Academically speaking, girls scored more records than guys. Guys, on the other hand, scored more girls than in test papers. Should that account for something? Say, we take a really smart and pretty girl, and give her the score of nine. If I scored this chick, do I get her nine as well? Given some level of inheritance, it seems fair that I get extra points.

Talking about sporty, it’s no longer true that guys are physically sturdier than girls. The fem-dom are now at their athletic climax. Every sport in Olympics has a female division for all we know. Girls even kick ass in Taekwondo.

If success was taken to consideration, it doesn’t mean that it is total annihilation for the guys. Females may be more responsible (most of the time) and independent women may be littered pretty much everywhere…on the streets, around the corner, under your skin. But still, majority of the richest person on earth are men.

What settles the score then? Who’s better, boys or girls?

Well, one thing is true. Either cannot survive without the presence of the other. Males won’t be able to propagate without females. And you females (you have to admit) life would just suck without us.

Fine then, agreed.

It was true she made more money than he so she ran the household and the finances.   Unlike her mother, no man was going to tell her what to do.  Meanwhile, like his father, he believed if a woman wanted to run the show, let her all the while hoping she would remember to take care of her man.

The problem with this kind of relationship or shall we say problems is that it doesn’t work if no one knows how to take off the pants and remove the skirt and get in his or her, dare I say it, proper place.  By design, a man just can’t work a blue collar job in a skirt and a woman well she can’t always wear jeans for every occasion unless of course she can manage to dress them up a bit.  Either way, both sexes will be at war with one another when neither one wants to sit down, relax and listen to what the other has to say.  But if this kind of relationship works for you, then you have nothing to fear, right?

I once dated men who were often very feminine acting and it unfortunately got on my nerves.  They talked more than me, looked in the mirror alot longer, gossiped more, and even ironed their clothes better.  At first I was okay with all of this until I realized that a few just didn’t know how to stop acting like their mothers (daddy wasn’t in the picture or didn’t bother with them)!  I also didn’t like the fact that I was told I acted at times masculine (both of my parents were in the picture,) so I considered myself fairly balanced until I realized that my personal relationship with my dad (despite living in the same household) was really non-existent — ouch!  So the truth hurt, I learned to live with it, but at the same time I also became more conscious of my masculine me.  I realized that without a healthy balance between both the feminine and the masculine in my personality, I was going to have problems not just in my intimate relationships, but in every relationship that I had with others.  Too much drill sergeant behavior turns people off and too much gossip makes people cringe.

So by taking the time and studying me for about a year, outside of a relationship, mind you, I was better able to put both the masculine and feminine me under a microscope.  I realized that during certain times of the month I was more masculine and needed my alone time while other times of the month I craved the attention of others.  I talked more at times and I talked least at other times.  What I wanted from a man in a future relationship was the freedom to be me!  I also wanted someone who would be balanced with his own feminine and masculine identity, but with so many fathers not in their sons’ lives that has been a challenge. 

The woman I wrote about previously wasn’t me, but someone I know.  It’s unfortunate but I see alot of the old me in her (domineering, take no stuff, I’m in charge, etc.)  What I wish most for her is for her to be with someone who would allow her to put her feet up without making her feel guilty, a man that would not try to dominate her lifestyle by whispering in her ear about what’s wrong with everyone else but himself, and most of all just step up and be a man consistently rather than a boy who needs his “bad a**” friends.  It’s almost like he is seeking a father figure in a woman, yikes!  But I guess that’s too much to ask from a society of boys who still yearn for their fathers.  They have the feminine side of who they are established, in some cases too well, but the masculine side has unfortunately fallen by the wayside.  It tries to manifest itself in gangs, domestic violence, over the top macho behavior, or a gay relationship (playing the man,) or in some other way considered abnormal which most of these the male mentioned previously has participated in (with the exception of the gay lifestyle, but if he should ever go to jail for a long time, who knows?)

We can only hope in time that both sexes take their proper places and use their gifts to the utmost rather than arguing about them or trying to dominate each other.  Only time will tell…

Personally I feel that loving yourself is more important than loving another. This does not mean: become a selfish, heartless creep yourself. Be there for others, but do not let them walk over you.

With the things I have been through I dare to be a bitch and I am proud of it. For me being the obedient, following type does not work.  Knowing yourself it the key to not becoming a victim.

I can be quite demanding and I am willing to make agreements, but I believe that I have the right to have an opinion of my own and I do not mind that people have another than mine. Other way around I do notice that some might have a problem with me, but I consider that their problem and I am not going to make it mine. Just consider that guilt is a bad thing in most cases.

Still I notice that much men, even in these modern times have trouble with opinionated women. Also do they seem to have trouble in taking orders from female bosses.

My motto is: I would rather be a bitch than broken.

Yes, the truth hurts, but I do like to speak my mind. If a person likes to drink and drive, I consider that stupid and dangerous behaviour and I am not going to hold back my comments. It is up to that person to do with it what he/she likes, but at least I will feel less guilty when an accident might occur. I do not hope for that, but considering the risks, I prefer to have a clear conscience.

Snaring people away might not be such a brilliant idea, but enduring people that you do not like and can avoid, feels much better than to just keep up with them. Otherwise you might end up in an abusive relationship.

Many people, especially women do get the idea that they belong in a role that is made up by previous generations. Personally I believe in equality among sexes, but I do know why men like to keep women down and I will write about that soon.

