WORDS CAN IMPRISON PEOPLE

When I was a student, one of my teachers told me that I would never amount to anything. He did not use those exact words but that is what he meant. I have never forgotten what he said but I did not know at the time that he was actually trying to imprison me in some way. Some of us have had people do some pretty nasty things to us in our lives but I think one of the nastiest things is to judge someone and make a prediction that they are going to fail. These kinds of evil deeds are very subtle and most of us don’t know when it is happening. Some times people fail, simply because someone has made them fail through their words. Words can be very powerful because they can build someone up or destroy them. It is not the “exact” words that either deliver a healing touch or an evil blow. No! It is the spirit of the person behind those words. Communication is a impartation of attitude and if you are spiritually sensitive you ought to be able to tell when something is wrong, even though it appears so right to you and everyone else. So, what has this got to do with clothes?

CLOTHES ARE PUT ON FOR APPEARANCE

Someone has told a young man that he is never going to amount to anything. How is he going to react? Maybe he can resist it and spend the rest of his life trying to prove that other man wrong. Can’t you see how subtle the imprisonment is? If you do this, you are no longer living for yourself but wasting your time trying to prove something to someone who you don’t even like anyway. Why do you need his approval? Why do you care about what he thinks? Let go of it my friend! Strip naked in front of your mirror, your wife or your best friend and tell them “this is who I am and I am not ashamed!” I am sorry that in most countries we can’t legally do this on the street so we have to settle for the next best thing. 

WHEN WE HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE WE ARE ACTUALLY WINNING

I don’t care who reads this. I am actually writing this for myself as well. I feel that writing this way can be a form of release for me. Right now I have so many things to live up to. I am far more successful than I was many years ago and I feel my responsibilities are very great. I feel that certain people are expecting me to maintain my position in the food chain and become even more successful. It is as if I am not allowed to fail. To me, this is also a kind of imprisonment. I am going to try to strip naked over the next few days and shed some skin. I want to lighten my burden, take off the clothes that are suffocating me. How can I get back that feeling of being in a place where I have nothing to lose? I want to find that place again because I feel I am wearing far too many clothes right now.

Then in 2005, I noticed changes in who was wearing glasses in commercials and in movies. Glasses were being worn by famous actors, actresses,singers, and models. Wow what a change. Even my 11 year old niece’s friend who had 20/20 vision wanted glasses. I thought to myself,” are you nuts?” She went on and on about how cool they were and asked to try on my glasses. I let her for a quick,hot  second and then warned her to not try on glasses when she didn’t need any. 

She said glasses were so cool and as I started to watch TV and movies, she was right. More and more young actresses were using glasses for fashion sense as well as to appearing mysterious. From over 20 years now from 1985-2005, geeks and nerds are seen in a much different way thanks to millionaires Bill Gates, and other celebrities like Tara Reid in the picture below.

I myself am glad to be a nerd. I am glad I was a studious bookworm my whole life. Trying to be something I wasn’t was such a struggle and in my late 30’s now I hope to pass on to my kids to just be themselves. It comes naturally. When you know who you are it’s so much easier to have fun, make friends, and tell who aren’t your friends. So yes, I wear glasses and proud of it. 

From the very beginning, even from the montessori classes, we have all been taught to measure ourselves against the example of our teacher, parents or some great human beings. The masters who taught us to follow our mentors have forgot that every one in this world is with some specific talents and with specific mission. They should inspire us to do like them and in this process we should not become so obsessed with the need to live like that great human being or some body else.

Each of us is born into a specific time and place with a unique combination of certain planets makes us totally unique in every talent and potential to do things and with specific mission in life. Always try to be inspired by someone and learn from them and don’t try to do exactly like them. By doing the copy we could not take their boot but in this process lost our own personal qualities and personal limitations.

