When you met the man of your dreams how do you plan to make them yours? More than that, how do you plan to keep them? Then there are those that have a good man and have no idea how to treat them right.

It is time to step it up!

If you have a man that rubs your feet, cooks for you and brings in income? Takes care of not only you but your kids that aren’t his? Listens to your issues and has no problems stepping up when he has to?

Would you let him know what he does is appreciated and not taken for granted?

Would you talk to him and not at him? Would you let him know what he feels and says is important or would you call him stupid and demean him? He already has a mom, he doesn’t need another. He is a grown man not a lil boy treat him as such.

Would you laugh at those crazy jokes or funny faces he makes to try to make you smile? Or Would you look at he like he is stupid or childish? You are supposed to be his playmate as well as partner. He is supposed to have fun with you.

Would you let him know he looks good in the morning, afternoon and bedtime? Even after he works around the house or coming in from work? Isn’t he still sexy sweaty and dirty? After all he just came home to you and has worked for his family. Does he feel appreciated? Or would you say get away from me?

Would you record that movie because he wants your attention? Would you tell your girls, sorry I am busy with my man when they call? Would you put the kids to bed early or at a sitter so you can spend real time alone.? Would you still do all those things you use to do to win his heart?

During sex would you let him know what you like by talking to him? Would you let him know what he does pleases you? Would you initiate sex? Do you let him know you desire him anywhere, anytime? Make him want you, make him desire you, in and out of bed.

Sex begins with the mind. Please your man sometime with no favor returned and smile and say this was because you make me happy and I love you. That moment will last in his head for a long time.

When someone talks about your man would you have his back? Would you stand up for him? Would you put him above all others? Would you put him above everyone including your family?

When he comes in from work do you ask about his day and make sure you have time to listen? When he isn’t feeling well are you attentive, do you make sure he is comfortable?

Think about it. If you don’t appreciate who you have another will. If you don’t show him he needed someone else will. If you don’t show him you desire him, believe me another will.

This is how you make love to him outside out of the bed. This is what you give him no other can. This is what sets you apart from everyone else.

So of you are taking him for granted. It is Time to Step it up !!!!

There are women that already have a good man at home. But are searching outside their front door. Somehow, Someway the romance has left. You don’t desire him or want something different.

I feel people that cheat are truly insecure. They need to prove their sexiness, worthiness or esteem through the approval of others. It takes allot to be with one person. When you step outside your door, you have loss respect not only for your partner but yourself.

You never know what you’ve had, until someone else is getting it. If you have a good man treat him right or trust me someone else will. Don’t take advantage of a good thing. Let them know not only are they loved but appreciated, needed and respected.

Look inside YOU first and see why you need someone besides your partner to desire, crave or want you? If the romance has simmered, STIR the pot….Get it going again.

When you keep it going at home, you shouldn’t have to worry that he will stray. If he does maybe you need to re-evaluate the relationship. Apparently you don’t need or want the same thing.

But if you got a good man…..Get it back…..Bring your sexy on and live all your fantasies with him. Take a chance and voice what you fear. Be bold and reach out. Step outside your boundaries alittle and experience new things together. Re-live some ol times and memories.

Love and romance doesn’t have to die. Live it everyday…Make it a daily routine.

Let a man know you need him…

Let a man know you want him

Ask his opinion

We don’t know it all

Kiss him for no reason

He is desired

Laugh with him

He is the reason you smile

Adore him

Write lil notes and sneak your panties in his pocket

Respect him

Never demean him alone or in front of others

Compliment him

He was handsome when you met him, now he is fine as hell

Desire him

Initiate sex, it is not “job”, Small touches, kisses and soft words that bury themselves in his heart

Crave him

Dress for him, wear sexy panties or none at all, put on those heels and run a soothing bubble bath for 2

Let your man tell his hopes and dreams

It is fun to imagine and extraordinary if it is achieved

Let him know he is number one

Friends, family and others came after your man’s feelings and needs

Let him reach for the stars

Be his cloud if he should fall

Let your man be who he is

After all that is who you fell in love with

Any man can be wanted

It takes someone special to make him feel needed

It is time to step it up…..

If you don’t appreciate your good man

There is always someone out there waiting that will.

Step it up!!!