In the film documentary, Men, Women & The Sex Difference, John Stossel, a journalist and a father, hosts and plays an important part on the “nature” side of the debate. First of all, John has raised both genders, so he says that “There are distinct differences between them.” To help John out, June Reinisch, a PhD psychologist says that “Difference is great and the whole idea that males and females are different come from biological studies.” It’s all comes from when the sperm meets the egg to form a zygote, then eventually, the newborn is different because of the excess amount of androgen and estrogen in both boys and girls. There are only few exceptions, but almost all have the same amount of each in them: boys with much androgen and girls with much estrogen.

The directional study was a plan hosted many times in the recent years, and is a common method to show how different both genders are when it comes to remembering and showing how to arrive at a certain destination through certain clues, and path routes. In almost all cases, the men would state direct ways of where to go, such as saying, “left” or “right”. They wouldn’t be specific and point to certain landmarks, like the women did. The females remembered in detail where to go, but men seemed to have a stronger sense of direction. The final part of the test was when they blindfolded a guy and a gal to show how to get from point A to point B, of course, with having a guide with them so they don’t knock into a wall or a person. It turns out that men were able to show them the way more effectively than woman. This proves the idea that men have an excellent sense of direction, while woman, have a direct mind for detail.

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The second study that went on was a trial to see if monkey’s would act different if they were injected with more androgen to prove the idea that the chemicals in our bodies shape who we are and how we act as either a male or a female. So, they injected a female monkey with the androgen and she acted exactly like a male monkey. We have an extreme connection with monkeys in terms of DNA, so this was another successful study that determined the conclusion that men and women are different because of our chemical formulas. Also, Laura Allen, an M.D. from doing research at UCLA, stated that “Out of eight samples, seven were different…” when comparing the brain of a man and of a woman.

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That was the first perspective: that men and women are contrasted by the chemicals in our bodies and by how are bodies are different in that way. The second perspective on the “nature” side deals with our ancestral background. Both of these points directly link to the proposed thought that we are just born different and our roles we have in society would be better formed if we acted on those stereotypical roles, and it’s alright to expect no lawsuits that would simply steal our hard-earned money away from us.

Helen Fischer, an anthropologist with a PhD says that: “We have four million years of differences in our evolving processes throughout those years. This leads to the way are ancestral background is, which relate to our genes.” We act and feel the way they used, and it was the stereotypical roles that they played before leading up to the twenty-first century. Even if people are bothered by this topic, we must educate ourselves, and to do that, we must investigate in further studies.

The second side is the “nurture” side where people from these two perspectives believe that society is the prominent component to how we are formed ever since this sexist society has been created. The first perspective shows that television and the media, especially in this day and age, shape the way we raise our kids. Bella Abzug, Gloria Steinem, and Gloria Allred are women that helped improve the equality of women in today’s world, and they make great points on why we view our baby boys and girls differently. TV shows, such as Sesame Street are sexist because they show more male main characters, so the children will think that the leaders are supposed to be a man in life. Steinem says that “We are conditioned by our sexist society, and the culture, and we just treat our kids different.”

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f you bring your kid to a store full of toys, more than likely, you will go to the blue section filled with action figures for your boy, and you will go to the mostly pink section filled with Barbie dolls and makeup kits for your girl. This generally comes from the media showing girls playing with Barbie dolls and boys playing with airplanes, tanks, fake guns, and toy trucks. Abzug concludes this by saying that, “In the sexist society we live in, it forces us to shape us to agree to images that shape our society and expectations.”

The first perspective from the “nurture” side of the debate came from the film documentary, to reiterate, Men, Women & The Sex Difference, which is that we, as men and women together, form our thoughts from sexist roles, images, and words from society, the media, which relates to how we are raised from our parents. They say that we aren’t shaped as much from genes, but more from what we pick up as we grow older. The second side’s second point comes from the author, Diana Kendall, who wrote the book, Society in Our Times, which is being and have been taught in schools. She adds on to the “nurture” side by stating opinions and facts without being too frank about what she believes in.

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Kendall basically says that the studies that show that males are more competitive with games with many people (baseball, etc.) and girls, the opposite (hopscotch, etc.) are distinctly different only because of the “feeling accepted” factor with their friends. Boys feel more masculine and strong when they finally find that group of friends that accept him because of what he does. If that boy comes to school and dresses like a girl, then he will be ridiculed, so this comes from years of gender roles that need to be altered in some way. However, now-a-days, if a girl dresses like a guy, she is accepted, so society has improved, but not by much. People still get ridiculed for being homosexual from sexists and highly religious people. The way parents raise kids are most likely going to be the same when it comes to how they were raised themselves, so it’s reasonable to say, that that will affect how their kids are raised directly no matter how much they are different from the other gender.

So, it’s a debate between how we are formed at birth and how we are formed through life. I believe that it can go both ways; however, it is safe to say that I think society shapes us mostly, and our “nature” shapes us somewhat. I would say a 3:1 ratio (75% nurture, 25% nature) because we learn many ideas through life and we, as humans, want to be accepted into society, and to do that, sexist roles and expectations can be made into your decision for what you do during the longs hours of the day. People aren’t all the same and for everyone to be accepted, we do not need a sexist society, but that will take many years to reach. I don’t want more lawsuits because I don’t want to pay for them, but it takes a couple to make sure that women can do “man occupations” and men can do “women occupations,” then so be it. However, the money to pay for the lawsuits should come from the government and not from the citizens that have nothing to do with the cases. Personally, I do believe men and women are very different, according to the studies with monkeys and the “Directional Study” that I saw. They helped me believe what I already believed. I know that both sexes are distinctly different, and yes, certain roles are better suited. On the other hand, the exceptions that want to do the other sex’s stereotypical role should be accepted by society. I certainly can’t wait until that day, but for now, I will think and try to help other people think non-bias thoughts, so I can feel better about think that we actually might accept all minorities someday.