Some people have had tragedy and people in their lives that have made a negative impact and they have no desire to look at the bright side of things but rather focus on the negative of the matter.  This in turn leads to what I would call the “blame game”.  No one wants to take responsibility for their own lives or how they turned out, they just want to blame it on someone who happened into their lives.  They don’t understand that they are the ones that let them in.  That is why we are so afraid to live, love, laugh, and let people into our lives.  We are so afraid of how they are going to impact us that we refuse to give them a chance, we are so afraid of change.  It hurts us to smile and be happy for once without the thoughts of getting hurt creeping in. 

I don’t know, just thought I would put this out there.  Sometimes I feel like I am the only one that feels this way and thinks this way.  I know sometimes I don’t let people in because of that.  Other times I am just so focused on other things that I don’t see that people are trying to get in.  It is exhausting, I know, just living life from day-to-day.  I believe though that if we just let life happen, and laugh once in a while, love will find and embrace us.

For a long time I had been guilty of living by other people’s rules. I had allowed my friends to make decisions for me; I thought that if I went out of my way to help other people, they would be my friends. I was told by preachers and various “authority figures” that if I led a certain lifestyle, I would be happy and “go to heaven.” I started leading an almost monastic life avoiding sin, and driving myself nuts trying to stay pure, but I noticed I only was getting worse. 

I was constantly under pressure to behave in a certain way, and when I deviated somehow from the conduct I was expected to keep, people judged me severely.

This had been going on for some time, and then it hit me – that’s not for me and ain’t worth it. There should be limits to everything, even to religion. Don’t you notice people constantly use religion to justify their stupidity? For example, they are ready to stay in an abusive relationship, because the church forbids divorce, etc.

I was blinded by all those notions of Christianity that made you feel controlled, confined and guilty. It was not only until one extremely kind person helped me see that God is all about love, and not about punishment. I was reluctant to let go of the old stereotypes at first, but let myself do it. Perhaps, by this person’s prayers I began to realize that it has never been God’s intention to persecute me for my wrongs, and that any religious organization that tries to convince you otherwise, is all about power, but surely not about love. Besides, I have noticed behind the complicated rituals and dogmas, Jesus Christ is often forgotten, when He should always come first. I was lucky and somehow found the strength to break those ties that made me feel rejected and not wanted. I understood that form of religious worship was not for me, where you constantly depended on others whenever you needed to make a decision, and I have stopped associating with people that had a tendency to make me feel small.

I found myself, and what I like to do. I love God, and I do my best to learn more of Him from the Bible, and it gives me the ability to experience the Lord’s love more fully. I love spending time with my family and friends, with my real friends, and not the jerks I used to count my friends; I love studying, and I do it for myself; I also love writing, and that’s what I am doing on the net, earning money at the same time. I like reading and watching TV shows that are fun, I don’t want to think that everything around me is evil, like they made me believe… I like to help people, and that’s what I do when I give to the poor, or answer questions on yahoo answers.

Find yourself, open your eyes and see… the world is not always what they may be telling you it is.

I have always wanted to be someone else. Someone like Emma Watson, or Nicole Kidman.  I wanted to be an actress, famous and cool, to have lots of friends and money.

Well, in reality I am nothing like that. I am not an actress, I am more of a writer. I might not be famous and cool but I have my own interests – reading 18th and 19th century books, learning French, music, and discovering Botany. I only have a couple of friends, and might not be the richest person in the world; I’m just a typical middle class girl.

And guess what, that’s ok.

We all want to be someone else at times. I used to defy my boundaries, hating my circumstances and being constantly irritated because I didn’t live up to my imaginary standards until I realized that nobody benefits from my attitude, least of all me. I’ve been thinking about it and I have come to the conclusion that every time I have tried being somebody else I only inflicted some form of suffering upon myself. I could forget sometimes that I am a Christian, for instance, and bowl someone out for nothing, only to feel bad about myself afterwards. The same thing goes for everything I ever do that I know is wrong, or simply not for me. 

Like most people I often tend to think that the grass is greener elsewhere and that if only I could shake off those responsibilities, ignore those boundaries, I would be truly and really happy. Well, it doesn’t work that way.

