Brothers and sisters who want to build a well-established private and elegant, The best thing you do in anger is a smile, not to speak, and if appropriate – to go

Success is the result. You must be a cause for which you
aspired. It is not easy, but very possible.

Do not lower your wife’s taste, because you are the man chosen for her taste.

You are young, not expecting a maturation process without turmoil. Troubled youth and was normal. It’s called Growing Pain, misery maturing process.

If he loves you, he will respect you. Where there is no respect, there can be no love.

The best way to reply to the person who turned you down, is making her feel loss turned you down. Be personal worth.

A good friend of my heart, a lazy soul will remain lost, despite being up.
Greedy soul will still complain, despite being rich. A thankful spirit, be happy even in the matter. Gratitude is the magic.

Forgiving does not free him from responsibility, but to free your heart of anger

Delivering honesty that made him cry, it’s better than make her smile with a lie

A good friend of my heart, a lazy soul will remain lost, despite being up.
Greedy soul will still complain, despite being rich. A thankful spirit, be happy even in the matter. Gratitude is the magic.

Forgiving does not free him from responsibility, but to free your heart of anger

Delivering honesty that made him cry, it’s better than make her smile with a lie

Reasonable for anyone
to complain about life
are not as expected.
Is unusual
complained willing to live without
to adjust the attitude and manner.
Life is represented by a human.
If we do not build quality
they can appreciate,
This life we would appreciate inexpensive.
Happiness is equilibrium.
There is no balance can be achieved
without adjustment.

It is money from the Lord, falling from the sky,
but coming to us through other people.
So we do to benefit others,
very large role for the good of our sustenance.
Consider the way we work and
relate to others,
because it determines the goodness of their hearts to us.
Remember,
that the pleasure of others to us
God is a sign of joy to us.

I am afraid to talk much on these two dead-end poles, nevertheless i am going to. Don’t we all agree that we loose our nerves at times, some people all the time and some people most of the time and the rest are always serene either because they do not want to express their anger or emotions and strong enough to accept or they are weak enough to go home and weep all through out the day.

“I dont want any of this to change”, is the underlying notion for anyone to get mad on anyone. Those who remain calm aren’t those who are weak. Now, “did you notice me contradicting what i have mentioned earlier as to weak enough to weep”, Yes. I meant that. Staying calm or quiet is not weakness but anger is a kind of weakness which we need to overcome.

My grandma used to tell me when i was a kid ,”Anger is something that makes you do things in haste and you end up confused, repent, regret”. True to myself, I have grown very calm in years not because of these notions that i have been hearing from people or not because of the criticisms i heard from my relatives every day whenever i expressed myself, but because i felt the need to change.

Each of us express our emotions in the way we can at that point of time. However, it is the perception people start to have about us which changes the way we express. As a kid when i used to get angry, i used to tap my feet, get inside my bedroom and weep for about an hour and come back normal on a flat after sometime. Gradually my anger turned into silence which will cause nothing but provoke thoughts. Relationships will quickly turn into shape than ever expected once you keep anger side and step up with a smile though difficult.

Atleast when you get angry, don’t ask or think about the reasoning portion which will only burn the flames even more. Argument with your boy friend or girl friend will happen quite often though you dont quite anticipate and have love for such disputes. Yet, take time off, just step aside after a small heated argument rather than digging deeper and being left with nothing.

Be it with your friend or lover or your family or any other acquaintance, Pinpointing the wrong or misdoings will only create more of misconceptions and misunderstandings to a greater extent. Hardest and the worst point is the point of conflict wherein each person’s notions differ from the other which leads to conclusion that either if people are in relation, they wish to breakup and if it is the relations otherwise,they still want to loose family. If we can overcome those emotions such as the attitude part and egoistic or self-pride nature, we can easily overcome anger and spread love all over.

May sound philosophical but each word i wrote matters a lot if you want to be one of those in 10 ratio with the ability to handle emotions and people and situations without becoming aggressive or being rude, You will stand out of crowd in a very small span of time as a lovely human being.

