I’ve wanted to write this to you for months now, only because I really don’t think that I could stomach to face you in person.   You know who I am.  I am your texting friend’s wife.   You and my husband have completely turned my world upside down, and I am now living in hell.  I don’t blame you alone…it took the both of you to create this hell for me.  How long were you planning to keep your ”thing” going?  I pride myself on the fact that I wasn’t stupid.  For future reference for yourself, he has put me through this before and I knew I would be dealing with it again.  He’ll do it to you, too.  Do not think for a minute that you are different.   I just hadn’t planned on this happening around our 18th wedding anniversary.  I knew something was going on and yes, I snooped and caught you both red handed.  He didn’t seem to appreciate my snooping and finding out your name, your phone number and your address, but I really don’t care.  Somehow I was the bad guy because I found out.    ”P” continued to lie for you for weeks.  I guess that should make you feel good.   He denied it.  He told me at first it was a friendship, then he described it as an “inappropriate relationship”..kinda sounded like Bill Clinton, when he said it and we all know what he did.   When asked what you talked about…Life, is what he told me.  He said it never worked out for you two to become physical, but you went to lunch once.   I’m not sure that I buy that that was all it was/is.  He claims he hasn’t spoken to you since November 30, 2011.  That was 8 days after I confronted him with your phone number blowing up our phone bill with all the text messages.   8 days.   What happened in those 8 days?  He said he told you that I was uncomfortable with the relationship…me.   I wasn’t uncomfortable with it.  I was way beyond uncomfortable with it, yet he used me to end it with you.  I guess you  two were both ok with shitting on your spouses.  Oh, I’m sure I was made out to be the bitch from hell, which I am not.  I have been extremely patient through his ex-wives, ex-girlfriends, job losses which led to bankruptcy, not to mention his teenage son.  I’ve never complained about money issues, when I was about to pull my hair out,  had migraines from the stress, wondering how we would pay bills.  He never knew and still doesn’t know what it takes to pay bills.  I always handled it, so that he wouldn’t be stressed about it and raise his blood pressure to high heaven.  I took on all the responsibilty and this is my thank you.  (High blood pressure…make a mental note of that.  You’ll need to know how to take care of him down the road, if I decide to leave him.)

A few interesting kinda warped age facts about this relationship…You graduated from high school the year our youngest son was born.  There is as many years difference between you and my husband as there is between you and our oldest son.  Think you might’ve been a mid-life fling to see if he still had it???  Humm…

  The only reason I haven’t contacted you is because I know you have a son, just like I do, and I don’t want my son to know the hell that I’m in right now.  Nor, do I want your son to know what a low life he has for a mother.  They are the innocent victims who didn’t choose to have snakes for parents.  Your husband and I had a choice.   Yes, you are married, as well, yet you didn’t seem to have a problem doing this to your husband.  What does that say about you?  I have his phone number as well as yours, and haven’t contacted him because of the death of his father.  Yes, “W” I know alot about you.  I’ve told “P” that I probably know more about you than he does.  I’ve shown him things that are written about you online and he seemed shocked.  I’m certain there were lots of lies being exchanged between the two of you.  He lied to me …do you honestly think he was telling you the truth about him??  You are both lucky that I’m trying to handle this as gracefully as I can.  I pray alot for me, not the two of you, so much, but for our families who will be caught in the crossfire if you two choose to pursue the relationship you started, and say to hell with everybody else.  Selfish.  That’s what both of you are.  I didn’t ask for this, yet I have to deal with this.  I do not believe in divorce.  I never have, but I don’t believe in being a doormat either.  I have to decide if I want to stay in this marriage, or walk away.   Is it worth breaking up our home to make all the hurt  that you’ve caused go away?  You are a constant thought in my head.  You wrote online that if anyone wants to know anything about you to ask.  I’m convinced I know you “W” and the kind of person you are.   You are a lost person who claims to pray for people online.  Your poor husband doesn’t have a clue what you’ve done to him behind his back.  Do I tell him?  “P” doesn’t want anyone else to get hurt.  I guess it was ok to hurt me since I snooped.  I guess that’s my punishment for knowing exactly what he is and what you are.  

Do I want to know your side of it?  Probably not.  I wouldn’t believe anything you said or any excuse you gave me for continuing this for months.  So actually contacting you probably wouldn’t do me any good.  I just have to decide to give up on my marriage or keep on praying and stay…only to be here again with yet another woman.  Or it might be you again, down the road.  

I do hope that you see this someday.  Remember, I do know your address, email address, cell number, where you work….only the grace of God is keeping me from contacting you to confront the actual demon that is tearing my marriage apart.   In the meantime, I hope you find happiness in your marriage and stay out of mine.   

There is really no conscious control over who we fall in love with. It is not something that we have complete control and power over. There is certain chemistry within our bodies and signals that are given off by our brains. It is something that is subconsciously occurring and out of our control.