So much to look forward to, with or without making money. Sure, we have to survive, but we can at least enjoy the life that has been given to us … because, we do not know when we are going to leave this world, or when and if our  lives will be cut short. I have tried to find so many ways to make money, but I accept what I have and sometimes, it’s good to enjoy the day; look around you with different perspective, if you are working or forced to work, that’s understandable; but we have so many things in this world, the outside, a beautfil sky, sometimes we can go out to a park or zoo, or animal resorts out of the city; if we are privilaged to do so; just to relax and read a book, don’t always focus on technology and the internet or cell phones, or mxit chat rooms; we can do so much more, just being alive, soaking in the sun and the air, living for the day and the moment, has really changed my life and way of thinking; we caught up so often in technology and the stresses of daily living, that just looking around us and the outside environment – we have forgotten how to, and just being in the garden, tending to the weeds or going out to the mall and doing the shopping; you can take a step back, and look through new appreciative eyes, of the things that are around us indoors and outdoors, and appreciate the things that we have; the rich and poor alike have the out doors and natural surroundings, we to, can appreciate the finer things in life. 

We also need to look at our health and what drives us, keeps us in the know and ambitious; we tend to forget the things that are happening inside of our bodides, or to us, and on a deeper level, stress can hurt your body to a larger degree; if you look after your mind and the way you feel every day, your life and how you look the world will change dramatically, and your health will improve, your living conditions will change, your bodywill pick up on these rhythms and you will enjoy life more, and to the full and feel more alive and complete.

Most of the times we get motivated by others or other’s achievements.  But the key factor is that we need to be moved by ourselves with motivating factors. The motivating factors should be able to inspire you from yourself.

There are some methods of culturing internal or self motivation. Some of those are given below:

Appreciate Yourself

Life is a place of many ups and downs. The negative aspects of life can make you frustrated. But have faith and confidence on yourself and appreciate your good activities. This will boost your inner strength.

Know Thyself

You must be aware of your capacity and as well as capability. You should have the knowledge on your limit. Without knowing yourself you cannot set a definite goal of your life. Try to learn more from your own life.

Culture Good Memories Only

Try to culture the good things of your life. These raise spirit of life. Do not culture the bad memories. They will pull you back.

Patience

You can never attain something overnight. Every success has a process time and you should have the patience to sustain with the process time.

Aim Definitely

Have your goal considering the realities around you. Setting an aim is a very important thing in our life. The aim should never be based on dream only. Set your goal properly and dream according to the realities.

Have Motivated Friends More

Motivated friends or accompanies can play a major role in your own motivation. So try to have motivated and spirited friends more.

With time and lessons of own life, self motivating factors will be many. Try to have your own unique and personalized motivating factors more. Those will keep you alive always.

 Steps  

1. Immerse yourself in Aboriginal mythology reading Bruce Chatwin’s novel, “The Songlines”.
2. Explore a collection of 25 stories written by Australian writers titled “A Traveler’s Literary Companion.”
3. Read what they have said some strong indigenous voice in “Indigenous Australian Voices: A Reader ‘, a book written by Jennifer Sabbioni, Kay Schaffer and Sidonie Smith.
4. Rent the movie “Walkabout”, whose story is related to two children who meet abandanoati an Aboriginal boy who was on a trip, traveling as part of a ritual.
5. You can laugh watching the comedy “The Castle”, where an Australian trying to defend his home against airport expansion.
6. Feel the mystery of Peter Weir’s book, “” Picnic at Hanging Rock “, often considered the classic book.
7. Yothu Yindi Listen Aboriginal rock group, with the album “Tribal Voice.
8. You can feel the soul of his native listening to Archie Roach albums, especially “Charcoal Lane.”

 Tips  

• Call the nearest Australian embassy or consulate to find out if you organize a cultural event.
• Search the music shops section to aboriginal music.
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Nowadays, news about people committing suicide seems to be pretty numerous these days. The causes usually are stress/ love problems.  Yikes.

Sure, sometimes, life gets tough, really tough. But before you jump off a ten storey building, think about this.

Is this worth throwing your life away?

Who’s going to suffer when you’re gone?

What will happen to your parents and family?

How about your job, your hopes and dreams?