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When is it spanking? When is it abuse?

Many will quote the Bible verse “Spare the rod and spoil the child.” The Bible Says: “He that spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes” (Proverbs 13:24) and “Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell” (Proverbs 23:13-14).But this was written in the Old Testament.

But the New Testament adapts the parenting instruction advising that a Christian leader should be “one who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all reverence, (for if a man does not know how to rule his own house, how will he take care of the church of God?). So then in considering these verses located in I Timothy 2:4 and 5 we can draw the conclusion that a good Christian leader leads his family with Christian doctrine not by striking them. The ultimate authority is Christ so the wise parent lives a Godly life leading by example.

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Encourage not discourage your child.

A child is to be disciplined with grace not beaten into submission. It is not about breaking the will of your child, but building up your child. We are given instruction on how to not discourage but encourage our youth. Physical punishment may keep your child in line while you are present to inflict the punishment, but what happens once the child is on his or her own? A child who is grounded in faith has a foundation which is instilled and helps a child to make appropriate decisions on his or her own.

Ephesians 6:4 “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. “

Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
Proverbs provides a promise and a command, not a suggestion.

Grace can undo poor child training and one of God’s gifts, His righteousness is one of the best instructional tools known to man. Train your child with consistency, God’s doctrine and by example tempered with grace and love. We cannot make our children righteous as it is a gift from God. We can teach them God’s word and by living in a Godly way, they will seek the righteousness of God. “Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God” Romans 10:17. Is the child hearing the word of God?

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The author of the best-selling book “Raising a Thinking Child, Myrna B. Shure PhD wrote in her book Thinking Parent, Thinking Child “I don’t say “Never spank” an occasional spanking won’t hurt your child, and it may legitimately relieve your own anger and frustration. However, if you rely on spanking, you’ll encounter many unintended consequences. Perhaps the most serious result is that it teaches your child to disregard his own feelings.” Caring for their own feelings is the first step towards learning empathy.

The following results are born from frequent and harsh spankings:

• Spanking can cause a child to feel overpowered and helpless leaving him or her angry and frustrated. Needing to regain power they may feel the need to exercise power over those who are less threatening to them. This is how a bully can be born.

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• A child may withdraw emotionally from the parent who spanks them frequently losing trust and an emotional bond with that parent. They may also rebel from the very values that parent is striving to instil.

• Spanking causes a child to avoid the behaviour which caused the spanking but not to think about proper behaviour.

• Spanking may teach a child that hitting is an appropriate way to express anger and they may lash out physically when they are angry.

In conclusion, spanking should not be the only form of punishment. A parent needs to learn how to instruct a child as to the consequences of bad behaviour in a positive way to make discipline a teaching tool. Train your child in the ethics of the law, not the letter of the law so they can make wiser choices and they will feel more confidence and a stronger self-esteem when faced with life’s trials.

To be able to management the juvenile’s ire, the fogeys should notice and perceive the foundation cause. in an exceedingly young person’s life there’s an endless list of prospects. If their folks are divorced or separated this might be what’s aggravating them. they might be upset as a result of they’re experiencing educational difficulties. Some youth are simply born with a hot temper. different reasons for them being enraged aren’t as straightforward to see. 

After the fogeys find the cause for the young person’s ire, they ought to work on casting off what’s inflicting the kid to be angry. If marital issues are the foundation cause, each mother and father should notice time to participate in activities with their youth. Verbal confrontations with one another solely infuriate’s the juvenile additional. the kid can detect the resentment the fogeys feel toward one another. As a result, the youth are additional upset. Lower the explanation for the child’s stress can decrease their aggravation. 

Sometimes skilled assistance is required when serving to the young person upset what makes them mad. several cities or surrounding communities have counselors who are trained to upset these forms of issues. A pastor or influential church leader may also be willing to speak to the juvenile. The child’s faculty counselor may also be able to visit them concerning what’s upsetting them. In some cases, the young person’s coach are willing to take a seat down and visit the youth concerning what’s enraging them. typically all they have is somebody to speak to that they feel is on their facet. 