So, no matter how many times you read your company handbook and find that you are not supposed to have a relationship with anyone at work, if you are truly attracted to someone that you work with, you are not going to be able to fight that attraction.

So, what do you do if you find that you want to date a co-worker? First of all, you have to make a decision between the two of you. Talk with the co-worker. Chances are they have given off some sort of signal or vibe that has made you take notice of them. This is more than likely a mutual attraction. It is possible to make a relationship with a co-worker work well for both of you. It is also possible in some circumstances to maintain this relationship without reprimand or repercussions. You just have to be smart and sensible about what you are doing.

If you find yourself starting a relationship with a co-worker, the worst thing that you can do is try to hide it. This will have serious consequences in the end when people find out about it, which they always do. Be open and honest. Talk with your boss about what is going on. In most cases, if you go to them and you are completely honest, there are ways that they can make it work for you. However, if you hide the relationship and your boss finds out later, you could find yourself out of a job and in a bad situation.

You should also talk openly with your partner. Make sure that you both understand that your relationship does not affect your work. You cannot play favorites or change the way that you work because of this new relationship. Keep in mind that at work, everything is to remain the same.

If your partner is higher up than you and is required to reprimand you for something that you have done wrong relating to work, they need to be able to do that without bias. If your relationship starts interfering with your work, you need to take a serious look at everything that is involved and find out where you can make changes.

In some cases, one party in a relationship will choose to leave their job. This is often a personal decision and not one that they are forced into by their employer. They do not want to have a relationship with someone that they work with every day. If the relationship is that important to them, they may very well be willing to find a new job to maintain that relationship and make it as good as they possibly can.

Of course, a number of these problems could be worked out quite easily. However, choosing to deal with whatever type of relationship killer requires a lot of careful thought about the value of the relationship to you and whether or not it’s worth the trouble. Sometimes, in spite of all that hard work put into getting there, it would have been a better idea to simply cut off the losses and go on.

No one can literally list down all the possible things that could screw up your true love story. However, we can warn you about the things that are most likely to cause the demise of your coupledom. Here’s our list of the top 7 relationship killers:

 7. Friends and Family

Family and friends make up a huge part of your and your partner’s life. Not gelling in well with the people that share your mate’s life can often push your relationship to breaking point. It is almost impossible to adore everyone that she knows. However, you can maintain ‘friendly’ connections with the people that are closes to her life, such as her best friends and sister. It’s important if you want to keep the relation boat afloat.
Remember the long-winded disagreements about politics with her dad that turned quite serious? Or how you can’t stand being in the same room as her best friend? She’s going to need to choose at some point. No guarantee that she’ll take you side.

6. Too High Levels of Comfort

After couples have been together for a bit, they tend to become too comfortable around the other. Some will become like friends, instead of lovers. Intimacy falters. Routine and lifestyle becomes too boring. That’s when they start to let everything slide. Sex tends to fall of your agenda completely. Before you know it, one of you has become the person that’s stopping the other one from getting into a relationship with someone else.

5. Different Aims and Aspirations

As time passes, couples can start to drift away from each other if they are not careful. This may be because of no communication because of other things like careers taking precedence or it might be a symptom that the relation simply isn’t working out.
If the two of you are chasing different goals, like wanting to place roots where you’re located while your partner chases promotions that involve re-locations, there is clear jeopardy in the future.

4. The Past

People that want to live with their past often find it practically impossible to really move on. If either of you insists on comparing the present relationship to their former ones, the future doesn’t seem too good. While it is a good thing to learn from mistakes of the past, it’s never a good idea to treat them as blue prints for other relations. What you’ve got now is different from all other relationships you’ve previously had. Allow it to freely grow – away from your previous screw-ups.

3. Moving Way Too Fast

A healthy relationship doesn’t need to be egged on. It will progress in a completely natural fashion. While not progressing at a uniform speed all the time, relationships tend to move forward as both become more comfortable in each other’s companionship. It’s an instinctive, unspoken kind of thing. However, some seem to lack the basic instincts. Rushing to make your relation blossom can turn it into something neither of you are ready for… not just yet.

2. Independence/Dependence

Maintaining the correct balance between independence and dependence is quite tricky. Humans tend to feel smothered when they get too much of something. If the couple gets to a point where they’ve got nothing but each other in their lives, it’s time to back off a bit. Otherwise, one may start to feel that they need their space and resent the relationship for robbing them of their freedom.

1. Cheating

Nothing else can kill a relationship better than cheating. It’s the ultimate venom. Most couples will never survive such an ordeal. Initial betrayal felt when you find out your partner’s been cheating on you can leave your bonding dead and cold as stone while those bed sheets are cosy warm still.