Yeah I agree, all of us have been through sometimes when all we want to do is to bury our head in a pillow and say “Life sucks.” (!!!)

But look around you. There are hundreds, thousands even, of people out there who are way, way more unfortunate than you. There are those who lost all their family, those who have no home, those who don’t even know whether they’re going to survive or not the next day, and loads more.

Look at the bright side. Smile. As a quote says: “Even at the grimmest moments, there’s always a light in the heart of things.” And its true! There always are those little things and moments that make life worthwhile. Find that little shard of hope and hang on, you’ll get through it, eventually. It won’t last forever. Things have a way of working out, and what will be will be, in the nick of time.  Nothing and nobody is worth committing suicide over. If you lost a loved one, they wouldn’t want you to do that. Definitely not. If life gets too much, take a break and relax. If you’re really stressed about work or your studies, ask yourself. Am I going to kill myself for that stupid pile of paperwork? No! Throw them in the dustbin instead! ( Hey hey, joking about the last part J )Think about your parents. Did they raise you all the way up for you to commit suicide? Nope. ( Oh gosh, I suddenly recalled the song “you raise me up” in my head. Hahaha. ) They raised you up to stand on mountains. Hahahaha, ah, pardon me for my lame humor, I’m cracking up here. Hehehe.

  Being able to live life is a once is an amazing chance. An amazing awesome wonderful fantastic and fabulous opportunity! We wouldn’t want to waste something amazing awesome wonderful fantastic and fabulous now, eh? Appreciate it and use it wisely. Learn from your mistakes, and move on. There’s always a way if you look for it. Everything happens for a reason.

You shouldn’t be daunted by seemingly impossible things, because it will and shall get better. Believe in your beliefs and principles, no matter what. (And the force will be with you- Yoda, Starwars ) Ehem, that was a joke.

Don’t throw your life away. When you have an obstacle, don’t run away, find the courage and face it, you will become a stronger and better person…and smarter too! 

            It is difficult trying to buy a gift for your partner on Valentine’s Day. My philosophy is when you are buying for a man buy him something practical that he will appreciate. Now you understand why conversations and communications are essential in a relationship. If you are communicating with your partner and listening then you will know what practical gift to get him. Men like practical gifts, we like gifts that are emotional. Your man would appreciate a functional gadget that he has been inkling to buy for a year but never got the time or have to inclination to buy it.

           You top off that gift with the wildest, mind blowing, gratifying, and satisfying evening that climaxes into a great after party copulation. You could try new sexual techniques for your time with your beau and be sure to buy sensuous lingerie.

         It may sound shallow to women but men then to value sex and good sex will keep him constantly thinking about you.  Men are very visual therefore get your hair done, put your appearance together. Ensure that your look is pleasing on the eyes.  Get a facial, pedicure and manicure. He will appreciate the effort you put into being dolled up for him.

        Enjoy your valentine’s night and think about the sentiment or intention behind the gift and not the price tag.  If you did not get the gift you desire, smile and appreciate the fact that he took the effort. There are many women out there who wished they had a valentine or a partner who cared enough to bring them a present. Happy Valentines!

They should be treated like a member of your family. Many do not like others saying bad things about their love ones, so your boss deserves the same respect. Someone who plays a significant role in your life should be treated as such. You should always show them how much you appreciate them. A real good boss is hard to find so if you are one of the fortunate ones it is indeed OK TO BUTTER THEM UP. You do not need to wait until National Boss Day to let your boss know how you feel about them.

When you show your boss that he or she is appreciated you may encounter some resistance from your co-workers. You may hear people saying, oh they are brown-nosing or they are trying to get on the boss’s good side. If you are sincere and it is coming from your heart it is not brown-nosing. Others will say you are trying to get ahead in the workplace, to this particular statement I would say treat your co-workers with the same respect, that always helps in the long run. When you show kindness not only to your boss, but to your fellowman, kindness will find you.

Here are a few ways to let your boss know you appreciate them

1. Pay them genuine compliments
2. If your boss is a sports fan purchase season tickets for them to see their favorite team
3.  Purchase them a fruit basket
4. Give them a flower or a plant
5. Be a loyal employee
6. You can prepare their coffee for a week
7. Treat them to breakfast or lunch
8. A trip to the spa
9. A dinner for two with their spouse or friend
10.A book of movie passes
11.A bestselling book
12.A motivational tape

These are just a few things you can do for your boss.