I might think that I would be happier if I were Emma Watson, but in reality I am the happiest ever when I’m just being me. Reading my books, doing my job, hanging out with my friends.

We might be mistaken when we think we know who we are, and if the road we are on is not leading us to happiness, then perhaps we should take a different route.

Being our highest selves – that’s what our goal should be.

Being less than we are will not make us happy, and ignoring the moral values will destroy us in the end. While we are free to be whoever we want to be, not everything that we want would be good for us.

Why must people continue to strive for FAKE beauty? It makes me angry. I’ve had this continuous thought going on in my mind and every time I see a weight loss or anti-aging commercial I want to create a magazine that shows everyone it’s all right to be who you are. You can be beautiful without make-up, anti-aging serum, and the newest hip or “fad” clothes that the celebrities wear. It’s a matter of being you! Yes, I’m talking about a cliche, but it’s one of the cliches that needs to be taught.

I really wish I could start this magazine. I’m sure there are some out there who have tried to instill this idea but I haven’t really seen any. I’m talking about a magazine with pictures of people who are not models. For instance, my pictures would look as if the person took the picture themselves or with friends. Much like photos you could find on Face Book or MySpace. It’s a matter of showing people that the way you are is beautiful. I really hate this FAKE beauty floating around or should I say the one thing that truly rules our society/media.

I hate the image it projects and I wish I knew what steps could be taken to change it. You know the one example I found that actually surprises me is that the USA Network has a couple commercials in which they have their actors expressing something of their life and each one is different. They also have one of real-life people who are Mexican, American and a bunch of others. The most prominent one that sticks in my mind is the middle Eastern looking man who says, “I have never been a taxi driver.” And another guy who looks the same and he says, “I have never worked in a convenient store.”

It makes me smile each time I see it because it’s a commercial asking to join hands with everyone and tolerate our differences. I just wish that people understood that you are beautiful as you are man or woman. It doesn’t matter. I should probably end this here because I’m just blowing smoke and repeating myself. This goes through people’s ears and out the other. At least I’m trying to spread some love and tolerance.

But I still can’t figure it out. What is the reason?

Career is not only worked because it affects your whole life and therefore it is a part of your life. In choosing a career, you need to have a wise decision and plans. To achieve satisfying career you need o know more about yourself. There are things you should consider.

Knowing your goal

Ask yourself about your real purpose. Always consider questions like Do you want to follow orders? Do you want to help other people? Do you want to travel? Do you want to work at home? Do you want to work alone or with group? Questions you need to answer. It will help you to discover your goal.

Knowing your Interest

Your interest will affect your performance and satisfaction so always remember to give part of knowing what you really love doing. To know your interest recall your past activities like hobbies, sports and things you feel happy doing.

Knowing your Abilities

Do not lie to yourself. Always remember to know your weakness and strength. This can influence your choice of career. You should know your Abilities like reading, writing, speaking, musical talent and others. You can also classify according:

• Abstract Reasoning-Ability to reason with symbols, words and numbers.
• Manual Dexterity- Ability to use hand skill fully.
• Scholastic Attitudes-ability to think and reason with words.
• Verbal Reasoning-Ability to think and reason with words.
• Numerical Reasoning-ability to use numbers in solving problems.
• Mechanical Comprehensive-ability to answer how machine work
• Clerical Reasoning-Ability to record and organize information quickly and correctly.

Knowing your Characteristics

It is true that it is hard to measure your characteristic but you can answer it by looking at your past behavior. Answering questions like how do you treat other people? Are you honest? Are you dependent or Independent? You’re answer to all this questions can contribute to the success of your career.

Knowing your fear

List down all your fear, personal or in career you want to pursue and then plan on how to overcome them. This can help you to be successful and to be strong to all the things that will come in your way.

Yeah, attention from the opposite sex might improve a lot, and your confidence may increase, but think about it. Why do you have to get surgery just to get these? Shouldn’t beauty come naturally, not with money attached to it.

So before you set that appointment that will cost you what you could use for your education, a better home, car, life, remember you can’t buy beauty, its comes from inside of you.