First off, everyone has to steel themselves and realize that everything that happens, happens for a reason. I am well aware that many people think it’s just a stupid thing thought up by older folks, but being 16 and realizing this fact has helped me a lot personally. So my first advice would be : Don’t beat yourself up for it. Don’t start blaming yourself OR even the other person for it. Most people rush to the conclusion that it was their fault and start a depressed and unhealthy life. Other people blame the ex about the break up and start making their lives miserable when they don’t even know the reason behind the break up.

Secondly, do not lose your cool. I’m aware it’s easier said than done, but you have to have inner strength if you want to live a happy life again. Keep yourself calm and try to find out the reason behind the break up without getting over stressed about it. At this point, your emotions might overcome you but as I stated before, you must have inner strength. The moment you lose to your emotions that’s the moment you step into the path of destruction.

I’d like to add that if you want to get back with him/her, that depends on whether there was the “spark” between you both. If not, MOVE ON!

Thirdly, do not be a drama queen. Quit whining about it all the time, nobody likes a whiner! Keep your mind focused on your life.The longer you keep whining about it the harder it’s going to be for you to get over it. Try living life like a normal person and get interested in your hobbies or whatever you prefer.

Fourth and final for this release, stop reminiscing about the past. If you’re not confident that you can fix things with him/her, FORGET ABOUT HIM/HER! Stop daydreaming about him/her all the time and think about other things, be it useless or productive.

If your case is extremely serious and you can’t get over her, get a dog or a cat! OR try to fix it!

Hope this helps all the poor souls. Leave a comment on how you feel about these advices!

Good luck!

Adamantite

Here’s some tips for the perfect Valentine’s day break-up.

                          1. Email her from Hawaii. Don’t forget to attach a picture of you lying on the beach with her  little sister.

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      1. Send her the most romantic Valentine’s Day card and love letter you can muster. “Accidentally” address it to your ex girlfriend.

      2. Post her nude photos on your Face-book page. She’s sure to love the attention.

                         4. Show her a picture of your “new” and visibly pregnant girlfriend.

                         5. Send her a report from your doctor showing positive test results for syphilis, gonorrhea and genital herpes.

                         6.  Ask her for a loan to pay off the drug dealers.

                         7. Let her you are having fantasies about the new guy in the gym.

                         8. Tell her that her jeans make her butt look REALLY fat.  

                         9. Tell her you think her Mom is HOT!

                         10.Tell her you think you can beat the child pornography charges.

Thinking about breaking up with your boyfriend?

No one likes to be the first to initiate a break up.  Thinking back over happier times may be a drawback from actually going ahead with the break up. You may hope that the enjoyable times you spent together will return.

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Memory of happier times may delay you from going through with a break-up.

Your smiles and laughter have changed to frowns and arguments — sure signs that it is time to end your relationship.

It takes more than a rose to mend broken relationships — some which cannot be repaired.

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It’s time to call it quits.

You have reached the decision to leave your significant other.  Here’s how to go through with the break up.

Put yourself in the other person’s position and show empathy regarding how he or she will feel when you break up with them.  

Based on your previous interactions with each other, you know by now if the person you are breaking up will go “postal” on you, ask a lot of questions that will not change the end result, just give you the silent treatment or react some other way.

Some women have been known to get highly emotional when their boyfriends leave them.  You may recall the young lady who drove all the way cross country nonstop in a diaper to confront her newly ex-boyfriend. This was wasted energy and gas because he did not take her back.

However, men can be equally taken aback when you leave them.  They may not cry, as most women may resort to. Instead they may try to “fix” the situation, since most men like to fix things.  Women on the other hand will overthink the break up and try to determine what went wrong.

This is advice for women who are breaking up with a man with a volatile personality.  If you know for a fact that he will “hit the ceiling” when you tell him you are breaking up with you, sort of ease out of the relationship, instead of abruptly ending it.  You may want to quickly get out of the relationship, but what you do not want is him steadily hounding you to come back to him.  By taking it slow, he may realize that it is best that you two break up with each other.

How do you ease out of a relationship?  You start to distance yourself from him and not be available for him like you were in the past. Sounds cruel, but you have to let your actions speak for you to make sure he gets the right message that you are breaking up with him. 

Unfortunately, eventually, you may have to tell him to his face that you are breaking off your relationship with him. I say unfortunately because you may not want to outwardly hurt his feelings.

When you do break up, be careful of your choice of words.  Instead of saying you are dumping or breaking up with him, simply say that you would like to start seeing other people.  Do not add that you hope you can still be friends, because some men think that if they are still seeing you that they are still in a relationship.  So when you break up — make a complete break.