It is great to butter up your boss, but the best thing you can do for them is to butter up yourself as well. Seek to improve your skills and always do an excellent job by going the extra mile. Make sure you are doing your job and doing it well.Volunteer to help other departments or team members, without anyone asking you or telling you.

Always be dependable, trustworthy, professional and a good communicator. Every boss values an employee who can not only point out the problem, but one who is able to give a solution to the problem. You will not only look good, but you will make your boss look good also. When you do your job correctly and treat everyone with respect you will gain respect from your boss and others.

Always remember if your boss is happy, you will be happier and both of your lives will reflect that.

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There are many important things involved in creating a healthy relationship.  None of this matters if you do not like your partner.  Because we could be together for decades, images can be with someone who disliked or hated.  Making it work, you must love one another.  If you want a healthy relationship should be able to share your life with others, be the best friend of another, you should be able to trust them, go to them for help and support, and I know it will be for you.  All this can happen if you love your partner.

You must be able to talk to your partner

Have you ever looked at how the media affects our lives, there are very few undisturbed areas.  Can you imagine a relationship without communication, boring, lifeless and boring would it be?  In a healthy relationship to share the lives of others, you have to learn everything there is to know your partner.  I admit it sounds very intense but it is otherwise.  His partner is the person I love most, you want to do what we can make them happy, to make you happy happy.  Know your partner wants and needs so that you can provide help and support when needed.  In addition to providing much discussion, share your life brings you closer.  To do this, you must be able to talk to your partner.

You must enjoy being together

People in healthy relationships enjoy spending time with their partners, what unites them most, and as an added bonus, it’s fun.  Spend quality time together fun, relax and forget your worries, and closer to each other.  Wherever life is busy, always allow time to be together.  No time to some of you may lose your connection to another.  If you do not like something up their relationships can become stale and boring.  You do not have to spend a fortune on this issue.  Go to the movies, walk, or relax and watch TV together.  Find new things to do together, take a class, try to share everyone’s interests, the possibilities are endless.  Whatever you do, only what is important is that you two are together, enjoying the company of others and reconnect.

Be romantic

People in healthy relationships appreciate the importance of romance.  Some of you might say, oh poor me I’m not a romantic, which I answer, garbage.  One is not born romantic, is a learned skill.  Romance adds a spark to a relationship that makes life more interesting, and keeps the relationship exciting.  There are many simple romantic gestures that you can do.  You can call, text or e-mail to your partner just to tell you I love you.  You can leave a note to find.  You can send flowers or chocolates.  Opt for a cup of coffee or a walk together.  If you are looking for inspiration there are lots of romantic movies that can be seen.  The important thing is that you do something for your partner, because he wants to be happy.  Whatever you do, whether complex or simple, which is a thing of the heart, these are the things that matter.

Accept others for who you are

This can be difficult, but if we want a healthy relationship is necessary to accept the whole package, not just the bits you like.  You need to have realistic expectations for their relationship, it may surprise some, but what we see in the film is just a story, not real life.  Do not enter a relationship with a fixed idea, preconceived what is your relationship and try to enjoy it, not only in good health.  These are two unique individuals, which makes their relationship a unique creation, we must work together to create the best you can.  You can see the weaknesses of your partner, you can see the error of you.  There are some habits that can be performed, such as excavation of the nasal cavity and after ingestion of the contents public.  The person who fell in love and had such mistakes, not trying to change someone they are not, you may not like the new person.

So there they are, my 5 signs of a healthy relationship.  I think if you love your partner, someone who can talk, if you want to be with them, if you can add a romantic glow of things, and if you can accept each other for who you are and your partner feel the same, so  you should enjoy a loving, happy and healthy as I hope will last very long.