Even if, working together as a couple, you manage to work past this bout of cheating, your relationship’s future doesn’t look too bright from here onwards. All that trust and honesty has had its brains blown out. Regardless of how many promises are made, no indiscretions will exist. Each partner naturally expects the other to fall in bed with a third person any day.

Do you know that women enjoy sex even much better than men? This means that every woman want his husband to turn into sex machine. Therefore a man much be strong and know all the important tips to make a woman enjoys in bed.

Actually, your wife is not going to love you when you fail to impress her in bed. If you continue with what you are doing in bed, not impressing your wife, then she will start finding solution to her own problem. Definitely, she will go and look for a man who can really do the job well for her and for that matter; she is going to cheat at your back.

To stop your wife or partner from cheating at your back, then you much know how to treat her well in bed. This is simple work or tips you need to know. Women are not trees; they are very sensitive so you have to do the thing well for them. If you can drive a woman to orgasm every time you sex her, then she will not think of any other man apart from you. This is one antidote to cheating.

Now without wasting time, let me share with your how you are going to drive her crazy in bed.

1)      Before you have sex with your partner, make sure there isn’t any disagreements between you and her. Most men usually fight or treat their partners in some certain ways which always cause violence or disagreement between him and their partners.  At day time, you will see these men insulting or even beating their partners and in the evening they will force these women to have sex with them. If you do this, the woman is not going to experience any orgasm because she may not have a sound mind. Remember, a sound mind is in a sound body so you must always make sure everything is okay between you and your partner before you have sex with her.

2)      Make sure to apologize to her if you have than any wrong thing against your woman. This can be done romantically by singing songs of forgiveness to her. You can also knee before her and massage her as you are rending apologies. You can also write funny letter containing words of forgiveness to her. I don’t think any woman will refuse such apology from her own partner. So make sure to settle any dispute with your partner before you go in for sex.

3)      You must also know some foreplay tips to arouse your woman. If you really want to become a sex master, then you have to learn these foreplay tips on the internet. Every successful sex always starts with a lovely foreplay. Some men can even burn women inside with foreplay.

4)      You must also be a master in French kiss. If you haven’t try French kiss with your partner before, then you must start learning them now because French kiss can really change your sex life. Start “goggling” and learn these French kiss tips. If you practice this with your partner, she will call you “THE KING OF SEX”

5)      One thing which ruins sex is odor. Most men don’t bath or brush their teeth at night and you know there is nobody here on earth who likes bad odor or bad scent. If you have body or mouth odor, you partner will not get closer to your on bed. She will always be getting away from you. And as a result of that, she is not going to feel enjoy the sex. So make sure to bath and brush at night so that everything will go on well.

6)      You must also know different types of sex positions. Some sex positions are specifically for some period or situation. If you find yourself to be tired at a particular night, you must know the sex position that suits your energy level. The sex position you must consider is the “women on top”. So know more about these sex positions and apply them when needed.

7)      You must also eat healthy food and exercise daily so as to be strong always to do the job for your woman.

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Some people are also of the view point that respect should not be made a part of war for any one gender. Men and Women should respect each others equally and it should be expressed at every event. Women expect hearing truth from men. They like men who take active part in the life’s struggle. Vinkas suggested four steps of moral ethics in view of today’s age that can be implemented 1) Take initiative in opening the door for any women 2) Keep standing until a woman takes her seat 3) Whenever you go with a woman for outdoor meal pay the bill 4) While traveling in a public transport, give your seat to a woman.

In the modern age, majority of men do not express moral ethics due to the fear of cheating. Ponam Singh of American College Dubai opines that ethics grow with different cultures and their expression can be seen in crises as well. On 14th April 1914, when Titanic was sinking in the sea, why it was decided taking women and children first in a life boat away from the ship. Reality is that even in severe crises nobody forgets expressing morals.

However, the meanings of ethics have changed with the time now. Now, paying other’s bill, opening door for somebody, giving your seat to anybody and helping any injured person also come under ethics. In societies, where men and women both play their roles in the life’ struggle, pay attention to the mutual respect equally in the society, In Asian countries these values are found comparatively more.

Katty Foster has been associated with the public relation’s field for the last 25 years. She met her husband after 20 years of separation. The attitude of her husband didn’t change during these years. Mrs. Foster says that respect and ethics are such codes of conduct that enables a noble person passing a better life.

Good manners and ethics are correlated in many people with their DNA also. They do not think much before doing any good work. They keep true respect for others in their heart. Katty Foster says that in spite of living away for the long time, we both give respect to each other very much in any dinner party or amusement site.

Foster says, “I am unable to understand why people do not follow code of conduct? Why do you not think any good for a person who sweeps roads or safe your shoes from going dirty?”

Mrs. Foster says, “My husband respects me and when he cares me without limits I start thinking myself as a queen. The expression of respect from man for women is actually a way of giving honor to a woman.”