If a parent suspects that their child’s ire is ensuing from a state of affairs in class, they ought to contemplate talking to the youth’s academics. academics usually observe the young person in an exceedingly totally different approach than what the child’s folks. Consequently, they will understand if somebody is bullying the juvenile. they will conjointly notice the youth’s educational struggles. If these issues are frequent and might not be solved through further facilitate, then the parent might got to contemplate hiring a coach or consulting the special desires department at their faculty. 

For some tykes, get rewards is a superb thanks to facilitate them management their outburst as a results of their aggravation. the fogeys set the goals concerning the juvenile having the ability to manage what makes them upset. When the goal is reached, the young person receives the reward. In time, hopefully the youth are able to management their aggravation while not the system of rewards. 

Sometimes, the juvenile has been given additional independence that what they have. This in flip causes them to be mad at their folks. the fogeys should have firm pointers for the juvenile. These pointers establish limitations that decreases their aggravation. As their aggravation decrease their angry mood changes to a additional positive mood. 

One of today’s fashionable topics is a way to facilitate the adolescent manage their anger. folks are frantically trying to refer their adolescent in busy and insane world. As they fight to manage their adolescent’s anger, several folks don’t understand what steps to require to unravel their young person’s anger issues. Hopefully these anger management concepts can facilitate each folks and their adolescent work on the child’s anger along.

Many experience frustrations throughout their lives and have no clue how to deal with it. They may even go so far as to try and take their life or the life of another. Its very important to deal with the problems with a clear head and talking them through will help a great deal. make a list of what makes you frustrated and why so that you’ll prioritize which ones to deal with first. Make a habit to take breaths in and out when you feel over whelmed or down right frustrated. Always make an attempt to relieve the cycle of frustration.

Dealing with disappointments can be difficult and nerve-racking. Somehow or another, we need to face the difficulty to either trying to resolve the problem, or to let it be. When we feel disappointed, it seems like there is no way out of the situation. That we would feel at lost ends with the issue. 

But while being disappointed, majority of the time, we’d transfer that disappointment into anger or sadness. To be in control of ourselves is something we need to do as much as we can, to avoid any other unnecessary stress. 

Take a deep breath

Then take the time to think about solutions and other alternatives, if it is an issue, then we need to try the best we can in finding a way out of the disappointment. If it is a result, then we need to accept that it has alraedy happened, while being in control of ourselves, to accept what has happened, and not let it occur again. 

Though sometimes, the disappointment keeps reoccurring, and feeling at complete lost seem like the only thing we can feel. And yes, it is true, that sometimes mistakes do happen ever so often repetitively. Solutions after solutions do not seem to work. Then perhaps, it should be something which we need to compromise or give up on? 

Which ever the path you choose to take. Remember that disappointment is always a part of our lives. And we need to either accept it, or change it. However, don’t let it control your life or take over your everyday thoughts. Life still needs to go on. 

What bitterness is

Bitterness can better be seen as a spiritual poison and a means by which many get destroyed under its corrosive effects. It is the source of countless spiritual, emotional and physical problems in millions of lives today. It can be tricky to recognize bitterness because it’s not a symptom or visible on the surface like anger usually is. Many bitter people claim that they aren’t  angry or hateful persons, but that’s not what bitterness is all about. Bitterness is an underlying problem that doesn’t always manifest on the outside, but dwells in that person’s system, essentially, it is hidden.

Hidden bitterness

 Bitterness is like a root hidden in the soil under the surface. Few plants show off their root system, but if the plant didn’t have a root system it wouldn’t survive. A root’s job is not to manifest on the surface, but to brew under the surface and fuel things that are on the surface. In the same way, hidden bitterness is in a person’s soul. It is a hidden element that lies under the surface, and out of it springs up anger and other negative emotions against others and against the circumstances around them. People who have a root of bitterness find it easy to get upset over things that other’s are doing around them. It’s like a brewing fountain that lies beneath the surface, waiting to fuel something that is on the surface. Many women who have been raped for example, are kind and gentle and loving people, but inside they are bound up because of what was done to them many years ago. Just because they aren’t angry or outrageous individuals, does not mean they are free from the root of bitterness.