I went to the airport the other day and watched as men and women in their military uniform made their way to their stations all over the world to protect us. I was on a mission from my fellow readers to deliver my new book to them “He died for you and me and He died for all shades of humanity.” I was stopped because a terror threat came in and all vehicles had to move immediately! My heart skipped a beat and a little fear tried to fill my heart and I felt an even deeper appreciation for the horrible things the soldiers must be going through as threats like this become a daily dose of terror.  I am offended when I hear other people attempt to blame the soldiers for the war, while they are warm and cozy enjoying the freedom that most of the world is not! SPOILED…..and UN-GRATEFUL comes to mind when you hear the judgement that those, that never had to endure captivity or had their freedom taken from them. Close minded people think America is detached from the rest of the world and what happens “OVER THERE” has nothing to do with me. Well, that is so selfish and really a bit un-educated, the entire world is linked and GOD made it as a whole and we must care about what goes on “The right and wrong OVER THERE” will become “right and wrongs OVER HERE” eventually!

I don’t like war one bit and I do not enjoy hearing that soldiers have died in a war that is ver un-popular at this time.

I am praying that GOD will bring each and every one of them home safely and keep their families at home save too.

The other day I watched a newscast and people where picketing a soldiers funeral…..what a absolute travesty, that these folks think they have a right to hurt the hurting. There is a very special place for them i am sure…..btw that is not heaven I don’t think. God !!!!! Is  nothing sacred to the Americans anymore…..they abuse the very freedom that the soldier has fought for and picket a funeral. Pray people, pray because this is evil doing at it’s best!!!

I am thankful and will continue to do my best to support the troups, that make it possible for me to speak and write  freely about my mulit-racial family. We are a retired military family and we will forever send our love and deepest gratitude to those that endure for the ones that appreciate it and guess what, for the ones that don’t.

Love and peace

Author Cornelia Brown    www.mrscorneliabrown.com books that clebrate multi-cultural diversity!! 

What if

Yesterday, I heard somebody illustrate how fast what we cling to can easily be dissolved in seconds. The illustration was vivid and at the same time scary. Imagine this, terrorists launch an EMP bomb – a bomb which shuts down all electronics permanently – 5km from the ground meaning the effect will be wide spread. The vehicles will not start, the television will be off, no cellphone communication and planes will crash. Then, when you thought all is over, nuclear bombs are launched in all the major cities. No communication, no emergency response, no news, no military response since communications are off and the country’s administration is rendered useless.

This really made me have a second thought towards life. Life is short and we should all enjoy it to the highest level possible. Locking yourself in the house or acting the super religiouslocks you from many opportunities and remember, opportunities knock only once in a life time. If you missed a shooting star, chances are that you will never see it in your life.

What are some Disadvantages
No matter how devoted we are in living each day from the safe zone, it has a number of negative consequences. For one, it is boring, you never get to experience the outside world and have all the fun that everybody is having. Moreover, if such a disaster strikes, you will be caught in your safe zone and there is no hiding from the radiation.

There are so many things that we lack by limiting our lives. We lack friends, life gets worthless, we gradually embrace self pity and before we know it, we have missed out of every good thing that God created for us to have. The environment, the world and the universe is beautiful and it is all for our viewing. If you confine yourself to solitary, how are you going to notice the new building design in downtown? Learning more enables us to appreciate life.

Getting started
To many, solitary comes as a result of self hate. Maybe you hate the way your nose looks like, the way you have a huge body but thin legs. This should not lower your mood, look on the positive side. In spite of your legs being thin, you can stand and walk; your deformed nose enables you to breathe and above all helps you stand out from the rest. Optimism is the attitude that helps us live a happy life. Concentrate on what you have, not what you lack; there is a reason to your lacking or having it. Love yourself and you will gradually find yourself appreciating life.

Secondly, we should all learn to clear our minds. The mind is our Central Operation Center only that it is subject to us. We have power to control it in spite of it having the ability to influence our decisions. We should therefore keep it free from dirty or negating thoughts. If you hate somebody, don’t live with it, face them and tell it to their face. This will help you relieve you the strain of mentally plotting and executing evil on them. Keep yourself free from stress too, use difficulty as your stepping stone.

Finally, you have to be appreciative. This is the only sure way to reap the best in life. If you have a short funny nose, appreciate it, some do not have it. If somebody does or says something good, appreciate it. It is also imperative to accept your failures and redirect yourself to a better way to achieve. This is the only way you can keep yourself from stress. Moreover, always find something to laugh about. Laughter is essential to your well being.