Sticka Maria works as a therapy practitioner. In her opinion the respect and honor emotions mostly relates to men. For some people, it is also a matter of ego and prestige that they would open door for some women or offer them theirs seat.

Some people never feel shy even after committing a fault while some others ask pardon immediately. Such a person learns much from his faults and stands up at the top level of ethics.

By Muhammad Irfan Zafar

Content Writer

       I know I’ve kept you waiting but you’ve already been waiting your entire life to find out why no matter how hard you try, you can’t stop cheating or no matter how good you look for or how well you treat your men, they can’t stop cheating. Many will try to argue that this truth is not complex enough to be accurate but this three letter word(not SEX) will explain why the cheating never seems to make sense. The word is “NEW”. Men often measure their success and worth by the number of new things they can aquire. They may not verbalize this fact but it is evident in everything they do. At each stage in a man’s life he must obtain new things to show the world that he has reached that next level, from clothing to jewelry, cars to houses. These are the new things that he’s willing to expose to everyone. The one new thing that he may choose to keep to himself or flaunt is aquired for a much deeper need than the approval and acknowledgment of others. It is aquired to affirm worthiness to himself. He needs it to remind him that he is still a man, that he is still the top dog, that he’s still got it(whatever it may be), and just simply that he can. He needs a new woman. He may love the one he’s with and that is most often the case. He may not even care much or anything at all for the woman he chooses to cheat with. He needs to deal with her because she is new. Men also have a hard time staying entertained by the same things that once entertained them very well. You say that’s not true. You can watch a man play the same video game everyday for an entire year and never seem to tire of it. That’s true but realize that a video game has many levels and each time he plays, he’s trying to get to the next level and aquire new tricks, awards, badges and tools. Once he has achieved everything he can with that game or done enough to call himself a good player, he will not be interested in it anymore. He will be looking for the next version or the later edition. He my even switch to an entirely different type of game altogether. That’s not to say he won’t ever play that old game again. Of course he will, he’s good at it.

        The desire for new is so strong that a man will risk everything he has, loves and cherishes to have new. New doesn’t even have to be something he likes, respects or knows anything about. That is why we ask, “What is it that she has that I don’t?”, “Why would he be with someone like that? “, “What was he thinking?’. The answer to all of those questions and the ones like tham are…….because it’s NEW.  By the way. if a man cheats with his ex, he still oves her and you are the new.

Firstly, he may not have admitted to it because he didn’t think that you would ever find out. In some ways this almost makes sense – if you don’t need to be hurt, he is not going to. Unfortunately you obviously did find out which means that his plan didn’t go quite as he expected but at the same time, he was trying to spare your feelings!

The second reason why he may not admit that he betrayed you is because the “other woman” didn’t mean anything. What is the point in destroying a completely happy relationship for the sake of a drunken mistake? Sometimes these things happen and although they are not to be proud of, no hurt was intended.

The last reason that we are going to look at is that it actually gives the girlfriend or wife the upper hand and let’s face it; no man wants that! Every fight that you ever had would be finished with the “you cheated” card and it would be used in every occasion that she didn’t get her own way.

At the end of the day, as much as you want to hate him for what he did to you, the reason he never told was to keep your heart from breaking. If he really wanted to be that much of a (insert whichever word here) he would have just told you, right?

For the guys out there, you must have heard the phrase – “Hell hath no fury than a woman scorned” and never is this truer the case than with our modern feisty women that we love to hate and hate to love! Just remember that she knows things about you that you might not want released to the general public such as those photos of you wearing makeup as a laugh or the weird sound you make in the bedroom! Girls can be nasty, fickle creatures and if you are going to cross them, you better be prepared!

Of course, guys can be fickle creatures as well but generally they will be less nasty than their female counterparts. A guy that has been cheated on will more likely want to save face among his friends and therefore do his crying in public and his back biting about you in the pub with all of the lads about him. Of course, if you were silly enough to let him take photos of you in compromising positions, you maybe should ask for them back or at least delete them from his phone or laptop if you get the chance otherwise you could find yourself posted on a million and one websites for everyone to see!

The best thing is, of course, not to cheat on your partner but if you are going to make the decision to jump into bed with someone else, at least make sure that your other half won’t find out and if they do, that they don’t have any dirt to dish on you!

If you have already done the deed, felt bad about it but were sensible enough to make sure that your other half could never find out about your bad behavior, you really have nothing to worry about. What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her right? Just think about what would happen if you did tell her – she could break up with you and you don’t want that. She could make your life hell for a long time and you certainly don’t want that. OK, honesty is the best policy but is it really the best policy right now?

Not telling your other half about the bad behavior that you displayed doesn’t mean that you can do it again and again. In fact, if anything, it should persuade you to travel in the completely opposite direction; learn from your mistake, brush it under the carpet and prey that it never comes up and get on with your life and your relationship!