m sorry for everything I do, and for that fact that I love you, but I had to put my feelings on that line. All I wanted was a shot at once upon a time, too bad everyone lies, nothing ends in a fairytale storyline.

And all I wanted…
Was a happy ending to my wanna

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be fairytale story line.

Full name:  Macaulay Carson Culkin 

D.O.B: 26th August 1980

Nickname: Mac

When he was young, he became famous because of his home alone movies. After that he was ranked no.2 in the 100 greatest kid-stars! He started his actor career at the age of 4. 

Here are his photos.

These are some of his photos and now to answer the main question, no. These are just stupid rumours that people put up to try and get themselves popular! He is still out there and will be! He is 1 talented guy and does not deserve death-rumours! 

How come it had to end this way?
All everyone wanted was for you to be ok.
I never really knew you at all.
Lord will take you, it’s time to answer the call.
Even in death you will be remembered.
You will live on in our hearts forever.
Bullets run from the gun,
And you will show us what you are made of.
Remember you are loved.
Now you can fly away like a white dove,
So you will be free of misery and pain.
Most of your wall has been stained,
And all sit around your grave and pray.
Together we could have fought off the drugs.
Together we could have fought off the abuse.
Here we are sitting without you.
Everyone wondering what to do.
We all remember the good days.
Could you not have just stayed?
Open arms welcome you home.
Open arms will make sure you are not alone.
Please never forget,
Remeber you are loved.
Remember you are the white dove,
And never forget one more thing,
You will always be remembered.

Can not be with the person that you love is a very sad situation. But perhaps there is a still worse: living with a person you do not love. Throughout the time I’ve matured and changed several times my views about some aspects of life, such as infidelity. Today I understand that that is not white nor black, but there are gray in between. So when I talk about this subject I care a lot to give strong opinions, as it did in the past.

While I believe that evolution with respect to a host of issues, there is something I can not convince me. Can you be a partner of someone who does not love?

I must admit that in my past relationships have not been transferred Cupid with his arrow. At first, I tried to hold them by dint of thinking that surely the time things were going down, but no. I am one that if it does not happen at the beginning will never happen. After a few months costs me more to go ahead, meet with the heartthrob of the moment, show interest and do not prefer to be with a friend. In the end, I always end up saying goodbye, if they do not get tired first to see that my enthusiasm is not back. And, of course, always hold the same talk with my therapist, “You do not even want as a companion to go to the movies?”. “No,” I reply again and again. I can not have one person I’m not in love.

Clear what that love is not always the same. As the years pass an appreciating other things going on a couple. They say that passion gives way to friendship and affection. All that I understand it, but I have not managed to elect someone who does not love you. However, I am surrounded by acquaintances who do.

In men not surprise me. I realize that for them is easier to get a couple because they can not be alone. So bear anything rather than a bachelor weekend. But I have friends who are and have been with couples for those who are not able to get a little jealous, and never miss even feel attraction. Then, again and again I wonder why. And I thought the explanations are as follows:

Why do not dare, love is over. Although there was a time when fire was many years ago and today do not dare to change his life. They believe that power alone will not bring the family out and prefer to give up and live with what they played (which is actually what you chose) until death do them part. Indeed, some enthusiasts are encouraged to have to add some passion to the routine.

Out of pity, that ugly. I have no words more pleasant for these people who are with a partner because they know that love, although they may not feel the same. Indeed not only cheat on their mates, but they do with them. The excuse is that the couple do not want to suffer, but do not realize that they do not believe they deserve a better life. I’d say it’s definitely a delusion to be unaware that cowardice is winning the battle.

For fear of loneliness: “Better a one bad company than alone.” Many friends think this way. Even with recent partners, after being separated. But together with anyone who crosses because they can not enjoy your solitude, can not stand being with themselves. Perhaps also influenced by social pressures. We like to belong to the club of divorced or maids. And to end up making plans and projects that do not satisfy.

But living a life of mediocrity, settling for any company is like dying slowly … in installments. There may be more of a reader who thinks I’m too extreme to not want to be with any man I did not vibrate. But I’m so all or nothing.