Crossing Over or Burning Bridges

A Wise Approach to your Mid-Life Crisis

I believe, when you come to the conclusion that all you need is yourself and a relationship with God or a greater power…that is when the

negativity suddenly falls away.

When you feel less negative, you enter relationships differently and it doesn’t quite matter if you enter in to them at all…

YOU can make YOU happy, along with gratitude for children, home, health and the ability to wake up every morning…

SIMPLICITY of life is the goal.

When you feel this way no one can steal your love or your happiness…

Joy….

PEACE is what rules and you meet the day with an attitude of welcoming whatever happens, instead of a FEAR that the world is out to get you.

Please don’t allow your spouse, partner, your EX…anyone to steal anything more from you!!

I have heard it said by wise folk: “Resentment and negativity harms the vessel more than the one for whom it is poured upon….”

“Forgiveness doesn’t make them right…it makes YOU free!”

Forgive yourself and give yourself permission to Let Go and Let God!

Cross over your life bridges…there is no need to burn them!

When you have come to this place of peace…the only “need” you will have is your relationship with God. It takes everyone else off the hook in relation to you.

But waiting for others to see it this way, still keeps you on the hook with them in THEIR minds….the subtle difference is important.

God loves things this way and celebrates it when you understand… finally!

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This burning might serve several purposes;prevent the enemy from following them into the new place or prevent the men who have themselves crossed the bridge from deserting and running back across the bridge in the face of a fierce attack.It is an order that tells the men involved that they have no options;they must stay and fight for the land they have occupied,and sometimes to the death.This situation can be the same in relationships.

Often,we enter into new relationships and it seems it is the most beautiful thing in the world,the best place to be,yet for some reason,we are unable to burn our bridges completely and give our total commitment to the “new land” we have found.

We do not cut ties with former “soulmates”,aspiring suitors,`close friends’.We save them for a rainy day,for who knows what might lie across the bridge and the bridge is left intact for the day we might need to race across it in retreat.

Sometimes people leave their bridges unscathed without even realizing it,but it is left whole,nonetheless.In this matter,the person who has refused to destroy old bridges is either leaving an escape route (meaning he or she will not fight too hard for the new place) or is subtly permitting all his or her old ties to cross over when those ties finally make up their minds on what they want to do.The bridge that is left intact is in itself a message to whatever or whoever might have existed in the past that a chance still exists for the enemy’s activity.It doesn’t matter whether this is physical betrayal or an emotional one.Sometimes,betrayal is betrayal.

The problem that occurs in the matter of the bridges left intact is that a subliminal message is passed to all those who were once important in the life of the person in question.The message is that there is still room.It is a message that also indicates that your respect for partner is not total and predators;old and new ones will cross the bridge when the time comes,throwing your relationship into disarray.

If you notice the existence of a bridge in the life of your partner(some of them build mighty bridges with suspensions that divide so ships can pass under and then come together again),bring it to his or her attention and make it clear that there is a problem that needs to be resolved.Am not talking about bridges made of straw that cannot bear the weight of a man;the ones in the issue here are those built so firmly by structural engineers that earthquakes cannot shake.Calmly point out the complications,the existence of this bridge might cause in your lives,making it clear that a person who does not let go of the shore will never see new horizons.

If this person refuses to blow up the bridge,you cross that bridge yourself and burn it down behind you so that this disrespectful partner may never be able to cross over again to you.Drastic remedy,you may say?Yes there are no apologies for this recommendation,drastic situations require drastic remedies and the stakes are high-your heart.If true love still says the company of a former partner is where he or she needs to be to find rest,it’s time you do a rethink.Regard yourself with respect you should have and move on.

Someone would ask-’What if I burn my bridges and I find out too late that it is a bad place i am in and there is no way to get out?’

The mark of adulthood is that you pause to reflect before you step into any situation.It’s your life and you cannot hold another responsible for the position in which you find yourself.

Look carefully across the bridge before you cross over,and when you finally decide to walk across it,make up your mind it is coming down.For a relationship to work,there can be no alternatives,no options.