If he is particularly attached to you, you may want to use time as a shield against his anger or need to retaliate after getting his feelings hurt.  There are horror stories about men taking revenge physically on women who break up with them which unfortunately rubbed them the wrong way.  Hopefully you are not dating this type person in the first place, but if you are, tread gently and lightly around their wounded ego.  But go through with the break up.

Don’t delay the break up for all the wrong reasons. If you are not communicating or connecting by day, there is no real relationship between you and your boyfriend.

Whatever you do — do not break up by text message.

Do not break up with a text message if you are a man or a woman. Even a telephone call is better than sending an impersonal text message.

Here’s an actual break up via text message. Do not text message a break up.

Sometimes you may have to pace your break up, but move forward with it, especially if the relationship has broken down where there is no chance of a permanent reconciliation.  There are other reasons to break up with your boyfriend, but the main reason is you simply do not want to be with him anymore.

You may be doing what is  labeled a dirty deed, but look on the bright side.  Once you break up with your boyfriend, you may soon meet your true soul mate.

I’m sorry for all the mistakes I made, for all the pain I’ve caused you. For everything I put you through, I’m sorry about that too. I’m sorry for everything I do, and for that fact that I love you, but I had to put my feelings on that line. All I wanted was a shot at once upon a time, too bad everyone lies, nothing ends in a fairytale storyline.

All I needed was one chance to get it right, but as per normal I screwed it up again, and I’ve been lost since then. I was to young to know I was walking away from everything I ever wanted, because at 16 you’re stupid, you don’t know a damn thing. The sad part is it didn’t take me long to realize I walked away from my reason to be.

I’m sorry for all the mistakes I made, for all the pain I’ve caused you. For everything I put you through, I’m sorry about that too. I’m sorry for everything I do, and for that fact that I love you, but I had to put my feelings on that line. All I wanted was a shot at once upon a time, too bad everyone lies, nothing ends in a fairytale storyline.

Everything about you invites me in, calls my name, can’t you see it’s always been that way. I tried to hide it, tried to run from it, but my heart kept pulling me back to you. I was scared to tell the truth, and now the reasons why are so clear, because they are real. I was hoping for a story worth telling, but this story has a less epic ending. My heart is gone, an empty space you never knew you used to take. You sing about sweet tragedies, that’s all our story seems to be.

I’m sorry for all the mistakes I made, for all the pain I’ve caused you. For everything I put you through, I’m sorry about that too. I’m sorry for everything I do, and for that fact that I love you, but I had to put my feelings on that line. All I wanted was a shot at once upon a time, too bad everyone lies, nothing ends in a fairytale storyline.

And all I wanted…
Was a happy ending to my wanna

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be fairytale story line.

Social media is one of the best nasty ways to publicly humiliate and therefore, break up with your friend. This is a great example.  After you get sick of your boy/girl, go on vacation.  While you are on vacation find another random boy/girl and have someone take your picture.  Then post the picture on Facebook with the caption “My girlfriend and I”.  Your girlfriend will see it and if she has any self respect, then you have a break up. Score one for you!

2. Texting

This is a fun one and you can do a lot with texting.  Don’t settle for the “I want to break up” text.  That is weak and frankly boring.  Send a really steamy romantic text to your soon to be ex and refer to “last night”.  Of course your boyfriend thinks you were home sick last night (you were, sick of him that is) so when he sees this, you are single again. Congrats girl!

3. The No Show

Make plans for a great night! An expensive dinner, dancing and the works!  Talk about the plans every day.  Send her text messages “I can’t wait until Saturday” etc.  Tell her to get a new outfit.  Tell her it’s her night to be a princess.  Then there are two ways to face the night.

A. Just don’t show up to get her.  Sit back and watch your phone light up all night with calls and messages while you drink a beer and watch the game with your buddy’s.  Laugh and tell them what you’ve done.

B. Send her a text message 1/2 an hour after you were supposed to pick her up that says “Hey, change of plans. Catch you later”. 

She will be pretty mad.  You won’t have to worry about her again.  If she doesn’t get the message at this point tell her you want to break up because she has a bad temper.

4. The Invisible

This is simple.  Kind of a reverse of number 3.  So when he comes to pick you up you have a few options.

A. Just don’t be at home.  Hopefully he will get the message.  Of course prepare yourself for calls and texts.  Yes, just reply “Sorry, change of plans”. Silly boy.

B. When he comes to the door say “Can I help you?” Act like you have no idea who he is.  He will hopefully think you are crazy and move along.

C. Start yelling at him “I told you not to bother me any more! You know I am married!” Hopefully he will run to his car and leave.