Link Between Hidden Bitterness and anger

Individuals who have hidden bitterness will often find it easy to become angry  over little things that go on around them. It is easy for them to look at the circumstances around them as the source of their problems, rather than seeing how they are handling those circumstances. Instead of letting it go by forgiving those who hurt them, they let it get to them, and it devours them alive.

How to deal with Hidden Bitterness and anger

The only way to deal with hidden bitterness is to cut it off at the roots and remove it from your soul. There is need to make a choice to release all hurt and bottled up feelings inside your systems, by forgiving and forgetting about those who hurt you. Make a complete “U” turn from those feelings of bitterness and forsake them and  instead, allow love to minister to your soul!

Who I’d like to spend the rest of life with a man temperamentally? Unfortunately, sometimes temperamental nature of man does not appear at the beginning of a relationship. In order not to let the wrong choice, here it is the characteristics of someone who has an unstable emotion.

1. Sensitive

Quite often emotionally hooked just because a trivial problem. He became supersensitive to the topics cornered. For example, a small mistake he’s ever done and so forth.

2. Not receive state

Life is always spinning. not rare luck had sided with him. but he always denied it. Instead of introspection, he is busy blaming anyone he can appoint.

3. Jealous and controlling

These characteristics will begin to be seen if the long-run relationship. He began to restrict your space. Controlling all activities, including those who are in your neighborhood. He did not hesitate to vent his anger, if you do not want to obey his words.

4. Demanding things of excessive

Nobody’s perfect, including you. So when the couple began to demand things that are excessive or unreasonable, should begin to be vigilant. He wants you to be his own version of the perfect woman, without thinking about your feelings.

If the couple began to exhibit behavior as above, should begin to be vigilant. Moreover, temperamental man did not hesitate to hurt their partner physically and mentally. Do not waste your life, better give your love to someone more valuable.

Angry, it was normal. But in some cases we also have to stifle anger. For example, when in office, or in the community. So even with a few minor incidents such as traffic jams emotional drain every morning.

Do not let your emotions over-spill because it will spread on the level of stress. Here are the five best ways to calm down so that anger can be avoided.

1. Sitting quietly

Simple things like this turned out to have a positive impact. Or if you have time, meditate. The effect helps to calm the mind and body can work well to adjust to the emotions so that you can think better. When you feel panic or emotion, try to calm down for a few moments.

2. Sleep

Sleep also helps you to get a more relaxed mood. It also restores the body and relieve tension. Usually people who sleep less hours, be more irritable. If you find it hard to sleep, try to listen to instrumental music, or bath with warm water.

3. Mild exercise

Physical exercise, can prove to dampen emotions. Brisk walking, swimming, or anything else. When the moving body, endorphins are released, so the mood for the better.

If you already angry, do exercise a little more weight. Lifting weights and boxing for example. This way both to release feelings of anger because it will pump the blood flow faster.

4. Keep the agenda

Sometimes face agenda book can also create the feeling of being poor. You must be confused as to get a solid schedule. To clean your emotions, try to keep these records for a moment the activity of your presence, so it is more relaxed.

5. Use logic

Sort out the problem in a state of anger is very difficult. Sometimes we also do not use logic when dealing with problems that caused the anger. Try to relax your mind to know what your reasons to be angry. If not found, so why be mad?

There has yet to be a study that can find any solid link between violent video games and people committing violent acts. So do video games really make us more violent? Youth violence often gets blamed on video games, but not other violence. In fact, violent video games may even reduce aggressiveness by acting as a safe outlet for anger and stress.