5. Switch a Roo

Have a break up party.  Invite the boy/girl to a fun party where there is break up themed food, such as “Heart break cake” (a heart shaped cake cut in two) and decorate the house with “Heartbreak Hotel” signs.  Totally ignore the boy/girl and flirt with everyone in site.  If she/he bothers you too much just tell her the party is for her/him and it’s over.  Then roll your eyes and say that they are so ungrateful for all you do that they couldn’t even respect the break up party that you dedicated to them.  Act offended.

The only alternative is honest and face to face contact.  You don’t want that do you?

My boss did not like her at all. He would often tell my friend that he was better off without her and should dump her and get restraining orders on her.

Obviously my friend loved her to pieces but the boss saying those things would put doubt into his mind about whether the relationship was working or not. It was a shame to see him torn over it.

But they had a happy ending and have now been together for 3 years. Much to my boss’s dismay.

I have friends who do similar things: for insistence I have a friend who needs to approve of each of her friends boyfriends before they get serious. If she doesn’t approve she’ll do everything she can to break them up.

People like them irrate me to no end. If someone is happy in a relationship LET THEM BE. Don’t go poking your nose in where it isn’t wanted or needed. Don’t make friends enemies and for the love of the goddess don’t split up a couple, it’ll come back to bite you on the ass. Unless there is a very good reason: ie; There’s abuse in the relationship etc but for that seek the right kind of help.

Does anyone else have friends like this? Or do I just attract the weirdos of this world?

So how are you able to pass though from a broken heart? There are 5 ways in which to try to to this.

Take day trip – keep in mind that you simply want time to yourself the maximum amount like somebody. However, if the link has ended keep yourself out of their manner. till the pain of it all wears off, it is best to not even be friends. Once you are feeling higher, if you are feeling like doing being friends once more, and then do thus. after you are most inclined is that the best time to remain far from them.

Accept Blame – keep in mind that the top of a relationship isn’t one-sided. Yet, it is simple answerable the one that broke up with you as a result of you’re hurting. However, the quicker you perceive your half within the failed relationship, the less grief you finish up having. so the healing method will begin through sympathy and thought.

Love Yourself – How are you able to love anyone if you do not old flame yourself? make certain you offer yourself love at the time you would like it most. that is after you feel unattractive and not required. attempt to nurture yourself to heal that broken heart quicker and by doing this may create your mind stop considering your ex who cause the pain and place all its thoughts on you instead. attempt to rebuild your sense of price and your price.

Accept things – keep in mind that relationships return and go. The cycle of pain and pleasure could be a half life’s very little lessons that everybody must undergo to grow. Once you understand all this, then you get to the forgiveness method. attempt to keep in mind that with each positive, there’s perpetually a negative. attempt to think about it this manner: the love you’ve got is to nurture you whereas the pain causes you to grow to face the obstacles that head your way. If you’ve got vengeance in your heart, you simply prolong your agony. attempt to learn those lives’ lesion quickly in order that you do not miss the chance of somebody additional merit some time return along.

Move On – offer yourself the daily reminder that one instance doesn’t gauge the remainder of your survival. whereas one person thinks you’re one issue, another person will totally assume that is negative. you’re not to any extent further invaluable than the one that dumped you. Look past the negatives and see the positive. maybe the link wasn’t price being along within the initial place though you most likely cannot see that in the initial breakup. Love yourself past their feelings. Who cares what they assume within the end? Look straight ahead and move on. Forget the past however remember to find out from your mistakes. In the end, you will be glad you’ll be able to overcome it.

If you wish to induce over from a broken heart, utilize these 5 steps to examine you thru the robust times and move on along with your life currently.

That’s true. However is can be made harder when you don’t accept that it’s happening. When you know that your relationship is over, it’s natural to go through denial. No one wants to be dumped or to dump someone. That’s why some people stay together way past their relationship’s expiration date. 

Admit Your Relationship is Over

Don’t deny the writing on the wall. Even if you want to believe that one day you’ll be back together, you have to admit that your relationship, as it is right now, is over. You may want to hold out hope that you’ll get back together, but that’s not going to help get you through the tough times ahead, as you go through your break up.

Don’t Play the Blame Game

You’ll blame him, he’ll blame you. You’ll even blame yourself and your dog. It will be everybody’s fault. However it’s not really anybody’s fault. Your relationship is over because it’s time has passed. As people change and grow, sometimes the relationship does not grow with them. That’s nobody’s fault, that’s just life.

Understand that You’ll Need to Let Go

Letting go will be the hard part. This can only be done when your partner is no longer in your life. However you can prepare for this by making sure you’ve removed reminders of your relationship. Unfriend him on Facebook, unfollow him on Twitter, remove him from your Google+ circle and definitely delete him from your phone. Start reducing your communication with him. Find a friend to call to share your good news or chat about things. You’ll need to cut contact with him after the break up, so get started now.

End the Relationship Now

If your relationship is over, but it seems like he’s prolonging the process by not breaking up with you, you may need to do it yourself. Some men don’t like breaking up with women. So, instead of breaking up, they make the relationship so painful that the women leave on their own. In the worst case, these relationships can continue for months or years. If you feel like the relationship is over and the love is gone, don’t waste another minute of your life. End the relationship and start moving on.

Does any of this make breaking up easy? No.

Does it make you a little more prepared for the breakup? Possibly. There is no real way to prepare. Everyone will respond to a break up differently. The only thing you can do is take care of yourself, guard your emotions and do what’s best for you.

I exactly know and understand how you feel. The pain inside of you that makes your chest tight is giving you hard time to breathe. At this moment in time, crying is really a good relief and hey you have the right to soak all you want. You consume all that box of tissue and it’s ok. It will come to the point that the pain is becoming annoying that you want escape or force the pain out of your system. Unfortunately, it is really impossible to do magic!

Face it the relationship is now officially over. Your friends may tell the same things and some phrases like “he/she’s not worth it”, “you’re not meant to be”, “it happened for a reason”. You don’t want to hear them actually, you just want someone to sympathize with you.

But hey, slow down and don’t wallow too much over your loss. It may sound easy for me to say because I am not the one who’s feeling it. Let me tell you I’ve been in your shoe and my way of helping is by telling you the experiences and coping mechanism I did that could be applicable and helpful for you.

Your ex might also be in some quite, dark room thinking and puzzled about the failed relationship so don’t ever contact him/her. You know that the best remedy of broken heartedness is time, space and peace so in order for you to be in this state; try to be at peace with yourself, give time for yourself to heal and give space for you and your ex. How can you do it? It’s not simple but if you have the willingness you can do it.

First advice that worked for me and for my friends who were on the boat as you was to keep yourself busy. If you have not shopped for your clothes lately this is the best time for you. Window shop for anything you want with your heart’s content. If you haven’t gone to clubs for a long time because your relationship limited you, then go on. Just keep yourself busy. Use time to at least survive the first few days of the after shock.

Did you miss your old friends and relatives? They missed you too so give them a call or pay a visit! You’ll be surprised how much detail you’ve missed because you were all busy with your former relationship. Engage yourself in conversation with your friends recent life, news, events – you’ll feel better because you will realize that you’re not alone in the world. Refrain those problematic friends though; they’re not helpful in your healing.

Get to know yourself again, rejuvenate you and attend to your inner child again. Maybe you already gained weight or had so many acnes. You didn’t notice them because you were too occupied about your previous partner.  This is the best time for you to pamper yourself. It is awesome to be single! Many people in relationship or married wished they could go back to being single. It is because being single is like owning your freedom back to you. So rejoice because you have all the freedom in the world.

Take the good side of the break-up. You are lucky it is finished, you know why? Because if you try or force to continue a relationship with so many unresolved issues and differences you’ll be caught miserable. Today you may stand with so many “what if’s” and regrets because you weren’t able to work the difference out but consider yourself lucky to be saved from more future heartaches and misery.

If you think more about you, you’ll think of your ex less. So be selfish at the moment, you’re excused because you are broken hearted. People around you will sympathize too. You are surrounded with love from other sources aside from ex, so be happy it ended.  

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If you’ve decided you want to break up with your boyfriend there’s some things you need to think about. The way you break up with him will determine not only how he feels, but also how you feel, in the end.

If you know that you treated your ex with respect when you broke up with him, it will help you get through your emotional healing process. While you have no control over how he handles the break up, you have complete control over your behavior.

The main thing to remember is that your break up should be done in person, in a private place so that your soon-to-be ex can hear the words from your mouth without embarrassment. Remember the “Golden Rule”.

Take the time to answer any questions he may have and be ready to explain your decision. It’s important not only to know why you want to break up, but also to be able to explain it without getting angry or starting an argument.

After the breakup, you’ll both need time. If you want to be friends, wait until both of you have healed, let go of the relationship and moved on. If you still want to be friends at that time, then you’d both be in a place where it won’t interfere with your current and future relationships.

There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to breaking up with your boyfriend. These tips will work for most relationships. If you’re in a long distance relationship you may not be able to meet in person. You may not be able to control your emotions when you talk to him. Remember all relationships are different, so you need to do what works for you.