The battle over violence in video games has been going on since the 1970’s, when a game called Death Race was released. The purpose of the game was to run over “gremlins” that many claimed looked too much like humans. Ironically, people protested by dragging Death Race machines out of arcades and burning them, that is violent in itself. Almost every time there is a major violent crime, the blame is placed mostly on video games, especially when youth are involved. There have been many attempts to pass legislation against violence in video games, with few being successful. In 1994 the video game industry voluntarily established the Entertainment Software Rating Board (ESRB) to try to avoid government involvement. As video games continue to become more realistic, so does the concern of the effects of such graphic violence.

One of the biggest concerns most people have about violence in video games is how they affect youth. Parents are concerned that children are playing video games that are too violent for their age. Whether violent video games effect teens and adults or not, many fear that younger children may be more easily influenced by the violence. If this is true, it should be the parents’ choice and responsibility to decide what they allow their children to play. Letting your child play with knives may not be in their best interest either, but there is no specific law against that. It is just common sense that the parents would not give knives to their child. Since there is little research that effectively decides if violent video games affect us, it is the parents’ choice to make. Video game historian Keith Feinstein notes that: “the Columbine shooters played with pipe bombs in their basement and no one stopped them from playing Doom. But no one stopped them from building pipe bombs in their basement, either”. As for the rest of us, we will not be turning into mass murderers anytime soon. Research has found some negative effects of video games pertaining to violence and aggression, but these effects are minimal, and are comparable to many other sources of violence in our society, “some media-violence researchers recently published an article suggesting that reading passages from the Bible with violent content increases “aggression” in much the same way that video games supposedly do. So if video games have to be restricted from children, apparently so do at least some portions of the Bible”, “And, of course, videogames aren’t the only pastimes that could lead to aggression: dodgeball, paintball, and a bad beat in Texas Hold ‘Em can heighten arousal, too. Dr. Vincent Mathews, a radiologist at Indiana University who has studied the brain’s response to violent video games, suggests that the effects of these other activities would be comparable. “I would think that paintball or dodgeball would show similar results,” he says. “But no one is calling for these games to be banned””.  We are surrounded by violence, so why pick on one source that is no worse than the rest?

There has been a lot of research done to try to prove violent video games do make us more violent. Many claim that their results show this is true. However, most studies have produced varied and inaccurate results. Publication bias is a huge issue, “Admittedly, publication bias (the tendency to publish articles that support a hypothesis and not publish those that do not) is very likely a widespread problem in the social sciences and is not unique to video-game studies”. In my own research I found it more difficult to find articles defending video games than I did articles that accused video games of more than just making us more violent. Publication bias can also be linked with over exaggeration, “social scientists may be too prone to make big and frightening pronouncements from weak results”. Other studies have been flawed due to factors like using outdated video games, “Reading the fine print in the Dill and Anderson study, for example, reveals that the researchers used outdated, mismatched games and required an absurdly brief amount of actual playtime from the subjects”. In addition, for some reason there has been very little long term research done. How can we possibly determine the effects video games have on us if we do not conduct studies that last for more than an one or two hours at a time? If there were to be any drastic effects of playing violent video games they would not all be instant. Dr. Dmitri Williams of the University of Illinois said “You can’t study people for 20 minutes and know what’s going to happen to people in society 10 years later”. Another obstacle that hinders any research done is the inability to replicate or allow for actual acts of serious violence. Although it would be effective, we can’t give test subjects a loaded gun and see what they’ll do with it after playing a video game for 10 minutes.  ”We can’t have people assault, rape, or murder someone” in the lab, says Dr. Brad Bushman, a University of Michigan psychologist who studies the effects of media violence. After sorting through all the studies that have been done, and take the above issues into consideration, there remains no significant proof of any link between playing violent video games and becoming more aggressive or violent, “My meta-analysis concluded that there was no evidence to support either a causal or correlational relationship between video games and aggressive behavior”.

            If video games have been accused of making us more violent for many years now, and no one has successfully been able to prove it, why are we still worried about it? To fully understand where this fear of violent video games came from, you must first understand who the people that have this fear are. Looking back in history, there has always been something that parents of a certain generation were afraid of because they thought it would harm the youth of that generation, “Like Elvis in the 50s, or Dungeons & Dragons in the 1980s, videogames are still viewed as the dangerous scourge of youth culture”. It is mainly the last generation, who are unfamiliar with video games that blame them for the youth violence they see on the news. Many are intimidated of video games because they do not understand them and the complex culture and effects that surround them; “when people are frightened, oversimplifying a complex problem becomes attractive as a quick, easy fix to an otherwise imposing cultural barrier”, “it is the underlying technology that frightens older generations who can’t comprehend the fast changing mechanics shaping the way the world interacts”,”They do not understand the modern language. They become frightened of what they do not understand.” says video game historian Keith Feinstein. What a lot of people have forgotten is that it is not just youth who are playing violent video games. Many people in their twenties and thirties have grown up with video games and continue to play them. However when there is a violent crime committed by an adult, no one questions if video games are to blame, “We are for some reason more interested in violence when it is committed by young people. But we didn’t ask what kind of music and video games Tim McVeigh [the Oklahoma City bomber] was into” said Sociologist Karen Sternheimer, specializing in pop culture and youth at the University of Southern California. This is the perfect example of how we can blame video games for our problems without looking at the bigger picture. Violent video games have essentially been stereotyped.

One thing I have found odd about all this video game controversy is that we have overlooked our own intelligence. If we are smart enough to conduct studies about their effect on us, then are we not smart enough to know when a game is a game, and not to try to relive it in real life? “Video games, like the rest of the media, form a faceless specter that we have called into being with our own internal desires for sex and violence, yet can turn against when we need a straw man to blame for our own recklessness”, maybe we need to stop blaming video games, and take a look at ourselves: “people who had previously filled out questionnaires reflecting an even-keel personality were less aggro after playing a violent game. Those who had a more aggressive disposition were more susceptible to these heightened emotions”. So there is hope for our intelligence yet, it seems that violent people are more affected by violence in video games. Thus one can assume that people who commit violent crimes are just violent people, not mindless killers brainwashed by Grand Theft Auto. So what does that make the rest of us who play video games? Normal, “The British Board of Film Classification conducted a survey that found that “the violence helps make the play exhilaratingly out of reach of ordinary life…. Gamers seem not to lose awareness that they are playing a game and do not mistake the game for real life.”.

            What if we have this backwards? What if, instead of thinking violent video games causing us to replicate that violence in real life, replicating violence in video games actually stops us from committing said violence for real? It is not a completely absurd thought. Maybe when we are angry and feel like punching the next person who says something to us, we can go blow someone’s head off in a video game and that will take the anger away. Although it probably depends on the type of person you are, I fully believe that taking your anger out on video games is very effective, as well as safe. I personally can relate to this. I also find playing all video games relaxing regardless of the level of violence in them. Now some people may agree with this, some may not, but there is one thing that may support this actually being true, “The numbers do not lie. Violent crime is down, but violence in video games is up”. Violent crimes have been going down over the same time period where video games have been growing more popular and more violent. No one knows if this is because video games help prevent real world violence or if the two facts are unrelated and just a coincidence, but how can video games be making us more violent if the facts prove the opposite? “Could you imagine how far the debate on global warming would have gotten if the earth’s atmospheric temperatures were decreasing while pollutants were being released?”

            With all the research that has been done, it is still unclear if video games do make us more violent. What we do know is, if there are any effects at all, they are minimal. Since it remains a matter of opinion, the only thing we can do individually is make our own personal decision on what to play, and what to allow our children to play. Researcher Craig Anderson, chair of Iowa State University’s Department of Psychology said it best in my opinion, “It’s society, not science, that must decide how to deal with the negative effects of violent video games”. Is this going to stop me from playing video games with violence in them? No, so if you don’t mind, I will now go back to peacefully playing Call of Duty.